Hi, ladies!
DH and I are just beginning to look into domestic infant adoption (gathering info about agencies, starting to raise money, going to intro meetings, etc.), so I wanted to introduce myself to all of you!
I always knew I wanted to adopt from the time I was little, so I'm really excited to get the process started. Most people seem pretty excited for us to get started, although we get some slightly negative responses from people who think that adoption is only for people who have fertility issues (which we don't... or didn't, anyway, the first time around). It seems like the majority of the ladies I've seen here from my time as a lurker have decided to move forward with adoption after loss or struggles with infertility. Are there any other ladies out there who are moving forward with adoption because it was the original plan? (I hope this isn't weird; I don't want to upset anyone. Just curious.)
Re: Introduction :)
Like you both DH and I both have always known we wanted to adopt. DH came from a big family with 7 adopted siblings (plus 3 biological siblings) and I have done a lot of work with children and adoption. We tried IF treatments first as we would like to have a child through pregnancy but we matched and now here we are with our 2 month old little boy. We still talk of trying for children again through IF treatments but we plan to adopt again as well.
Welcome!
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues:
Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count
Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???
Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013
We have talked about it since before we were married. Since we have two bio children, we have had a few people make comments, espcially when we talk about the cost or fundraising. We tell them it's about more than just adding to our family and more than the money. The truly stupid comments have been kept to a minimum. : )
I think people mean well. They are just concerned with the unknown and, let's face it, EVERYONE has heard an adoption story that ended poorly. We focus on the positive.
Good luck! You're in the right place. THe women here are amazing.
Hi and welcome!
I've always known adoption was the way I would become a parent, but we still went the TTC path for a while. After a few losses, we did all the requisite RE visits and initial tests but when it came time to start protocols, I just couldn't do it. I'm certain that if we'd really really desperately wanted to, we could have had a biological child.
But, as soon as we started down the adoption path, everything got so much easier! (not that it's easy to adopt, but everything started falling in place to make it happen) DH and I had talked about adoption way back before we were even considering marriage and it just took a while for us to recall that, hey, this has always been on the table for us.
I never totally considered us IF (more of in an in-between no-man's land). I think we would have eventually ended up adopting even if it hadn't taken m/cs to get us to this point.
Our Adoption Blog & Fundraising Efforts
Heading to China in November 2014 to bring our son home!
Mommy to DS#1 7/1/04 and DS#2 6/15/07
M/C 2/16/10 at 9wks 5 days~ D&C 2/18/10
BFP#4 5/17/11 C/P.
BFP#5 11/30/12 Surprise! DS#3 born 7/29/13
Adoption has always been on our hearts and I thought it was our path while we struggled with infertility. But, we conceived our girls through IUI. We are now pursing special needs international adoption because we still believe strongly in adoption and have the means to support another child.
I'm pretty new to this board too, but I'll still say welcome!
M/C at 11w4d April 06
Braden Cooper born March 07
Keegan Riley born Nov 08
Caleb Zachary born May 11
Hoping to adopt a daughter in the next few years!