Many of you girls know that I was really hesitant to join FB, but finally did last year right before Liana was born. But I am starting to get more and more annoyed with all the BS on FB and almost feel like I just want to get rid of it.
Maybe it is just the people that are on my friends list (no one that I know from this board), but I just feel like my newsfeed is just full of gossip, drama, and oversharing of info. I go on to try to see pics of all the cute kiddos, I don't want to hear detailed accounts of peoples visits to the gyno, about their money problems, or sex lives, or relationship dramas and exes who don't pay child support. It seriously is ridiculous.
Well, the last straw for me was this week when a "friend" posted a picture of a 12-week old fetus with the caption "12 weeks gestation -- legal to kill?" and started an abortion debate. In the comments that followed (in which adoption was brought up) another "friend" (who has adopted an older child from India) posted this gem
"And those people who spend thousands to get pregnant or wanting a perfect white baby? I think that's a sin. Think of all the people those fertility treatments could feed, think of the millions of non white babies or older children that need homes. Makes me sick."
And the conversation went on and on, blah blah blah. I was so upset and offended both by the picture and the comments, but did not comment because I felt like FB comments for everyone to see wasn't really the place I wanted to talk about my personal feelings about the matter. I did end up messaging both of them to say how offensive I thought the whole thing was just because I kept thinking about it and it was bothering me. I let them both know that as a woman who has struggled to get pregnant/maintain a healthy pregnancy I thought the whole thing was incredibly insensitive and offensive and that FB is not the place for that. Both of them tried to back track and rationalize (Oh, I didn't mean for that pic to be upsetting to someone who has had a m/c....I didn't mean it was literally a sin to have fertility treatments). But neither of them ever even apologized. Ugh, I am so disgusted by the whole thing.
So, in the end I have decided that I am going to take a break from FB - not necessarily permanently, but I definitely need to take a step back. I just feel like it brings more bad than good to my life. In addition to all the drama and BS, it is just a huge time waster for me. I am addicted to checking it on my phone and it's really a bit ridiculous. I don't want looking at FB on my phone all the time rather than pay attention to my kids and I don't want to be sitting on the couch with DH at night after they are in bed checking FB a million times rather than actually having a conversation with him. I think it will be good thing, I just need to take the plunge and delete the app from my phone so that the temptation isn't there anymore!
Wow, sorry so long. Thanks for reading if you made it this far! . I really just wanted to vent and it felt good to write my feelings out. I am glad I still have this board to keep in touch with you ladies, even if I don't have time to post much. And Bflo girls if you plan any GTGs thru FB, someone make sure to post it here or to text me!