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June 2012 Moms
amberlynnr7
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Elonah [3], Bentley [1]
UO
amberlynnr7
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I'm normally never up early enough to start this thread. But it just so happens DH woke me up (accidentally) when he got home this morning.
So, let's hear 'em, ladies! 
Elonah [3], Bentley [1]
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Re: UO
My UO:
Cloth diapering is not "disgusting." & I'm sick of hearing from everyone & their mother that it is. It annoys me when people say they don't want to have to touch poop. Wtf do you think people w/ cloth do? We don't use a piece of cloth & a safety pin anymore. Even if we did- women did it for years before disposables were invented. Get the *** over yourself. You are not any better than I am just because you are putting plastic on your kids arse. & stop criticizing me for my choice. Because it is just that...MY choice.
Elonah [3], Bentley [1]
My UO:
I don't like when people (someone I know personally, lol) claim they don't need to read books about pregnancy or take classes because they already know everything they need to know YET hang out in the hot tub at the gym.
Elonah [3], Bentley [1]
- If you are collecting unemployment, I think you should they should have random "checks" to see if you are ACTUALLY looking for a job. I've been on UE since the beginning of November and I call every Sunday to put in my claim, and they have never ONCE asked to see my "proof" of actively seeking employment. I look and apply for jobs daily, usually 20-25 a day (sometimes less if I don't find those that match up to my qualifications). It annoys the heck out of me that people are out there collecting UE and are out shopping/lounging/spa-ing all day and don't take time to look for a job.
- I think people that chase their children around with hand sanitizer all the time are nuts. There are "normal" times to wash your hands, and LO will be doing these. But I will not be chasing him around to sanitize his hands all the time. I feel like it's led to a germ-aphobic society and society, as a whole, is catching more colds/germs because we have a need to be so 'clean.'
- I respect those that are going to go with "no tv" for their children, but I will not do it. Once LO gets older, I am looking forward to cuddling up on the couch with him and watching a movie, I am looking forward to knowing that he has that one show that he loves so much that I can get some cleaning/cooking done, and when he gets to school, television shows and movies are something that is a common thread for most kids. I don't want him to be looked at as "different" because he doesn't know about "XYZ show." Will my child be babysat by the television? No. Will there be days that he may watch it more than others? Yes. There will be days that I don't feel good, DH doesn't feel good, LO doesn't feel good, or just lazy movie days. That doesn't make me a bad mom.
- Similar to what PP said, but in reverse, I'm not a bad person and I don't hate the environment because I'm not cloth diapering. DH and I live in an apartment that we have to share the washers/dryers with the rest of the apartment complex, and there are disgusting things that get left in those machines. I'm skeeved out sometimes thinking that we wash our regular clothes in there, and I can't bring myself to wash LO's diapers. If we had a diaper service in our area, which I've done extensive research and we do not, then our choice may be different. However, cloth diapering is not the best decision for us at this time. I wish people would stop making me out to be like a demon for my choice.
- I honestly believe that I'm not getting hired for jobs that I have over and abundance of qualifications for because I am now visibly pregnant. They tell me a different reason, but in my heart I truly believe its because of the pregnancy. I can't necessarily blame them, because if I were a hiring manager and there were people with about the same, or the same, qualifications as me, I would probably go with the one that wasn't needing a lengthy time off. However, it drives me batty. Theres a law against pregnancy discrimination, and I can't prove that they're doing it because of the other reasons they give ... but I'll be d@mned if it's not the top - or one of the top - that they decide to not hire me, and just don't say it.
- I do not understand anyones logic as to how its okay to throw your own baby shower. Whether it be for the 1st, the 3rd, the first boy, the first girl .. whatever. If you call it a baby shower, it is implied that you will expect gifts for that child, and that is tacky. If you would like to throw a get together with those that you are close to and call it something else, go for it. If you would like to throw a "meet the baby" party after your LO gets here, go for it. But throwing your own baby shower is, IMO, nuts. It looks gift grabby and attention seeking. I know that some people won't have a baby shower with their 1st for whatever reason ... and I still don't know if I will be having one, and this is mine and DH's first LO. However, that does not mean that I'm going to go out and plan one for myself.
- I know a lot of ladies on here have gone on a babymoon, and I don't understand them. I know that the point is to go and have a last hurrah before your LO gets here. Maybe if DH and I had more in savings or money to play around with, then I would see it differently, but I wouldn't be able to justify spending that type of money with a baby on the way. (I'm sure there are tons of reasons to do it, and I'm not seeing them, but I just don't get it.)
- *flameworthy* DH and I have a cat, and have for about 2 1/2 years. She is aggressive with anyone other than DH and will scratch/nip/bite/hiss at other people, including myself. She is getting fixed on Weds, to hopefully help some of this behavior. I have told DH that if she ever goes after LO unprovoked, she will have to go. I won't bring her to a shelter or anything, and will make sure that the home she goes to is good, but I cannot allow any animal in my home that would go after LO without a reason. My hope beyond hope is that she either ignores him, or loves him ... but I won't go back on needing to get re-home her if the situation arises. I don't want to re-home her, DH adores that cat to the ends of the earth. But if it becomes a safety issue for LO, LO will come before the cat. I don't have an option of putting her in another room, a basement, etc, as we live only in a 2 bedroom apartment.
I forgot one..
MH is from a different state across the country. There has been a lot of tourism commercials for that state recently, and he keeps saying, "Seeing these commercials makes me realize how much I miss and want to go home for a visit." I know he misses where he came from, and he'd like to go see his family, but him calling it, "home" bothers me. He hasn't lived there for going on 9 years now. It makes me feel like the home that he has here, with me, isn't "good enough" or doesn't compare to back there.
I think it is mind blowingly ridiculous that some schools require students to invite ALL of their classmates to their birthday party. The reasoning is that it is far too hurtful to the snowflakes who are not invited.
Seriously - parents need to get a grip and use this as a moment to teach their children about disappointment, friendship, expectations, etc - there are so many great lessons here!
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Someone is opinionated today:)
I agree, super tacky to throw your own baby shower. I got an invite on facebook the other day from an acquaintance for the baby shower she and her husband are throwing for themselves. She invited me and over 150 of her closest facebook friends
In the invites it says that you are required to bring a box of diapers or you can't drink and the it also states that she has registered at Target and they ask that you not buy any clothes under size 3 months and nothing with monkeys on it. I actually laughed out loud when I read it, how much tackier can you get?! I will not be attending that one!
In the state I live in, you have to submit the information for 2 jobs a week that you have applied to and they have the right to check up on it or not to see if you actually applied. 2 jobs a week, every week, until you find a job or they stop paying you. The only thing I don't like about this is they could be applying for crap jobs, getting offers, and then turning them down because the UE pay is better. They definitely need to take a better look at UE.
Not everyone who collects unemployment is jobless. DH does concrete construction and he's laid off most of the winter because it's too cold to pour.
DS#1- 7/2002
DS#2- 6/2004
DS#3- 9/2007
Single parents are not destroying the country. I know plenty of people who grew up in single parent homes who have achieved great success. I also know people who grew up in a house with mom and dad and they are losers. I was a single mom for 7 years....it did not screw my child up.
Porn is not a gateway to cheating. Maybe your husband is not looking at porn (or you just don't know about it) but I promise he is not always thinking about you and only you when he is pleasuring himself...it is okay, it does not mean he wants to cheat or does not find you attractive.
If my kids grow up and say they are black/African-American instead of bi-racial it does not mean they are denying their "whiteness" and me.
I think it sucks that I live in an area where I will only have 1 choice for many elected positions and when that is the case I do not vote for the person.
I am not shocked and outraged by Abby on Dance Moms...honestly, she seems shocking because we live in a society where "every kid is a winner" and people think kids should be bubble wrapped from hurt.
I think schools should go to a year round calendar....I dont know any children who are working the farm....but I do know quite a few kids who play xbox alllll summer and come back to school in the fall and the poor teacher has to spend 6 weeks reteaching so they can start teaching.
Also, I had someone tell me I was taking away the fun of being a kid by making my kids read and learn in the summer...I am fine with that because while your kid is forgetting how to do fractions, my kid is learning fractions hand on by helping me use recipes and bake.
I hate when people say I will let my son decide when he is old enough...do you really think a 12 year old boy will want someone to bring a scalpel near his penis. Either circumsize or not...but don't say I want my child to have a say when they are older.
Also....it is not genital mutilation! It is nothing like the mutilation that happens to little girls in Asia and Africa.....not even close!
I agree. I have a p/t job myself, 15 hours a week. I meant it more for those who are completely without work, looking for f/t employment and have no intention of returning to work. I am planning on doing a f/t and a p/t position, so looking for f/t right now. I know that some teachers/construction workers, etc collect during their "off season" whenever that happens to be.
Apologies for the lack of clarity in my OP!
I was on unemployment for about 2 years and I never once had to prove I was looking for a job. Gotta love it...???
To go off what a PP said, I don't care where I end up or where I live in my life, Georgia will ALWAYS be my home. I love my husband, but it doesn't change where I'm from and where my roots are. He feels the same way about Maryland and I'm ok with that. Maybe I would feel different if my mother weren't still here in GA. Probably...not sure though.
Also sick of people telling me how disgusting cloth diapers are. "you'll have to touch poop!!" Ummmm....there are things called sprayers and gloves, morons.
I plan to breastfeed my twins. I get that it's going to be hard. I also plan to *try* to have them naturally and unmedicated. No, I don't expect a medal. It's a personal decision and not one that affects you, so back off.
No, I don't NEED a Diaper Genie!! Gah, MIL...I love you but STFU.
People who have opinions about what my husband and I should do with our son's (if we have one...or two) penis AMAZE me.
The fact that anyone can look at Rick Santorum as a "serious" candidate for the title of human being makes me go "huh??" The fact that a large number of people consider him a good fit to run our country makes me lose faith in humanity more than a little.
and lastly...for now...
People who go on Babymoons to locales/countries without adequate medical facilities (especially after viability) are total loons. I get that you've had an uneventful pregnancy, but so do a lot of women who end up in PTL. Why on earth would you risk going somewhere that has no hope or prayer of saving your baby....just to say you had a last hurrah??? Dumb.
I have no desire to buy a house right now however it seems everyone around me thinks that is exactly what I should be doing. It is so annoying to get asked constantly "are you looking for houses?" NO we are not. We have been married for 6 months and are having a baby in three months. NO we do not need the added stress of house hunting right now! We live in a house owned by family and have two bedrooms in a nice area. There is no rush for us! In fact we most likely won't look for another five years so get over it people (guess that came out more of a vent than an UO lol)
Gah, I love you.
Thanks for saying that. I want to choke people that say that crap. It's nowhere near the same. Call it modification if you like because that's what it is, but it's not even CLOSE to being the horror that is genital mutilation.
No one is tying your little boy (not baby) down to a dirty table (or holding him down by force using many people) in an unsanitary shack with a dirt floor and having a completely untrained person cut most of his external genitalia off with a dirty piece of glass with absolutely no means of pain relief. Get a grip.
If someone has the means to go on a babymoon, why shouldn't they go? People have different definitions of what "getting away" means to them. To some, its a weekend in a big city or a weekend at a quiet cottage in the woods. To others, its 2 weeks in Hawaii. While I personally would rather spend the money somewhere else, I see nothing wrong with wanting a chance to "get away" before the baby comes.
I have more but my brain is dead and can't form any more words.
Nursed without dairy, egg, soy, peanut, treenut, fish, shellfish or beef for over a year.
Currently tandem nursing dairy, egg, and shellfish free.
DS born via emergency c/s after 20 hrs of labor. DD successful VBAC!
Learning Liam
I also don't understand the whole babymoon idea. I would much rather just spend time with DH at home or have a few date nights before the baby comes. I would rather save our money for a vacation I can enjoy after the baby is born (i.e. - not look like a whale in a bathing suit and be able to eat and drink what I want).
Come on now, don't hold back let it all out!
1. Depends what state you're in. When DH was on unemployment, he had to do things like go in to counseling sessions and show them letters he'd sent out, etc.
2. Unfortunately, you're probably not wrong about this. There can be unconscious biases and, unfortunately, when you're visibly pregnant it can start a would be employer thinking "oh god, she's pregnant. what would that mean? what would we have to do? are we going to be in trouble if we don't hire her? if i hire her and i going to have to hire someone else to replace her in a few months when she goes out? i'm going to have to talk to HR . . ." and what with all that going on in their heads they're not focused on how great YOU are and all the wonderful things you're staying. I'm sorry, I know it sucks and there's really not much you can do about it. Maybe you can try to focus on the fact that its really not about you and, unlike other forms of discrimination, your condition is temporary? Small solace, I know. Best of luck in your search!
I like Abby also. I know a lot of that is for the show too. I was a gymnast as a child and did practice 5 nights a week and rode the bus from school to my gym. I did homework there and ate there.
If I screwed up I got yelled at. One day I was having a hard time vaulting. I spent 4 hours running the ramp and jumping off the board into foam. I did nothing else except get told I was doing it wrong over and over.
I won that weekend though.
Heh. I can see both sides to the argument, but I do agree with you about how it's not a crazy procedure. Maybe unnecessary, yes. But I think people either go to one extreme or the other.
That bothers me too. Since when is there no middle stance or compromise? It bugs me a ton that people can't see both sides to an argument. Even if you do have one position rather than the other, don't act uninformed and ignorant because you're stubborn. People will not respect your opinion.
Elonah [3], Bentley [1]
Yup, I used to compete in dance competitions for years as a kid. I was there because I wanted to be. No one forced me. My teachers were much like Abby and I have a lot of shiny trophies because of them. When I stopped caring about it, I stopped going. Simple as that. My daughter will be exposed to dance and if she likes it great and if she doesn't she will pick a different hobby. No big deal.
I hate when people have "pet names" for their unborn baby. Such as "bean" or one of my gf's is calling her unborn baby "bug". It is just weird to me.
Goodbye little angel(7/22/2011)....see you in heaven
Goodbye my second angel (9/18/2011)
I totally agree with this one!!! I also get annoyed with people who pet name their kids TOO much. I have a friend who calls her boys Monkeyface and Teddy Bear...always. I don't even think they know what their names are. Another friend calls her girls Pumpkin and Turtle. I get pet names. My mom calls me Bunny from time to time, always has, but the majority of the time I'm Allison. Thank heavens!!
Been wanting to get this off my chest...
I find it beyond insulting that illegal Mexican immigrants can float their way on over to our country, suck the free healthcare out of us, and still refuse to learn the language. As a nurse, it is incredibly difficult to communicate with a mother about her sick baby when all she does is stare at me like I'm from another planet. Listen, lady, I'm here at 3 AM to provide a better life for MY child... the least you can do is learn a few words so that you can understand how I am caring for yours, especially since I am the one currently paying for their stay here in the NICU!!!
I actually had one mother ask (in Spanish to the translator that my tax dollars pay for, of course) "what else can I have for free?" UMMMMM, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!!? My response: "Well, none of this is free. The working people of America are paying for it, hun"... Not exactly my most PC moment.
No fvvcking way! I get that not all immigrants, or illegals for that matter, are sucking off the system or taking advantage but it is crap like this that makes my head explode!
And screw being PC at that moment, your response was far better than what I may have said.
Oh Allison this made me laugh out loud and nod my head vigorously in agreement at the same time!!! I wish the BSC people would get the F off my TV! The whole thing is such a joke of a procedure, made even more pathetic by the "candidates" that the Republicans must choose between. Every time I watch Jon Stewart I lose more faith in humanity. I don't even know whether to laugh or cry...
Oh, for sure not ALL immigrants are this way... unfortunately in my line of work, that's ALLLLL I see though. And it's just getting harder and harder to deal with. I can't believe how hard my husband and I work to provide for our unborn child, and it seems like everyone we come in contact with (he is a Police Officer) is just doing what they damn well please without working or having consequences. Makes you wonder who the bigger idiot is: Us for working hard and being taxed to death to pay for them, or those who sit around with their 14 children and collect a paycheck for doing nothing..??
LOL Thanks for your vote of confidence in my response though... what can I say? B!tch caught me in a mood.
My UO is : I think the whole circumcision conversation should be closeted on this board. I know, I know, If you don't like it don't read it, but I can't help myself. It always goes the same and let's face it no one is changing anyone else's opinions. If I read the line "It's a personal decision but to me it is mutilation" one more time I am going to scream.
I watch Rachel Maddow. She made a very good point last night. None of the Democrats want to pick on him, or point out his flaws. Because he would be a much easier candidate over Romney.
so, shhhhhhhhh. Wait till general election time.
I'm not going to argue the rights and wrongs of illegal immigration. It's illegal and that's what needs to be said. Honestly though I'd rather have illegals who pay into the system through social security and payroll taxes than freeloaders like PP was talking about taking unemployment while doing nothing to improve their situation.
HOWEVER, people really enjoy forgetting that the US has no official language. While the vast majority of people speak English, it is not our official language and therefore no one is REQUIRED to learn it. We are one of the few developed countries where the majority of people don't speak at least two languages to some extent. I find the fact that most people ONLY speak English to be equally upsetting and a sad testament to our educational system.
Haha my MIL is driving me crazy about the diaper genie! I don't want to pay for those darn refill bags so I'm not doing it!!!
The fact that Rick Santorum is gaining speed in the republican primary is scaring the hell out of me.
My DH is in school to get his trade certificate and he is able to collect EI, he still has a job waiting for him to get back too. Eve so it does get slow in the winter, and because we both pay into EI I don't feel bad collecting it.
I have no issues with cloth diapering. I really wanted too but I loathe laundry and DH wasn't supportive so that went out the window. You win some you lose some.
I don't understand why people think breastfeeding is gross. How much more natural can you get??
Such a good point, but do you really trust the public NOT to vote his ass in? (You guys re-elected Bush... I know you personally didn't, but I lost a lot of my faith in the American public that day...) It makes me nervous!
- (This isn't directed at anyone on here) I get upset when I hear people asking for prayer for a situation that really doesn't call for it. It feels like they are just looking for sympathy or attention, not really asking for prayer. For example, a few family members are hoping for a miracle for our baby girl with a cleft lip and maybe palate. Or posting on Facebook that "her family needs prayers." We don't need a miracle, she is a miracle, we don't need people praying for us where there are other out there who need it so much more. We needed help accepting the situation but we realize that she is healthy, just a little extra gummy with her smile.
- I enjoy hearing the horrible birth stories with the good. If mama and baby came out of that horror story and are happy and healthy then I can face whatever may come too.