When to tell everyone?

Mrs.RockyM · March 2012

I'm kind of debating when to tell everyone. Our immediate family knows, and I wanted to wait to tell extended family and close friends till after we get all the results of our 1st trimester screening, but I'm not sure when to tell everyone else and then when to tell work. I'm just sitting on eggshells here and I'm really freaked out and scared that if I tell everyone I'll jinx it!

Any suggestions? When did you tell everyone?

moosegal · March 2012

So far we've told our parents, siblings, and a small handful of very close friends. If something goes wrong, I'd need their support. I think we'll probably wait until 13 or 14 weeks to tell our other friends and extended family. I am the same as you -- I know it's irrational, but I don't want to jinx anything!

amberleeb · March 2012

I told close family at 8 weeks and then everyone else at 13 weeks once we were in the 2nd tri.

kelnyc · March 2012

We told everyone (other than the parents, siblings and closest friends who knew we were doing IVF) on Valentine's Day, which was about 13 weeks. My job has actually also known since day 1 because they worked out a flexible schedule for me to go to all of my appointments. We're only a group of 6 though, so it's not like it was "public".

amandaleigh1 · March 2012

For many reasons, I did not tell my work until I was at 20 weeks. I began telling friends after I got my screening results back. My close family and friends knew about it from the time of my first beta.

pb_bride · March 2012

If I had my way, no one would know (except DH, of course) until after 1st tri screen. However, b/c I developed OHSS after IVF and had to cancel a trip at last minute, I had to tell my in-laws and my parents the real reason behind it.

Having said that, all they know is that I'm pg, but they have no idea of how far along I am or EDD. I won't give them any update until after 1st tri screen comes back - which I guess will be around wk13-14? Well, in that case, I might as well wait until Mother's Day to tell them, I'll be in wk15 by then.

As for friends, they won't know until our families know. Close friends (& friends we socialize with) probably will be told then. Other friends who live far away whom I don't keep in touch often, probably will be told when I'm even farther along.

FWIW, I'm probably the only person here who doesn't have a FB account. DH has one but he only checks it once a month at most. So, to tell people, we'll have to either email or call them individually.

sbrowns08 · March 2012

My Mom is seriously bugging me to be able to tell her friends and family!

I think we will call my Grandparents tonight since we had a good u/s today. I plan on telling my yboss next week and then letting the word leak out from there. I don't plan on a big facebook announcement or anything else.

vanessagorc · March 2012

We've told our parents, and just the few people who knew we did the fet.

I pretty much won't "tell" people. They will see me, and I'll have a bump at some point. I'm just not one for announcing anything. It's nms.

But u have to do what u feel good about.

U know who does know, our realtor...bc we have to move lol.

Trish11278 · March 2012

I have been very open about our IF struggles with my family and friends. So they have known for a little while that I am pg because they knew when I got my IUI. I am glad they know because when I mc before I needed all of their support and I know they will be there for me again if God forbid something happened this time.

naybird · March 2012

We told a very small handful of ppl after our BFP. We told the remainder of our family and friends after getting great results from the NT scan and 1st Tri bloodwork.

amaksym05 · March 2012

All the people that "matter" knew since day one because they knew about our IVF. My extended family we plan on telling around 14 weeks since we have a family party where most of the family will be.

missjul61 · March 2012

We told our parents at 8 weeks, close friends at 12 weeks and everyone else when they started inquirying about my growing belly.

ohiostategal · March 2012

With DS, besides our parents and a very small handful of friends, we didn't tell people until about 14 weeks. Personally I could have waited a lot longer and kind of freaked out when we told everyone, but DH was really ready as were our parents! I was really scared that telling everyone would jinx it, which is silly I know, but it is how I felt and I will probably feel the same this time around.

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