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When another kid is mean to your kid...

jalaiaajalaiaa
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What do you do when someone else's kid is mean to your kid and the parent isn't watching? (park, mall play area, etc.) Today I was at a church play group thing and some kid whose parent I don't know just came up and grabbed Eli's toy and ran off with it. I know kids will be kids, but I never know how to deal with this situations. Do you go get the toy back? Scold the kid? Just deal with your child and explain to them that sometimes other kids can be mean and that is why they shouldn't be mean to others? How do you all react?
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Re: When another kid is mean to your kid...

  • LottaLattesLottaLattes member

    I have NO problem telling off other people's kids if they're not going to do it themselves.  I do so politely, but I don't ever want my kids to think that it's just okay for other people to take advantage of them.  In that type of case, I would follow the child, tell them that the toy is your son's, and ask him to return it.  If he refuses, I would pretty much make him return it increasingly less nicely, though kids tend to obey people they don't know better.

    I would also use it as a teaching moment for your own kids on how to treat other people's things, but I don't think they should just have to deal with people taking their things (or being mean in any other way).

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  • jenn_darrin1515jenn_darrin1515 member

    If the parent is no where to be seen and another kid hits/pushes/whatever my kids I will say to the child that hitting/pushing/whatever is not nice...if it continued I would ask them where their parent was and loudly say that hitting/pushing is not nice in hopes that a parent would overhear me...

    If another kid stole my child's toy I would loudly tell my child that stealing toys is not nice and ask the child to give it back...and if he/she refuses I would ask them to point out their parent and ask them to have the child give it back...luckily we have only had to deal with the occassional push/hit...which seemed more accidental than anything, and their parents were right there to step in and tell then that their behavior was not nice...

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  • SRK128SRK128 member
    imageLottaLattes:

    I have NO problem telling off other people's kids if they're not going to do it themselves.  I do so politely, but I don't ever want my kids to think that it's just okay for other people to take advantage of them.  In that type of case, I would follow the child, tell them that the toy is your son's, and ask him to return it.  If he refuses, I would pretty much make him return it increasingly less nicely, though kids tend to obey people they don't know better.

    I would also use it as a teaching moment for your own kids on how to treat other people's things, but I don't think they should just have to deal with people taking their things (or being mean in any other way).

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  • GeauxTigers82GeauxTigers82 member

    If it was something minor, like stealing a toy at this age, I would probably just talk to my kid about it. If the child ran off, I wouldn't run after him, and if you tried to talk to him later, chances are, he's already forgotten about it.

    If the kid was still standing there, I would try to explain that it's not nice, blah, blah, blah... and encourage him to give the toy back. But, I'm not going to fight someone else's 2 year old over sharing. I do enough of that with my own. I would just move on and bring my kid to another area, or something like that (however, DD1 would probably be throwing a fit because she didn't get her toy back, so I don't know how that would work!).

    If this became a pattern, then I would very calmly bring it up to the parents. People get defensive about their kids though, so it's a touchy, sensitive subject. Most kids outgrow that phase anyway. Probably best to blow it off.

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