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Re: Hot topic Tuesday: defending your C section

  • hayleydeeehayleydeee member

    I've never felt judged, but I do feel a sense of sympathy from others. It's sort of a "oh, that's too bad I'm sorry to hear that" kind of response. 

    If anything I judge myself. I mean, I know there really wasn't any other option (it was a twin/ breach pregnancy) but I do feel a sense of remorse and disappointment about having to have a CS.  

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  • GVSU-04GVSU-04 member

    I generally follow up saying I had the c section because LO was breech. Post c section, I've never felt judged. My high school students were freaked out about, but that comes from immaturity and lack of knowledge.

    I had one negative comment where I did have to defend to a coworker before the birth. I said I was having a c/s on 9/1. She had asked if I was going to be at school that day. Even after explaining why, she launched into a rant on how drs these days (she's older) are too quick to cut, her kids flipped right before their due date, etc. I just smiled & said that I trust my dr who has been doing this fr a while and has gone to medical school. She still probably judges me though. Does not affect me in the slightest.

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  • salsa_wifeysalsa_wifey member

    I didn't really realize it until now but I do.  I tell people I have a scheduled c-section and they look at me weird.  Then I tell them my story of being induced on the 23rd and my son not being born until the 25th via C-section resulting in him needing to go to Special Care the entire hospital stay.  I tell them I don't want to go through that again.  I want my baby in my room with me.

    I know I shouldn't feel like I need to defend and frankly anyone who knows me knows I would have scheduled a c-section from the beginning rather than trying to push out a watermelon.  I tried the natural route but it wasn't in the cards for me and I was fine with that.

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  • whirlybird27whirlybird27
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    I have gotten some comments and how I answer them just depends upon how pissy I feel that day and who is making the stupid comment. 

    Normally I just tell them that I am just too posh to push and then laugh at the look on their face.

    If they feel they need to be agressive with me or it is a complete stranger I give them a gory detailed story of how I am built like my grandmother and how she lost several children due to her pelvic area being to small to get the children out.  I figure if they are going to be that nosey and rude then they deserve to hear a terrible gross out story. 

    But then I tend to enjoy making people who ask stupid questions uncomfortable :)

    You=my hero :-) 

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  • whirlybird27whirlybird27
    imageaprillle:

    I have gotten some comments and how I answer them just depends upon how pissy I feel that day and who is making the stupid comment. 

    Normally I just tell them that I am just too posh to push and then laugh at the look on their face.

    If they feel they need to be agressive with me or it is a complete stranger I give them a gory detailed story of how I am built like my grandmother and how she lost several children due to her pelvic area being to small to get the children out.  I figure if they are going to be that nosey and rude then they deserve to hear a terrible gross out story. 

    But then I tend to enjoy making people who ask stupid questions uncomfortable :)

    You=my hero :-) 

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