Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Anyone else get a negative reaction to their pregnancy?
I am so sorry that happened to you. I haven't even told my family members yet. I am assuming I will get a similar reaction from my FIL and SMIL, given their history of unsupportive comments. For instance, when we got engaged, my FIL told my husband "that's a mature decision." So I am sure we will get some comments from him about how we should have travelled more, or babies are expensive, or something along those lines. At first, I get really mad when I think about my FIL but then I start to think, it's really his loss. It's your IL's loss if they don't want to be excited/happy.
Exactly!!!
...and he can forget ever being able to watch my baby alone!!! FORGET HIM! he isn't happy, then he can't babysit!
JACKWAGON!
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I really sympathize with that, it is so dissapointing. My husband and I just returned from a vacation in Florida, where we visited with his father. This was the first time we saw him since we told him the news, and I asked "So how do you feel about being a Grandpa?" This being his first grandchild I thought I was going to get a postive answer, and the reply was "Well, we'll see in November". That's it...could not believe it! Yes for me too I am very excited to share the news with the rest of my family on Easter, and know it will be very positive...I guess that's all we can do is focus on those responses, and hopefully the others warm up when they actually see these babies!!
Aww. I'm sorry
. I can relate. This is my second, and my sister has had negative reactions both times. Last time, she didn't talk to me for my entire pregnancy. My stepfather also had a horrible reaction this time. Not really surprising considering he basically ignores the fact that my daughter exists. Just remember that you can't control other people, but you can control how you react. If they want to be immature, it's their loss.
As shocked as you may be when you hear things like this, I instantly try and turn it around on them to put them on the spot and see if they realize how they sound.
Id be ?ber blunt, have you asked them why they don't seem happy about it? Or what they meant my their comments?
Stay strong momma, I'm sorry. That sucks, but I'm glad your family will be happy for you
DON'T let them bring you down... No one should EVER make you feel bad for being pregnant.
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We wont be telling until late May. But I know every one will be excited it's how our families are.
As for your ILs how rude of them. Hopefully they will come around.
First off, I'm so sorry that you got such a bad reaction.
My in laws reacted very negatively to my first pregnancy. When we told them, my husband was so excited he was crying and they were "How did this happen?" "Didn't you use protection?" and so on and so forth. Their bad reaction really, really hurt. We are also two educated people, we both had jobs at the time, and we both knew we wanted kids. Apparently what was going "against us" was that we had only been married 9 months. Needless to say, right now, I have a very happy, very spoiled son who literally is spoiled rotten from both sides of the family.
I understand now why they reacted the way they did. My sister in law had a late term loss and after that, they both had a very hard time getting excited over any pregnancy. When my SIL lost the baby, it really devastated them.
This pregnancy...well, I have gotten a variety of reactions. Until the other day, the first person to congratulate me was my doctor. The reaction I was getting up until the other day was blank stares and speechlessness. Lately, the reactions have been happier and less like "WTF DID YOU DO!?"
BTW: My in laws reacted much better this time and are beyond excited.
Can I just point that merely being married, having a college degree, and a job does not mean you are ready for a baby. I mean, 3 years ago I was married with a job and a college degree but I hardly fit to take care of myself not another life. That is pretty stupid reasoning IMHO.
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