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When do you tell your parents, in-laws, siblings, and friends

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Re: When do you tell your parents, in-laws, siblings, and friends

  • moonrose2715moonrose2715 member

    When you decide you are ready! =)

    My rule of thumb is tell the people you would share a miscarriage with.  If (god forbid) something happened, it is good to have your support system in the know already.  For some people, that is only their partners.  For others it is their whole community.  So think about if the worst happened, who would you want to call?  Then, go share your happy news with those people! =)

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  • rkmmorerkmmore member
    agree with previous posters when you are comfortable telling and people you would want to know good or bad

    we told everyone with my ds at 5 weeks
    with my m/c we told everyone at 11 weeks only to have to un tell a week later
    this time I have told my mum, grandma and sister and 1 out of town friend, my hubby has not told anyone and wants to wait till after nt scan to share our news which I am fine with it is hard seeing his family so often and them not knowing but they were the hardest to untell last time
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  • CraftyKaylaCraftyKayla member
    I'm 10 weeks. We told my BFFs and 1 BIL and his fiancee. We're telling his parents when they come back from vacation in 2 weeks, and my mom around there too. Then, we'll tell the other siblings the next weekend when I'm 13 weeks. Friends and others will know after that... probably Easter or that week.
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  • jennypasadenajennypasadena member
    imagemoonrose2715:

    When you decide you are ready! =)

    My rule of thumb is tell the people you would share a miscarriage with.  If (god forbid) something happened, it is good to have your support system in the know already.  For some people, that is only their partners.  For others it is their whole community.  So think about if the worst happened, who would you want to call?  Then, go share your happy news with those people! =)

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     I think this is great advice.  We told only my parents and my SIL last time, and we told really early.  When I miscarried, it felt like I had no support system because almost no one knew.  So this time, I told my parents and the people I am closest to at work, and it is nice because it feels like they have my back.  We will probably tell a few more after my NT scan next week, and I don't know if there will be a fb announcement.

     

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  • Court7803Court7803 member
    I've told my close friends and immediate family. I'm waiting till around Easter to make a big announcement of it. My second trimester begins Easter day! As another poster said, the people I have told would be the ones to get me through a miscarriage. It's so hard waiting tho!
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  • Luckie519Luckie519 member

    We told our families first with DS.  I was about 8 weeks when I found out.  We also told our bffs the day after we told our families.  We probably waited about 2 more weeks, to make the official announcement, putting me at 10 weeks.

    With this LO, we are telling our families this weekend.  I will be about 6 weeks.  It's a little early than I like, but we need to especially tell my in-laws, because they were planning on starting to watch DS towards the end of the year.  We need to  make sure they are ok with watching a baby also.  Not to mention, our place is too small for the 3 of us, much less 4 of us.

    However, we are keeping it from everyone else until I am into my 2nd trimester.  I would hate to announce it at 5 or 6 weeks and then something go wrong.  This happen to a lady I worked with, but sadly, she lost her baby at almost 19 weeks.  It was really hard on her and it was sad because some people didn't know and would ask her about it.  :(


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  • g8trkimg8trkim member
    I'm close with my parents and girlfriends so I told them right away. My rule is that these are people who I would lean on in case something bad were to happen, so I have no hesitation to tell them early. I won't tell "the world" until my 12-13 week appointment.




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  • pb_bridepb_bride member

    With my 1st pg last yr, we didn't tell anyone at the beginning except for a good friend of mine whom I felt comfortable sharing and asking her lots of Qs about being pg.  DH & I weren't planning to tell anyone else until end of 1st tri.  However, that never came b/c I had a m/c.  Only my friend knew about it and gave me advice (she had a m/c herself in the past).  We told my parents and in-laws about the m/c after I had my D&C.

    I'm curently 6w5d and I wish I didn't have to tell anyone anything.  However, I had to cancel a trip at last-minute 2 wks ago due to OHSS, so I told my ILs & parents the real reason behind the cancellation.  Apart from them, we haven't told anyone else and don't plan to until after 1st tri.  Unfortunately, my MIL has told a few other people before I asked her not to say anything...  Sad

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  • tusshie2004tusshie2004 member
    When I was pregnant with DS, we told his parents when we were 10 weeks along. It just depends on when your comfortable with letting other people know. This time around, we are planning on telling our folks around Easter and the rest of the family on Mother's Day.
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  • Megaloo05Megaloo05 member
    We have told my mom, husbands parents, husbands brother & SIL, & my two closest friends. I agree with what everyone else said. Tell those who you would want there for support god forbid anything bad happened. So thats what we did. I will tell my sister & dad in a few weeks. Then other friends & co-workers sometime mid-2nd tri. I don't know if I'll ever make a FB announcement.
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  • crystalbanias7crystalbanias7
    Had to tell few people at work at 4 weeks, because of the job I do (I am a nurse in a Cancer unit and had to give chemo when I was 4 weeks pregnant - so I had to say something) ... then told my parents, close relatives and friends at about the same time. We were too excited to hold it in. Besides, it is life even how early it is. If, God forbid, something happens, my husband and I still feel like we were blessed with this child
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  • JulesDianeJulesDiane member
    We told our parents at 11 weeks. We have yet to tell the rest of our family or any of our friends. Having been through 3 miscarriages, I am very cautious. It's all personal choice though when it comes down to it. 
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  • AJKayakMommaAJKayakMomma member
    I told the world at 6 weeks (thought at the time I was 7though), and no I am not crazy. I two months prior had a m/c, and it was hard not having support. Everyone I know I am close with, I don't keep people I don't care about around. So if something were to happen, I'd be fine if they knew.
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  • baeluevanobaeluevano member

    So far I've told my BFF & an really close out of town friend, & then last night we let DD tell my parents, my brother, & sister. And DD will probably start spilling the beans to everyone the next time she sees them. We are extremely close to both DH's family & my family so we are comfortable letting them know no matter what.

    Overall we wanted to wait until we had the dating ultrasound which we had last wed. & to hear the heartbeat which also happened last wed.

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