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Cousin's birth story angers me!
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So I saw my aunt yesterday and she told me about my cousin's birth story. This is the uber liberal, breastfeeding only, co-sleeping only, vegan only cousin. I think she's way too pushy about her beliefs and isn't very tolerant if you don't agree with her. And she's a wannabe minister to boot. But that's another story...... Yeah, she makes me judgy.
Anyhoo.... apparently her water broke sometime overnight so they went off to the midwife. The baby was breech, so the midwife refused to do it. So here they are running around in the middle of the night trying to find someone to birth their child. She absolutely refused to go to the hospital or even consider the possibility of a C-section. I guess they were even calling chiropractors to see if someone could massage the baby into position.
Ended up going more than an hour's drive away to another STATE to find someone who would do the job. She claims it was the most beautiful experience and actually easier than her first child.
Now this just pisses me off... Why would you risk so much?????? Needless to say, Grandma was not very happy about it, either.
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Re: Cousin's birth story angers me!
I think it's irresponsible to refuse to go to a hospital if there aren't other options. (and you have received medical advice telling you that's the best place to be) You can still have a med-free birth in a hospital but I can understand about not wanting to be pushed into a c-section unless it's necessary. I would have just gone to the hospital.
EDIT to clarify.
Arghh,such stories p*** me off too! The most beautiful experience??? Don't believe her a bit. Maybe if you replace the "beautiful" with "adventures and dangerous, happy ending". What if something went wrong??
Anyways..Congrats to her on her baby!
Exactly!! You can refuse the meds and c-section and at least be where there are professionals who can help you if things go bad. You can't get help if you're driving around the countryside in the middle of the night. 7-11 doesn't have delivery specialists.
ARGH
The baby is fine, your cousin is fine, the birth went well, and you're mad at her? I've never been mad at a family member for giving birth different than I would choose, so I'm not being snarky, just really don't understand why you are mad.
I'm a lurker who happened to have a vaginal breech deliver for my second and it was WAY easier than my first, so I guess I'm skewed too. Plus, it took us at least 45min to get from our house to the planned delivery center, so an hour doesn't seem that far - even while in labor.
Are you united with the CCOKCs?
Yeah that is ridiculous. You can have an unmedicated birth at the hospital but have the folks htere in case things turn south. And given a breech baby, that is entirely possible so why on earth would you risk the life of your child?
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DS -- 3YO
I'm not second guessing her choice of a midwife delivery and I'm very happy for the outcome, of course.
I just think it's pretty ridiculous to not have a backup plan if the midwife option doesn't work out. Yes, things turned out fine. But it could have very easily gone south quickly. That is what irritates me.
And the timeframe was much, much longer than an hour. I think her water broke around midnight-ish, and the baby was finally delivered in the afternoon.
Uh, listen to your MW!!!
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I agree. And I can be as crunchy as they come. I'm all for whatever birthplan you have that you're comfortable with (nat. vs. med), but even I wouldn't attempt that. Too much at risk. And there aren't that many practitioners around anymore skilled at breech deliveries. And I wouldn't have chosen to deliver E or S that way, both breech until 39 weeks, both flipped. S wouldn't have been able to deliver - 10lbs 12oz, very unfavorable position. I will trade my fairy tale delivery for a healthy baby.
Very very glad for her sake that this turned out okay.
Atey...not sure who they ended up with. Don't think the grandmother even knows. But they had to go to some small town about 90 miles away across a major metropolis and in the neighboring state until they could find someone.
And I'm not reacting personally in a "why didn't they do this the way I would do it" level. To each their own. EXCEPT for the potential risk she took with the life of her unborn child and herself by not having a backup plan. For being a well educated person, I don't think that was very smart. At all.
(And let's not even start on the vaccinations!)
This totally
What if the cord had been wrapped around the neck.
She is one lucky mama whose story might possibly risk another baby since they were "lucky"
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While the story sounds crazy, driving around in the middle of the night, it sounds like she found someone skilled at breech delivery, which very likely wasnt available at the hospital. Many OB's no longer are willing/know how to deliver breech, because they go directly to c-section. Glad everyone is well.
I can understand how angry that would make you. It makes me angry and I don't know her. How irresponsible and selfish of her. A friend told me her step daughters birth story. Very similar. Her Doctor told her that she needed to have the baby in the hospital due to complications. She insisted on a home birth. So she LIED to the 2 midwifes she hired. Well guess what happened? She started to have major complications. She ended up in an ambulance to a hospital where nether the midwives, or her doc had permission to work. She almost died on the way. She ended up staying in the hospital for weeks while her baby went home.
Grrrrr, it just makes me want to smack her. I wanted to have a natural birth, but when my doctor( who has delivered a heck of a lot more babies than I have) told me that I should have a c-section because of DS size, I agreed for the sake of my child and his well being. It was still a beautiful experience.
OK, getting off my soapbox now.