R u freaking kidding me?

sunandsand · March 2012

My kids go to a babysitter one day a week (Thurs). Friday I posted a pic online of a splotchy red rash on half my sons face, and a 99.7 low grade temp. I wanted to see if anyone had seen/ heard of anything like it. The next day both symptoms were gone so I wasn't concerned. Today, 5 days later, my sitter texts me that she is concerned about my sons mystery rash and doesn't want to take the kids tomorrow. I assured her He was fine, fever free, and that her kids had already been exposed the week before. She still doesn't want to take them. And she had the nerve to remind me that per her contract, she should still get paid. If my kids were sick, I wouldn't hesitate to keep them and would have no problem paying her. But they're not and she's choosing to take the day off. I'm not sure she gets that I just came back from mat. leave 2 mo ago, I have no PTO, and that call ins at my job can lead to no raise, write ups, and even being fired. I would obviously like to save my call ins for true emergencies and this is not. I'm so upset!

SpiderSpray · March 2012

If he is completely symptom-free, then I think it's time to find a new sitter. She isn't just being a pain, she is in violation of her contract with you (she's choosing not to watch your kids for no valid reason whatsoever.)

If he still has some symptoms though, maybe a trip to your pediatrician would help ease her mind and get you back to work faster?

angiepangie · March 2012

I would be upset too. School policy where I am is "fever free for 24 hours".... Is there anything in the contract stating the length of time you have to wait to send your DS after being sick?

Sorry you have to deal with that!

sparklenshine_89 · March 2012

cjcouple:
i would tell her she has option to either a take then since they are not sick and be paid or take day off and not be paid. let you know what she wants to do. then find new child care

I agree with this.

Zenya · March 2012

sparklenshine_89:
cjcouple:
i would tell her she has option to either a take then since they are not sick and be paid or take day off and not be paid. let you know what she wants to do. then find new child care
I agree with this.

100%!

EastCoastBride · March 2012

cjcouple:
i would tell her she has option to either a take then since they are not sick and be paid or take day off and not be paid. let you know what she wants to do. then find new child care

I totally agree. It's been a WEEK and she's pulling this? And I might recommend trying to find care from someone who doesn't have their own kids.

jlw2505 · March 2012

SpiderSpray:
If he is completely symptom-free, then I think it's time to find a new sitter. She isn't just being a pain, she is in violation of her contract with you (she's choosing not to watch your kids for no valid reason whatsoever.)
If he still has some symptoms though, maybe a trip to your pediatrician would help ease her mind and get you back to work faster?

This plus unfriend her on FB - she is not your friend, she is your childs sitter - do you really want her knowing everything you post or just only let her see certain things. Being friends with people you work with, you hire, etc is not always the best thing to do. I would also make sure you have a sick policy in writting and if she is not following it - call her on it.

tammyz25 · March 2012

cjcouple:
i would tell her she has option to either a take then since they are not sick and be paid or take day off and not be paid. let you know what she wants to do. then find new child care

this...

MaxandRuby · March 2012

Can you try and get a doctor's note for her?

Otherwise I agree with the previous poster and I would be giving her two options with the explanation that your son is not sick nor had the rash since the day it occurred/5 days, etc. Her options are she watches your kids and get paid or she does not watch your kids and does not get paid.

Either way, I'm pretty sure I'd start looking for a new provider. Once she starts stuff like this there is no telling what other stuff she may try to pull.

AggieCouple · March 2012

sparklenshine_89:
cjcouple:
i would tell her she has option to either a take then since they are not sick and be paid or take day off and not be paid. let you know what she wants to do. then find new child care
I agree with this.

I would agree with this, but honestly, after such a confrontation, I would no longer feel comfortable leaving my child(ren) in her care.

Bride2b2004 · March 2012

AggieCouple:
sparklenshine_89:
cjcouple:
i would tell her she has option to either a take then since they are not sick and be paid or take day off and not be paid. let you know what she wants to do. then find new child care
I agree with this.
I would agree with this, but honestly, after such a confrontation, I would no longer feel comfortable leaving my child(ren) in her care.

Ditto. DH and I frequently talk about how we WISH we would have let our nanny go and found a new one years ago when she started pulling crap like that with us. We kept her for 2 years, but we should have let her go after the first year. At the time we felt the transition would have been rough for DS (we were happy on her good days), anxious about someone new, and anxious about how a transition might affect work... but looking back we totally SHOULD have made a change. Find someone new, ridiculousness like this only adds stress to your life that need not be there.

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