Can I be a "Judgy McJudgerson"?

shaindelr · March 2012

Okay, so I really, really try not to judge, but I have to share this somewhere. I'm just back from my "well-woman" visit and back at the office, so I figure I'll share this with you ladies.

When I was heading in to the OB-GYN's building a young woman was smoking outside and sort of "barking" orders at her little 4-ish year-old girl while she played outside the building. The little girl was all chatty, "Hi! This is my baby doll!" etc. So I just said, "Oh, what a nice baby you have," and the little girl started to follow me in. I didn't really want to engage her mother by saying, "Go back to your Mommy," so I sort of just made sure I closed the door before she followed me in, while the mom is yelling, "Rachel! You get back here!"

So, a few minutes later, the mom comes in and she's PREGNANT. She had a bookbag with her with What To Expect When You're Expecting in it.

So, she cares enough to read WTEWYE, but she's *smoking* right outside the OB's office? I know that smoking is hard to quit, etc., but even if I were smoking during a pregnancy, I don't think I'd be doing it right outside of the OB's office before my appointment.

Sorry if this was bitchy. Back to work for me.

BuffaloMomToBe · March 2012

Scout2005:
I 100% judge pregnant women who smoke.

THIS.THIS.THIS.

shaindelr · March 2012

To me, it was the whole crazy combo pack of keeping her child out in the cold so she could smoke, smoking rather than following the kid, yelling, etc.... The zinger was her reading WTE. Why bother to read a gigantor pregnancy book if you're smoking? Still puzzled.

ucfsteph12262003 · March 2012

I'm okay with judging that. Just plain ignorant.

mrambo3 · March 2012

I had an old co-worker that couldn't give up smoking and told her OBGYN that and he said she had to quit at 20 weeks. So from the time she got pregnant til she was 20 weeks along, she smoked. It sickened me!! I think the doctor monitored her and everything while she smoked though bc it was one of those "even if you tell me no, i'm still gonna smoke" situations.

SoundersChick · March 2012

Scout2005:
I 100% judge pregnant women who smoke.

This!

Kimberly92405 · March 2012

One word: Selfish.

daisy889 · March 2012

I would judge, however how pregnant was she? I smoked until i was 2.5 months pregnant because i didnt find out until then. Irregular periods etc etc.. Flame if you must but i quit the week i found out.

ITGurl0626 · March 2012

daisy889:
I would judge, however how pregnant was she? I smoked until i was 2.5 months pregnant because i didnt find out until then. Irregular periods etc etc.. Flame if you must but i quit the week i found out.

In your case, I wouldn't judge since you didn't know. Kudos for quitting that same week!

BuffaloMomToBe · March 2012

Oh man, the parents smoking in their car with children in the back makes my blood boil. My mother used to do that and I used to hate it so much. It's so sad to me when they do that. I used to be a smoker, about four years back, my husband and I quit cold turkey when the prices started to sky rocket. I know how tough it can be to quit but it's the right thing to do, ESPECIALLY when you are pregnant or have children.

shaindelr · March 2012

daisy889:
I would judge, however how pregnant was she? I smoked until i was 2.5 months pregnant because i didnt find out until then. Irregular periods etc etc.. Flame if you must but i quit the week i found out.

Definitely pregnant enough that you could tell... Four months? Five months? I don't know. I'm so short, I looked like an exploding hippo when I was pregnant, so I'm not good at telling how pregnant taller women are.

algalphys · March 2012

Our province passed a law making it illegal for parents to smoke in cars with their children and kudos to Daisy for quiting cold turkey when you found out! I have a lot of smokers in my family that have never quit for any good reason...like having 2/3 of a lung removed!!

p1nklemonade · March 2012

i judge parents who smoke, period. we have a friend who smoked while pregnant, and it was sickening.

madamsmurfette · March 2012

I would judge, too.... and harshly. And I'm an ex-smoker who loved every cigarette I ever smoked.

MissLadyTay · March 2012

You are totally allowed to judge this. If you are so trashy and weak that you would rather smoke than do the best you can for your child, you should use birth control every time you have sex.