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Oh I'm totally judging...re: kids bedtime
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DH and I just left a concert, it's 10:30, and on the way to the car we walked by 2 people with kids in STROLLERS!!
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Re: Oh I'm totally judging...re: kids bedtime
Eh, I don't think 10:30 is too late for a once-in-a-while thing like a concert. DD's normal bedtime is 9:30 (and she wakes up at 9:30am) so we would keep her out until 10:30 or 11:00 for a special occasion. Actually, at Disneyland we kept her out until 10 several nights in a row.
What concert was it?
And, I was TOTALLY judging the parents that had toddlers out on Black Friday at 1am. That is just crazy to me.
When DD was a baby, we would often walk the waterfront here in Portland and watch the sunset, she would fall asleep in her stroller, and DH and I would roll the stroller up to a nice restaurant that had a patio overlooking the river and drink a glass of wine and just relax together. She slept the whole time. We didn't feel like we needed to get a sitter when she was a good sleeper anyway, and we could prolong our night a little bit. I love those memories, that was such a nice summer getting used to our new family.
So, maybe the kiddo was sleeping?
But, I've also gotten a comment from a stranger "why would you bring a baby to a basketball game" LOL, so...maybe I'm the strange one. Ha,
Disney on Ice got out at 9:30pm, and it was packed with kids.
We have taken DD to see John Mayer several times at outside venues and the shows didn't get out until 11pm ish. We definetly didn't put headphones on her for that, lol.
Not being snarky at all, but how can you really enjoy a concert when you're dealing with a young child? I am picturing the outdoor venues here and I can't imagine where you would park a stroller. So then do you hold your DD in your lap?
I guess I must be one of those people that doesn't believe in taking your kids everywhere. If I paid well over $100 for concert tickets, I'm getting a sitter!
We get "lawn" tickets and bring a blanket and sit on the grass. It's awesome and very family friendly, and there's a ton of little kids there. We don't bring a stroller, just the Ergo and a small diaper bag and a blanket.
And for the record, I also don't believe in taking my kids everywhere, lol...absolutely not. We get sitters frequently and have no problem leaving the kiddo at home. However, we do like to bring her to things that are family-friendly like outdoor concerts at parks, etc.
Do you still take her now? How does she do? I feel like my child is the only one on the bump that can't sit still and quietly through restaurant meals, etc. DS would want to run around the whole time (at an outdoor concert) and totally melt down at 6pm (bedtime).
ETA: I thought your DD was around 2-2.5, DS's age. But now for some reason I"m thinking she's 4?
And, I was TOTALLY judging the parents that had toddlers out on Black Friday at 1am. That is just crazy to me.
A friend of mine took her 4 year old and 5 month old out on Black Friday. Not a great idea.
my ds was 3 months on black friday 2010 and we(me& my mom) took him with us. he slept the whole time in his carseat and when he did wake up to eat i just took him out and fed him. Now last year my dh kept him for me.
Now that is crazy!
Maybe they were on vacation and couldn't get a sitter? Maybe their kids are used to being up late?
Considering you don't know squat about their situation, you sound like a peach. What do you care if someone else has their kids out late? You don't have to deal with them.
Ditto this. And I'd probably get the side eye as well since DD's normal bedtime is 9:30/10:00. Not everyone has to have the same routine!
When DD was 8 weeks old, we had friends come to visit from out of state, just for one night. We went out to dinner with them, DD and their boys (who were probably 1 and 3 or so at the time) at a normal dinner time. At about 9 we were still in the restaurant, over drinks. It was quiet - one kiddo was snoozing on his dad and the other was happy. DD was asleep in her car seat.
One woman actually came up to the table and told us to "Get those kids home! It's too late for them to be out!"
We just smiled and told her we were fine, thanks.
I don't know why everyone presumes to know what is best for others, but it's annoying. My 5 year old could easily be out and about until 11 and sleep fine and be fine the next day. My 13 month old couldn't, and we know that. But he could handle 9:30 or so.
I envy all of you who can be flexible with your kids' schedules. We kept DD up past 10 pm a few nights over Thanksgiving week, and we paid for it for more than two months. I like to have her sleeping by 8:30 so DH and I can relax, you know?
The only time I judged keeping a kid up was when friends attended our Christmas party with their clearly sick two year old. They didn't leave until 11:30 p.m. DD was asleep, so it wasn't like she was going to catch the cold, but the poor girl was so miserable. We gently suggested they leave a few times, but didn't know what else to do because we had other guests to take care of.
You totally would have judged us with our kids on the subway at 1:30 in the morning Friday. We went down to have dinner with friends and the girls crashed on their couch, so we stayed there drinking wine and chatting then put the girls in the stroller to head home. Normally they're in bed by 7:30-8, but I have no problem keeping them out once in a while and they do fine with it.
On vacation or a nice spring/summer evening we'll break routine and not think twice about it. School nights I'm strict but otherwise we happily live. If the kids are tired and unmanageable we don't do it, but if we're all having fun I see no reason they need to be in bed early.
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My son is the same way and always has been. Every time we keep him up late it's a total disaster. It also causes him to wake up very early and very cranky the next morning. Because of that, I only keep him up late for family events. Anything else, I get a sitter because its just not worth it.
Sorry I got caught up with my Tivo last night!!
DD will be 3 on April 5th. She's very well behaved and does well at restaurants, movie theaters, etc. I think this is because we've always brought her along to "adult" things and she never had the option to run around and act crazy.
I realize I sound like a broken record and come across as snarky/bitchy. I just do not understand why people get up in arms about people having kids out at night.
I've taken my daughter to a number of concerts that lasted until 10, some later. I saw kids at the U2 concert in July and after taking the train back to the city, we weren't back in our hotel until 2am! We didn't take DD, but we would have had it not been a "romantic" couples trip.
ITA - Until DH switched to days when DD was 18 months old, DD's bedtime was like 1 AM. DH worked from 1PM-11PM at his job, and when he got home, he would spend a little time with us as a family, and then he would help me get her to bed. She would NOT sleep without him home. People would side-eye us when we would go grocery shopping at midnight with a baby, but it was our schedule, plus the store was deserted, so we got done a ton quicker. We didn't wake until 10-noon, depending on what time she went to bed.
Now, it would be impossible since she is in school, but our kids are still occasionally up till 11 on days we don't have anything going on the next day.
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I think the title of your post is what comes across snarky.
DS goes to bed around 930 everynight, but we are out with him at 1030 or later pretty often. To late dinners, drinks at a friends. We bring him nearly everywhere and he does really well. I wouldn't judge somebody just because they parent a little differently.
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This has been a very interesting topic. Well for me, my kids bedtime is before 9, the latest that they have is at around 10. I just hope that as parents, we always check out on the welfare of your kids on this one. And oh, if you have some good toddler bed in between that, then their bed time would have been good and sweet.