Did y'all do something with the baby after miscarriage?

yecal262 · March 2012

I'm having a hard time with the thought of flushing it down the toilet. I understand that this is what most people do. Do y'all bury the baby? Do you have a ceremony. Oh god this is so hard to fathom.

sarabagan · March 2012

I had a natural miscarriage but was not able to find my baby. Every time I went to the toilet I watched and waited. It makes me sad thinking my baby is now in the sewer but I can't dwell on it. I have heard of some people doing a memorial with their families. A cute idea is taking helium balloons, each family member writes a message on a balloon, then release them into the sky.

yecal262 · March 2012

Thank you for your responses. I am still in the process of the mis carriage. I passed tissue but don't think it was the baby yet. But if it was it was un recognizable as a baby. If it does pass and I recognize it as a baby I think we have decided to have some sort or ceremony or something just us to have a sense of closure to acknowledge this baby.

Shayliz · March 2012

I lost mine via surgery for an ectopic and it's MN state law that pregnancy remains are either buried or cremated. The hospital and cemetery paid for a cremation and there was a group burial for all babies lost before 19 weeks between October - January that were not specifically requested back in February. I didn't request the remains to be sent directly to me because I had no idea they even did that. One day, I will gain the courage to go to the cemetery and visit.

yecal262 · March 2012

Thank you for telling me your story.

yecal262 · March 2012

Thank you for your story

jen-and-ryon · March 2012

I was 14 weeks along when I had a miscarriage. My husband found the baby and put it in a small box. We buried it in my parents beautiful yard in the flower garden. Sorry for your loss, good luck.

elvinnoe · March 2012

I was terrified of not recognizing it and accidentally flushing it. It passed 4 days after the miscarriage (at church of all places) and I immediately knew what it was. My husband and I named our baby Praise and buried "her" in his wedding ring box.