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July 2012 Moms
Long distance gender reveal fail
All of my family is out of state and has been asking to be more involved in our pg. So I thought it would be a cute idea to have my youngest sister bake gender reveal cupcakes on Wednesday when we find out. Evidently no one thinks this is a good idea and as my step-mom put it she just wants a text. They don't even want to wait the few hours it would take to do the cupcakes.
I'm disappointed that they can't at least respect this as my way of including them long distance. I am seriously considering still doing the cupcakes and having my sister dye them green in the center and then just mass texting them on Saturday after they have had time to realize I won't tell them right away. I know it is mean but maybe they need a reality check that I'm not going to give them whatever they want. I'm sure once this gets out of my system I won't end up being vengeful. I am just disappointed I guess that after they kept asking to be included long distance I think of something creative and they can't wait or at least respect the effort.
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Re: Long distance gender reveal fail
But I probably wouldnt have told them when I was finding out, to begin with (if I was planning on doing something cute to reveal the gender). I'm sorry they aren't as into the cute/fun stuff as you are. Party poopers.
This! Totally agree. This is your baby....do want you guys want. Not what everyone else wants!
Maybe you should tell everyone baby wouldn't cooperate or you guys changed your mind at the last minute and decided to be team green.
FWIW - My mom started calling the second we were done with our u/s when we were finding out with DD. I wouldn't tell her because I wanted to tell her and my dad together (she had to wait a couple of hours). When I wouldn't tell her she started calling DH and tried bribing him. I thought it was funny she wanted to know so bad.
On the one hand, I get that you're trying to involve them in a creative way, and I applaud your effort to involve people in a way that is meaningful. To that extent, I agree that some family members will just never be happy, so stop worrying about they think and parent your way.
But on the other, I think the gender reveal can be kind of overdone. Maybe your extended family doesn't appreciate the full blown, attention-grabbing, dramatic "gender reveal" that seems to be typical 'round these parts. Maybe they just want to be looped into the news and to share a squee-moment wherein you call and proudly announce ITS A GIRL/BOY or somesuch.
I wouldn't read too much into it. Just because they don't love cupcakes doesn't mean a whole lot. And if they do become too difficult to deal with on other issues, just do what you can and forget em. There are some people you just can't please.
I agree that it is your baby and you can tell when you want. I'm not sure they will understand the green thing. It may make them confused. I would just still do the blue or pink while also making them wait a few days.