Hosting wording

Accetta155 · March 2012

Two of my girlfriends and I are hosting a shower for a good friend. There is a pretty large guest list and finances are tight so her husband has offered to chip in and help with the cost. We have been debating on whether or not to include his name in the 'given with love by'. Since he is making a considerable contribution I feel we'd be remiss in not mentioning it. Other side of the coin is that it appears that my gf is hosting her own shower since his money is her money. What are ur thoughts?

dojo1 · March 2012

No bueno. See posts below for a trillion posts about hosting your own shower (contribution from ftb counts) and why many feel strongly about the reasons behind this etiquette tradition that thankfully has not yet been lost.

EastCoastBride · March 2012

Don't list his name. It makes no sense. A shower is to help a new mom (realtically, both parents) get set up for a baby. For the dad to pay for the shower, there is a component of "then why have the shower?" - why not use that $$ for baby stuff instead?

And yes, it appears as if "they" (the couple) are throwing their own shower.

dufferoo · March 2012

Helping out with money is different than hosting an event. No need to include his name. It's like, you wouldn't include your employer's name even if you were using your yearly bonus to fund the shower. That might be a stupid analogy, but still, her husband's not hosting so don't put his name down.

Liz4444 · March 2012

EastCoastBride:
Don't list his name. It makes no sense. A shower is to help a new mom (realtically, both parents) get set up for a baby. For the dad to pay for the shower, there is a component of "then why have the shower?" - why not use that $$ for baby stuff instead?

And yes, it appears as if "they" (the couple) are throwing their own shower.

Yup