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Late Term and Child Loss
laurendSept05
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Introduction
laurendSept05
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Hello all - I have been lurking for a few weeks and thought it was time to introduce myself. We lost our baby three weeks ago on January 30th. I was almost 22 weeks with a boy. His name was Caleb. We knew for a couple of weeks that things were not going well. We were orginally pregnant with triplets from IVF. We lost the identical twins early on, but the remaining singleton always looked great. I had been spotting from about 12weeks on and we were being monitored weekly by a high risk dr. When we went in at 19 weeks for our appointment, my fluid levels were low and the bleeding had gotten worse. My membranes had ruptured at some point since the previous week, and they were now saying that I had a partial placental abruption. The next couple weeks things just got worse and worse until he ended up with no fluid at all and the bleeding just kept getting worse. It took us over 2 years to get pregnant - I always thought that once we did everything would be fine. Everyone keeps saying the standard things; your young, you'll try again, next time it will be fine. I know that is what you say - and before this - I would be saying the same thing. But now I feel different - I have hope for a future pregnancy, and hopfully a baby, but I can't help thinking that the fear of something going wrong will always outweigh the hope. We have frozen embryos and are planning on doing a transfer hopefully in a couple months. Thanks for listening - sorry if I rambled. I've read some of the stories posted here over the last few weeks. My heart goes out to everyone - it is so sad that we have to go through this loss.
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Re: Introduction
I'm so sorry to hear the loss of your twins and sweet Caleb. Don't apologize for 'rambling.' You can be yourself here. The ladies here are wonderful and we all support each other.
*hugs*
***Congratulations to my TTCAL buddy Roxyttandme!! It's a GIRL!! Charlotte arrived on 9/29!!!!***
PGaL/PAL Always Welcome!!
? to Loss+M/PL+TTCAL+PgAL+PAL
PgAL/PAL welcome
2/21/11: IVF #1 Begins and results in TWINS!
11/4/11: The twins are born at 36w4d!
11/5/11: We said goodbye to our sweet baby girl as she was born with multiple complications and a severe heart defect, Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome.
Septated uterus, pcos (on metformin), MTHFR
Clomid # 1- July 2010 = BFN / #2 Sept 2010= BFN
IVF#1 - 1/2011 = BFN (Severe AF started 7dpo)
IVF#2 - 3/2011 = Ectopic
Aug 2011- FE - Thaw all - cancelled - embryos didn't make it!
Oct 2011 - IVF#3 = BFP!! ~ TWINS!!
Said goodbye to Twin B @ 9w5d
Hudson Edward ~ Pprom 18 wks 2/16/12 - We love you forever. You have our hearts.
8/15/12 5dFET = BFP! ~ Said goodbye at 7wks gestation
11/9/12 5dFET = BFP! ~ Said goodbye at 5wks gestation
12/28/12 - Septated Uterus Found (was misdiagnosed as bicornuate!)
I am very sorry for your loss. I lost twins at 18 weeks that were conceived via IVF. It is daunting to be back at the starting point. Your doctors can't just say, wait a few months and try again.
It tooks us 11 months to be ready to start treatment cycles. I know that is longer than some ladies need but give your body and heart time to heal.
((hugs))
Me: PCOS, Blood/Immune Issues DH: Low all 3
Jun.- Sep. 2010 IUI#1-#3 = BFN
Oct. 2010 = IVF #1 = B/G Twins (passed away Feb. 2011)
May 2011 = Myomectomy and trans-abdominal cerclage (TAC)
Sep. 2011 = Surprise BFP = C/P
Feb. 2012 = sFET #1 = BFN
Feb.2012 = Hail Mary IUI #4 = BFN
April/May 2012 = FET #2 w/our last two embies = BFP (Please let this be it!)
Beta #1 8dp5/6dt = 234 Beta #2 10dp5/6dt = 695 Beta #3 12dp5/6dt = 1796 Beta #4 17dp5/6dt = 17,888 U/S #1 May 17, 2012 = Twins
Baby B's heart stop beating at 9 weeks 5 days
Our little miracle baby is a boy.
Baby Boy Owen and Baby Girl Avery were born too early on Feb. 13, 2011 due to a pedunculated fibroid, incompetent cervix and suspected placental abruption.
"What the heart has once owned and had, it shall never lose." - Henry Ward Beecher
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
Lots of love and luck to my PAIF/3T/IF Veteran ladies, especially my dear friend Zookie. Congrats to Papps, Teach84 and Starbuck on their little ones.
thelossblog.blogspot.com
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your story sounds so much like what I just went through with my second. Don't ever feel had about rambling. This is what we are here for.
Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012
After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows
((BFP 7/29/13)) ((EDD 4/12/14)) It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!
It's hard to have hope when you have already experienced the "worst case scenario".
Big hugs! We all know the pain you are now feeling. I hate to welcome you here but you are amongst friends. I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet babies.
I am so sorry for the loss of Caleb and your twins. While we all wish we did not have to be here, we are here for each other and for you too.
Hugs,
Jenn
PS - I would recommend just grieving these babies for now and try to put trying again on the back burner mentally....you can pick it up again when you feel a little less overwhelmed. The beginning is really, really hard.
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.
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