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BabySmiles31
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This is going to be way harder than it needs to be!
BabySmiles31
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My husband and I have started talking about names already, and it's a good thing too! We will have a very hard time agreeing on anything. If I love a name, he thinks it sounds too much like another name, OR he knew a person with that name and didn't like them, OR whatever his reason might be. I, unfortunately, have the exact same responses to the names he picks. Most of his I actually just really don't like. Any advice on being more open about a name? We want strong names that are unique but not overly weird, and that will be good for a baby and grown adult. Thanks for your advice ladies!
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Re: This is going to be way harder than it needs to be!
My way takes time, but it worked for H and I.
I went to a baby naming site. I went through every letter of the alphabet looking at all the names listed for boys and girls. I wrote down all the names that I liked just on impulse.
From there I made my top 5 choices of FN +MN. I gave the big list to my H and had him pick his top 5 names. We compared and went from there.
Our LO's name actually was one we had talked about before that list, but since we didn't name him till he was born the list helped us keep our options open and we can use again for #2.
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The way we began discussing names was by printing off a list of the SSA top 500 names. I printed off two copies, and we each had a list and a highlighter. I went through and highlighted every single name I thought I could live with. My DF did the same. Then we compared.
It was a lot easier then waiting for names to pop into our head that we liked. We never used another source to find names, and after we narrowed our favorites down, I asked for opinions on this board. It made it much easier to get to the final 4 (two per gender, will decide after birth).
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
Like another PP, I'm a huge name nerd. I'm a very language-oriented person, so I'm picky about the letter a name starts and ends with, how it flows, syllables, etc. Needless to say, I had several parameters. Luckily DH and I have a similar style; we wanted a "normal" name on the traditional side that isn't TOO popular, and definitely not trendy. I made a list and DH highlighted what he liked, and we narrowed it down from there.
When people ask questions like this on this board, it seems like a common recommendation is for you and DH to each make a list (either from a website or a baby book) or highlight names in a book or whatever. Then you can veto what you don't like from the other one's list, and hopefully you are left with a few you can agree on!
I also think it's fine to not make a thing of it for a while - just play around with names you think of or come across - it's a big decision, and if it's made into an issue or a chore, it won't be as much fun.
Good luck! We haven't even started with that yet - I think we will also struggle to agree - we even have very different ideas of names: I have an unusual name, but love it, and DH has a very common name and loves it - so we both want what we have!