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Should I feel guilty?

k8edgertonk8edgerton member
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My friend who is due two weeks before me put a facebook post that said... "Can't wait for the baby to get here but I am going to miss being pregnant..." I was in complete shock and awe. I have hated pregnancy... In my opinion the only positive part about this whole experience is that I get to meet my little baby girl in a few months! Which I am overly excited about and it is the only thing that keeps me pushing through.

I was extremely sick the first tri, I have had multiple problems the second, and now I am just so darn uncomfortable. Should I feel guilty about not enjoying being pregnant?
 

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  • HannahO28HannahO28

    no, I hate being pregnant too. And I haven't had any problems or complications, I just hate it.

    You have the right to feel however you want. Every pregnancy is different and you don't have to feel a certain way to be a good mother or person. 

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  • LoveBug39LoveBug39

    It's weird-some days I feel good about pregnancy, other days not..I had m/s from weeks 7-15..I'm tired all the time..hate commuting to work every day. Miss having more energy..Diagnosed with gestational diabetes and now have to go for counseling which will probably involve a finger stick 4-5 times a day, lovely!

    Then other days I am in a good positive mood..I think feeling our little girl kick makes all the difference..I would not say I'm the type who loves being pregnant. I think I worry all the time about every ache/pain and a part of me wants my body back..I'm looking forward to seeing her though in a few months and that does push me through. I think if I didn't have to work I would probably feel differently.

    You are entitled to feel the way you like about pregnancy. It doesn't make you a bad person. Everyone is different and some women have smoother pregnancies..Cut yourself a break and keep smiling! :)

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  • gothgrrlgothgrrl
    I wouldn't feel guilty - we all experience pregnancy differently.  I, like you, am looking forward to the end result.  This pregnancy has been very trying on my body - I would not delude myself into thinking pregnancy has been enjoyable for me.  And, this will be it for us after our LO arrives.  Try not to feel bad - you have a right to feel how you do about your situation.
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  • littleredfishlittleredfish member

    Personally I have had a pretty good pregnancy experience over all, and I don't get how some women say they LOVE being pregnant or will MISS being pregnant. I mean don't get me wrong I have almost no sick days anymore, some discomfort but nothing major, and no real heartburn or anything else at this point. Plus I love feeling my LO roll around in there and all the little kicks and watching my belly grow knowing he/she is growing in there.

    Still I won't MISS being pregnant, and it's not bad but I'm not ENOJYING it. What I want out of pregnancy is my baby so once I get that, forget being pregnant. I'll have my baby moving and growing on the outside and that's way better to me. So I get what you're saying and don't feel guilty for it especially if your pregnancy experience has been pretty crummy so far.

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  • MotherMonsterMotherMonster member

    Don't feel guilty at all! It took forever for me to get pregnant and I am so over being pregnant it's not funny! I can't have any more babies thank goodness because I am not doing this crap again! I'm a type 1 diabetic and I just can't handle the stress of all these stupid appointments and then every time I call the on call doctor they want me to go up to L&D for monitoring or to admit me!

     

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  • Lynnette171Lynnette171
    I have hated being pregnant.  I was horrendously sick the 1st tri, still am sick several times a week in the 3rd trimester, was high risk before all this started due to some other health issues, and now have GD to top it off. The only good part is the excitement over LO getting here, and that DH has been fairly understanding of me not feeling well. So don't feel guilty!
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  • WaitingOn3WaitingOn3

    No, you should not feel guilty.  I am pregnant for the 5th time (3rd baby) and I HATE being pregnant.  I try to enjoy it because we have lost two and tried for a long time to have this baby but most days I just want to crawl into bed and not come out until LO is ready to come out. 

    I had morning (all day sickness) until 16 weeks,then baby started kicking, which makes me nauseous. Vericose veins that look like they are going to burst all down my right leg and are extremely painful, RLS and horrible heartburn that keeps me up most nights. And the cherry on top, SPD.  I can barely lift me legs to take a step and the pain is pretty much constant. 

    I just keep looking forward to my due date and knowing that at the end of all of this I will have my sweet lo to take home makes it all worth it but I DO NOT enjoy it at all.  7.5 weeks at most to go and it can't get here soon enough.

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  • useurnameuseurname
    Everyone has a right to feel as they do.  I was never sick during pregnancy, but there are things I will miss.  I will miss feeling my baby's movement and kicks.  Sometimes it seems like she is responding to what I'm saying or what is going on.  I can't even explain it, I feel bad my husband can't experience that part (he can only go one what I say).  As far as the sleepless night/sciatica/swollen feet I will not miss at all!!
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  • FizzyBrideFizzyBride

    I don't think you should feel guilty- every pregnancy is different and some women are lucky enough to be less uncomfortable throughout the whole thing. 

    I have to admit, I've been really lucky so far- I haven't had any complications or health problems (knock on wood), I was able to get through the first trimester with hardly any nausea, and other than some lower back pain and an increasing number of trips to the bathroom lately, even the third trimester hasn't been nearly as uncomfortable as I thought it would be. And because of this I've loved being pregnant- but I'll tell you what, if it had been different for me and I'd been sick and miserable the whole time, you can bet I'd be counting the seconds until I wasn't pregnant anymore!!! Nothing to feel bad about- your friend's just had an easier time of it, maybe.

    As long as you enjoy the baby that comes from all of this (which I'm certain you will!), there's nothing to feel guilty about.

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  • EmilyXLCEmilyXLC member

    Heavens, no.  I HATE being pregnant.  I feel absolutely ridiculous & I miss my body...  I love feeling my little man move about, but that is it.

    Everyone experiences pregnancy differently!  You shouldn't feel guilty.  : ) 

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  • JosF21JosF21 member
    No, you shouldn't feel guilty. For some people pregnancy is great. For others, like me, it is miserable. That doesn't mean we don't think it's worth it to get to that amazing end result. I know several people who just rave about how amazing they felt when they were pregnant. Well, that's great for them...not everyone feels that way. I do not feel bad when I say I hate being pregnant, because it sucks. That doesn't mean that you aren't thankful that you can get pregnant and have kids.
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  • ariawaltersariawalters
    Like th PP have said everyone is different. With my first I didn't care either way, Didn't hate it didn't love it. This time around I am in the same boat. LOL
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  • Joie80Joie80 member
    I don't think so. Pregnancy is not easy at all. At least it hasn't been for me. I can't say that i've hated it, but i certainly will not miss it.I may miss LO moving around in there, but besides that, I see it as a means to an end. If I want babies, then I've got to grow 'em. It's an awesome experience, but I'm pretty sure I won't miss feeling like this even though I do want more children.
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  • KnockedUp38KnockedUp38
    imageHannahO28:

    no, I hate being pregnant too. And I haven't had any problems or complications, I just hate it.

    This - except to add HELL NO, you shouldn't feel guilty about it. I personally have been known to callit a punishment. More than once. In public. Smile

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  • DCsaraDCsara
    No, of course you shouldn't feel guilty. Personally, I understand those comments--I've had a very easy pregnancy for the most part-- no morning sickness, feeling pretty good. Even now that I just found out I have gestational diabetes, for the most part that's been a minor inconvenience. And I just love feeling like I am doing something truly special and participating in something that's as close to a miracle as I will probably ever do--bringing a new person into the world.  But yes, pregnancy can definitely be a major PITA, and for some it's MUCH worse than for others. I'd probably hate it too if I was sick for weeks on end! So go ahead and rejoice that the end is near!
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  • lizbylizby
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    I used to say I was going to miss being pregnant. Until I started having complications. High blood pressure which has now lead to pre-e and bed rest. Now I just want my LO to get here safe and sound. 

    This. I was just put on modified bed rest today. I have been super uncomfortable and complaining for the past month and now I feel guilty knowing LO might have to be delivered early.

     The other day one of my co-workers was talking about how she missed being pregnant and I said, "well you must like NOT being pregnant better," and she agreed. I just want my baby to be healthy and I'm hoping I can go as far as I can before delivery so she has some more time to grow (I'm only 29 weeks), but I also can't wait to have my body back :( I can't help but feel guilty for saying it. 

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  • LadeebuggLadeebugg
    Not at all. This is my third pregnancy. I loved my first pregnancy, was so sick the second and just can't stand how uncomfortable I am with the third. I am only 23 weeks so far and am so uncomfortable already. Some people love it and some people don't. Hang in there!
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