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*JNK and Ashnmike*
How are you ladies doing? How are the babies? What are they sleeping like at night? How are the big sisters adjusting? Have you ventured out with both of them on your own yet? Do you have any sort of schedule/routine?
Let's see...C is all over the place with sleeping at night still-some nights she can pull a 4hr stretch and some nights shes up every 2.5hrs like clockwork. I find she sometimes has trouble getting back to sleep. Usually she nurses to drowsy/sleep but then will wake up 10min later crying and will have to be rocked again. Last night she kept doing this for a half hour! She definitely needs to be held almost constantly during the day which is very hard to do. She doesnt like the swing at all, which A loved. I havent taken them both out on my own yet-heck, I'm still in my PJs usually until 2-3pm when I have both of them home with me. I havent figured out when to shower/get ready yet-I assume someday I'll be able to do it before they wake in the morning, but right now i'm trying to get as much sleep as I can-which isn't much most nights (6hrs is a good night lately). No real schedule for us yet.
A is doing ok-she loves her sister, but really has no idea how to be gentle with her. She wants to be touching her all of the time and it always ends up in her being scolded because she can't be nice/gentle with her. I have no idea how to get it through to her, but she is really rough with her to the point that I cant leave them alone for even a second-which makes going to the bathroom fun! Any tips on that at all? Part of me thinks she does know better, but just knows she'll get attention from us if shes naughty....even though I feel like we're giving her plenty of attention too!
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Re: *JNK and Ashnmike*
Things are getting "easier" with each passing week. Sleeping at night is hit or miss. Usually a 3-4 hr stretch then she's up every hr or so after that. I think her body thinks she just took a 4 hr nap (which is true) and she just isn't tired enough to stay asleep. Plus she takes a while to fall back to sleep after feedings so yeah it's fun.
Ava is obsessed with her. She is very gentile, but wants to hold/touch/kiss her all.the.time. I started using the moby this week and so far so good. We went to the Sandbox today with my sisters and niece, so there were 3 of us and the 3 kids but I would never have been able to do it alone. Maybe if it werent so crowded though.
I can honestly say going from 1 to 2 kids hasn't been nearly as bad as I thought it would be. Granted, I am only 5 weeks into it!
I am doing good - feeling better, my recovery is a lot better than with dd. I feel almost totally normal. I need to go thru my work clothes, bc I return in 2 weeks, but at least the bigger stuff should fit ok.
Sleep- he is getting a lot better this last week. He is either up to eat 2 or 3 times now at night. But when he is up, it takes about 1.5 hours to get him back down. I'm still stripping him to eat though so he eats good. So maybe once I leave him all swaddled up and stop changing him he will go back to bed easier. But I tried last week and he ended up having a really short feeding and waking back up right after to eat again.
Ellie - is pretty good with him....we got lucky. She ignores him for the most part. But likes to turn on his bouncer if he is in there, likes to grab me a diaper and throw out the old one when it is time to change him. Overall, we got pretty lucky there I think - it wasn't anything with how we parented her. Hopefully the novelty wears off soon for A and that gets easier for you.
I have gone to a few places with them - mall and grocery store. I feel ready to do more, but won't this week with schools being out. I bought a groupon to Sandbox that expires in March, so I need to start going there. Ashley - did Julia count as an admission?
Basically our schedule is he is on a 3 hour Eat Play Sleep that I sort of guided and he sort of put himself on. During the day, he eats, then I burp him forever, then he gets some inclined time (bc of the reflux) and some tummy time. I try to get him back asleep about 1.5 hours after he woke up. I wake him back up if he is not awake by the 3 hours mark. This is important to me bc when I return to work, I need to have a rough idea of when he eats so that I can pump at the same time. At night, I don't wake him up - sometimes he sleeps several hours, sometimes just 1 hour. He is a big grunter in his sleep. So I learned to not actually pick him up until he cried bc sometimes I would get up to feed him only for him to still be asleep. That alone helped cut out a feeding.
With dd, I tried to help her as soon as she started crying all the time. But then Clayton cried and screamed every single moment he was awake (and even sometimes while he nursed), until he got on the zantac no matter what we did. So now he is a lot different - cries a lot less. But after that, I figure that if he was fine after that, a few minutes of crying isn't going to kill him. So I don't worry if he cries thru a quick shower or while I go to the bathroom. I just do it. We have a old PNP that my mom got when ellie was born - it's old so I wouldn't let either of them sleep in it, but it is fine for short day times. So I stick him in there and dd can't reach him. How did A reach C? Was she on the top basket part? This is so old, it is really just a play pen.
Butting in....
I have this groupon too. I went on Friday with A and R, I have to say I was pretty disappointed in it for the first time. The kids had fun and that is all that mattered. I would go early when you go, they open at 9. We got there about 9:15 and it got busy by 10:30! It was all small kids and a way too many poorly behaved little ones, it was weird. Then a group came in for a party, seemed like an inner city daycare...they arrived by a small school bus. They pushed the child/adult ratio to the limit and passed babies around. Again, weird. There are signs all over now that say bottle feeding isn't allowed on the play floor. This group was doing so, and got yelled at by the older lady who tends to be nasty.
Anyways, I used 2 punches this time and won't likely use the last one. How was it today A?
This is from their website.....it would be silly if they charged for a newborn!
ADMISSION
$7.00 / child (12 months to age 7)
3rd & 4th Siblings $6.00 each
Children under 1 - $5.00 w/o paid sibling
Adults are FREE!
Adult & Children Socks $1.00
(Prices do not include tax)
Yep, Julia was free, Ava was 7.50. It was absolutely INSANE there today. I'm not even exaggerating when I say there had to have been over 100 kids there! There were lines for just about everything, every chair in the snack area was filled. Absolute chaos. Kids were running into each other, babies were getting knocked over, it was so sad. I feel really bad because I"m the one who suggested we go there. My sister is in town with her daughter and all of her friends wanted to meet up, so I suggested we go there because when we've been before, it was very empty and SO much fun. It has to be because it's winter break and president's day to boot, so nobody had school or work. Oops! lol
K- When you went to the mall with the kids, how did you do it? Double stroller with C reclined, or wear C and have E in the bob? I bought a car seat adapter for my BJCM on ebay so I might be a *little* bit more comfortable trying to go somewhere. I know I will use it a ton because my grandparents are moving to the senior living community like 6 houses down from me, so I will be walking there with the girls a lot.
Wow that got long.
Oh - the children under 1 is what I saw online, but must have missed the without paid sibling part. OK that's good then.
I know it is a small space, but that is actually the reason I bought it - because I figured I could sit and feed Clayton if I needed to with still keeping an eye on Ellie. Which I can;t do at SNMOP. And - oh no, if they don't allow bottle feeding, I wonder if they don;t allow bfing. I hope I don't end up on the news lol.
Ashley, my double is still sitting in the box. I am quite annoyed. DH keeps saying he will do it but hasn't, and I just haven't had a chance to do it. I did get the adapter put back on our single though, so that;s good. I didn't buy the adapter for the double, so I would have to lay him down reclined once I can use that. I just can't get a hang of the moby
I don't feel like his head is supported. I have the ergo so once his head control is better, I will start using that.
I tookk a picture of how I navigated the mall. I will post it in a minute - just have to get it on here from my phone. It involved a leash lol.
Ok, here we are my first time at the mall - I made her hold on to the stroller. She did well and listened decently with constant reminding. But the wheel kept running over her foot.
Ok, here is my new way to do it - I needed to give her some room away from the stroller wheel. I have since shortened it a bit bc she kept going in front of the stroller. But she LOVES holding on to the leash, so it works for us. Maybe I'll get flamed, but she is not actually connected to the leash. But it is a dog leash, so.... We did get some funny/amused/disgusted maybe? looks, but no Code Adam, so I am ok with it.