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gbaby26
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Just stopping in here....need to vent/ looking for advice...
gbaby26
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I honestly do not know what to do anymore or where to turn. My DH and I have been married almost 3 years and have been together for 8. We have a LO who is almost a year. I am torn and do not know what to do anymore. When things are good they are great, when they are bad it is really bad. When we fight the b**** and C*** words get thrown out and I cannot stand it. Tonight we had an arguement and as our daughter was trying to go to sleep all he kept doing was cursing and raising his voice. I really just couldnt believe how inconsiderate he was being. I am SO TIRED of dealing with the verbal abuse when it comes...it just sucks because our relationship does work in all other areas, but the communication at times is HORRIBLE.
My parents are still married and the thought of being a single parent scares me to death...not that I wouldnt be able to handle it, but the thought of my daughter growing up and having her family seperate. It literally makes me hysterical just thinking of it and how sad I feel for her because she is the innocent one here. I just cant stomach the way he talks to me at times and I worry because soon my daughter will repeat and understand what he is saying. I also HATE arguing in front of her, which we try not to, but it does happen on an occasion. I always speak calmly and he always is yelling, cursing and being arrogant. I feel like the next day it is swept under the rug and we are back to square one and I am SICK of it.
Just needing to vent and hear your advice out there......
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Re: Just stopping in here....need to vent/ looking for advice...
The idea of having her family separate may make you feel badly, but it is much better to have two happy homes than one miserable one. You don't want your daughter to learn that it's okay for anyone to treat her the way your husband is treating you.
That being said, have you considered marriage counseling where you and your husband could maybe work out the issues you are having vs. rug-sweeping them? It also may be helpful for your husband to seek some counseling for his anger issues and for him to get some perspective in seeing the way he speaks to you is inappropriate and he is setting a poor example for his daughter.
Your husband either needs to get control of his emotions, treat you with respect, and commit to working on your issues and repairing your marriage, or you should seriously consider if the home you have is the one you want your daughter growing up in.
Good luck to you.
Have you considered counseling?
The thing is, you're worried about your daughter growing up in two different homes, but what about her growing up listening to her father treat her mother like that? What kind of an example are you setting? Would you want her to let a man treat her that way?