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last minute baby shower at 35+ weeks?

pregmamapregmama
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Well, I got a very sweet offer from a mom friend (who I am not really very close to) but she offered to throw me a baby shower if I had not already had one. I haven't. But at this point, not sure what to say...

1. I am pretty far along now, and huge, and some days.. pretty uncomfortable.

2. I also have bought everything on my own that I need. (I already have maxed out on baby clothes!)

3. Not sure how many "ladies" I could get to come last minute. Most of my "friends" are part of couples that DH and I associate with together. And this would not be a co-ed shower, so it would probably end up being less than 10 of us. 

4.I am not registered or anything...and it would feel strange to me to ask for specific gifts last minute. 

I do think it is really sweet that she would like to "celebrate" but given these points.... not too sure if it is a practical decision. What direction would you go? My DH said I should accept and that I am being anti-social and rude to decline. I feel I should thank her but say something like, "Thank you, but I think at this point in my pregnancy I should just be resting. We may have a Welcome Baby party... and if so, I will make sure you are at the top of the invite list!"

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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    It is thoughtful of her to offer, but given this late stage of your pregnancy, and the fact that this is your second child, I'd say a shower is out.  Perhaps she could host a casual no-gifts coffee & danish type of thing?
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  • CraftyKaylaCraftyKayla member
    Maybe tell her you'd rather have a meet the baby party after the baby is born!
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  • pregmamapregmama
    While I agree with both of the PP, I did want to point out that my DD was born over a decade ago, and I did not have a shower for her. Of course I did not save anything. I have heard that it is very appropriate to have a shower if it has been such a long interim between children. Just wondering about that now that you mentioned it... ????
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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie member

    imageRoxyLynn:
    It is thoughtful of her to offer, but given this late stage of your pregnancy, and the fact that this is your second child, I'd say a shower is out.  Perhaps she could host a casual no-gifts coffee & danish type of thing?

    I like this idea.  You've already said you don't need anything, I think (especially for baby #2) a meet and greet after the baby is born would be much better, and more comfortable for you!  She made you a very sweet offer, ask her for her help in planning the meet and greet.

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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member

    imagepregmama:
    I have heard that it is very appropriate to have a shower if it has been such a long interim between children. Just wondering about that now that you mentioned it... ????

    Showers are for first-time Moms, whether the babies are born 2 years or 15 years apart.  It welcomes a woman to motherhood.  But in this case it appears to be a moot point since you're so far along in your pregnancy and the other reasons you noted above.

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    imageCraftyKayla:
    Maybe tell her you'd rather have a meet the baby party after the baby is born!

    I agree with this and also the pp that said maybe ask if she will help organize a "welcome baby party".  If people bring gifts it is usually diapers/wipes and maybe some clothes.  That way you control who to invite and you can make it co-ed.

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