Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: anybody not wait a year after c-section to get pregnant?
My OB said it was totally fine to get pregnant as soon as we wanted. However - OBs make different recommendations for different patients, so if I were you I'd want to know more about why he/she recommends a year. Is that just the standard advice they give, or was there a specific reason why?
Anyway, I got pregnant with #2 when #1 was just under 8 months old. My RCS was 16.5 months after my first one, and it was easy and uneventful.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
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We had a surprise 10 months after my C-section. I was offered a VBAC however I am not comfortable with that option.
This pregnancy has actually been much less complicated and much "healthier" than my first!
nope my daughter was 9 months.
My dr. makes his patients wait one year if they want to try and vbac, otherwise he oks at 3 months pp. after csection.
Yes there are some risks involved but it only goes up a tiny bit. You might want to discuss all of it with your dr.
I got pregnant with DS when DD was 6 months, they are 14 months apart.
I got pregnant with 5th pregnancy when DS was 7 months, but miscarried.
I got pregnant with this pregnancy when DS was 11 months, and they will be 20 months apart.
I had 2 c/s and will have a 3rd in August.
All of my kids have been/will be born via scheduled c/s. I got pg with DD2 when DD1 was 5 1/2 months old, and all was well. I got pg with DD3 when DD2 was 9 months old, and all is well so far.
I get occasional soreness or itching around my scar, but it's not that severe and obviously didn't deter me from getting pg again. (I had the same thing even during my first pregnancy, since I had the same scar as from a c/s due to previous female surgery.)
My OB has no problem with my pregnancies being close together. Even if you want to do a VBAC, the risk of uterine rupture doesn't increase that significantly whether you get pg a few months or a few years after a c/s.
BFP #2 10/29/08 ...stillborn via c/s @41w 7/20/09
missing my baby everyday
BFP #3 1/20/10 My angel's little sister Grace Madison was born September 8th 2010 @37w. We're so blessed! Thank you angel for getting her here safely.
BFP #4 12/30/11. Jackson Christopher 8/22/2012 via repeat c/s @ 37w 3d
My OB gave the go ahead at my 6 week pp check. She knew we had TTTC with the first and did not want to wait. She said there is not significant evidence that waiting a year to TTC is necessary.
I ended up shockingly being able to get pg at around 12 weeks pp. This pg has been MUCH harder, but there's a big difference between 12 weeks and 6+ months.
We got pg at 4 months pp. It took 5 years and IVF to get DD2 so this was a shocker for us.
I'm not exactly sure how long my OB usually suggests. I asked if anything would be different with births so close together and all I was told is I may have some more pain from stretching around my incision but nothing so far.
At my 6 week checkup my OB gave me the green light to ttc. Even with deliveries 12.5 months apart he encouraged a VBAC, even though I didn't end up going that route. The reason why close births are discouraged is because of an increased risk of uterine rupture, but since that's such a rare complication that happens in less than 1% of deliveries the overall risk is very low. We didn't feel that was a convincing enough argument to wait a year so we planned on getting pg much earlier than that since that spacing was most ideal for us for financial/personal reasons.
My 2nd pregnacy was a breeze. I think having an infant that still napped 3-4 times a day helped immensely because I was able to get a lot of rest.
I agree that it's best to ask if that's the standard advice they give everyone or because of something in your health history/delivery that your OB thinks you need the full year for your body to recoup.
GL!
I will shortly be having my 8th c-section. Kids number 3-6 are all a year apart and the others are 18 months. The baby I just had was 4 months old when I learned I was pregnant with the next one-apparently I have a very timely body! I never had a cycle-just new to take a test once I started craving egg rolls! I did always wait until 6 week check up to do anything-and I never felt like doing anything!!!
I say go for it!!
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My doc recommended waiting a year to get pregnant but surprise! Here we are anyway, as I got pregnant 5 months after having DS. I healed well and quickly and none of the doctors in my practice are worried about any complications from getting pregnant again so quickly.
Good luck!
My doctor did not talk to me about this... and I am now 6 months pregnant with #2 and my DD is almost 9 months old. Everything is going smoothly. I am not a candidate for a VBAC, but if I were, my doctor would be okay with it.