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FFFC?
Do we do that? C'mon!
Here's mine:
I have a "friend" who is "engaged" to a total scum bucket. They had a LO right around the time my DS was born, and 3 months before that the OTHER girl he got pregnant had his baby, and had her new boyfriend sign the birth certificate, well low and behold, they are pregnant again. Other than the fact that the last time we visited, they were running their electricity off of a generator, because the power company shut them off for non payment, and the fiance decided to break the lock, and turn it on himself. So the power company padlocked their meter, until they paid the 700 dollar fine. Also he posts pictures of his soon to be SS holding big rifles, that are not registered, on his facebook. Tells him that if he has an accident (he's 4) he will beat his ass/make him take a cold shower. They also have had 3 or 4 dogs in the past 1.5 years, that they get rid of, because instead of training, he just kicks the sh*t out of them, then says "He don't listen." and sends them on their way.
Did I mention our last visit to them lasted about 15 minutes when said fiance pulls out some "legal weed" and tries to get my friend to smoke it while feeding their daughter. This was the precise time we left. The guy is a former friend of my H's from HS and thinks he's thug life, when the fact of the matter is he grew up in a cornfield in the middle of nowhere. (Reminiscent of the movie "White Boys")
They have no money, rely on the government and still I hear all about his flat screen and new xbox all over facebook.
Now you're thinking, okay where are you going with this?
My confession: 1.) I would really like to call CPS on this guy, my friend's heart is in the right place, she loves her kids, but she isn't very intelligent, or self assured. She has no one to turn to if she decided to leave, and compared to her life before him, she has it good... I guess. I just don't want to screw her over, but I fear for those kids, and I'm pretty sure he has decided the best way to supplement his income is selling drugs.
Oh and my second, worse confession? I'm freaking jealous that she is having another baby, and I'm being responsible, and waiting until we are in a better place financially/emotionally to have another. I know it isn't the right time, but seriously, if that train wreck gets another baby why not me?
So ladies, any dirty little secrets?
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The guy is a former friend of my H's from HS and thinks he's thug life, when the fact of the matter is he grew up in a cornfield in the middle of nowhere. (Reminiscent of the movie "White Boys")
I have no confessions, but I LOVE that movie White Boys.
Uhmmm call CPS.. You don't want to screw her over..so you sit and watch. Seeing as he tried to get her to smoke weed while feeding her baby clearly shows they do drugs around their child. Goodjob. Flame free or not this is flameworthy.
My FFFC is what piss's me off is people know children are in danger and don't do anything about it.
Yes, they are done here. My confession:
If this "train wreck" is really your "friend", then it sounds like she needs some emotional support. I get that you are jealous of his super sperm and her golden ute, but this whole thing makes me a bit stabby.
This sounds a little familiar. So I will add to this FFFC topic!
Background info: My cousin-in-law (who everyone believes has an eating disorder - and I'm not saying that flippantly) got back together with her ex fiance (who left her at the alter). They are living on welfare, she's trying to get disability checks, and has no interest going back to work because she would prefer to spend her days at the pool. Her ex-fiance got arrested last year in connection with a drug ring that involved cops. He got off with a wrist slap because he cooperated with the police investigation. His new gig? To be sent from New England down to AZ to do carpet cleaning (DH and I suspect there's something illicit going on there as well).
Confession 1: While they try to take the "easy" or more like "lazy" way out, they have two children (a girl that's hers and her druggie on again bf and his son that he had with another woman while he was engaged to her) living with them. I've never met the son, but the daughter is starved for attention. The only way she get's any clothing, fun, and sometimes food is because OTHER family members pay for it - while her mother and father decide to take trips they shouldn't/can't afford (like Disney and Mexico!). I would love to call CPS on them. They not only put "fun" for themselves over providing for their children, but they are starting to teach her that education gets you no where. Live off the state so you can spend your days at the pool.
Confession 2: We wrote in our will the if anything were to happen to DH and I, the DD is to NEVER be left alone with my cousin-in-law or anyone that she is intimately familiar with (BF, spouse, or just a friend) and I have no regrets
I'm trying to be supportive of her emotionally. She just buzzes around pretending everything is hunky dory, and would never admit to anything being wrong with her relationship.
I'm not super close with her, but I really feel like I should do something. I just hate the idea of her kids being taken away from her. She has no support from her family, so moving away from this scum ball wouldn't be possible.
I am pretty frustrated about the whole thing, and really wish she would have taken my constant urgings to get an IUD, since she couldn't "remember" to take her BCP.
Don't get me wrong I know its flame worthy, but I guess I am having trouble getting past the guilt of making her life hell.
I agree though, if she thinks this is okay, then someone needs to advocate for those kids. That person has got to be me.
And yeah, I'm jealous that he has super sperm.
Legal weed =/= weed. Also, I know something needs to be done, I just don't/didn't know what to do. The family those kids could get sent to, (his) is just as horrible, and the foster system sucks.
A social worker won't take away the kids if it isn't warranted. At least a home visit may shock your friend into seeing that the way they live is not good for kids. The smartest of women get blinded by "love" and need a reality check to set them straight.
You're 100% correct. I will do just that. I just wish she would ditch this loser.
I will call CPS. I did call animal control, they visited the home, but the dog doesn't have any visible injuries, so they didn't do anything. They are at this time dog-less.
Like I said before, I have been struggling over this for a while, the overwhelming response from you guys has definitely driven me to do what should be done.
This isn't your average FFFC, it's deserving of it's own thread. I'm glad someone else started a new FFFC thread.
You have to call CPS no matter what the mother is going through and no matter your relationship with the mother. Children are defenseless and it's our job to defend them. The mother isn't protecting them and so someone else will need to go in and do that. If you see someone harming a child, then you are obligated to report it. So don't feel one ounce of guilt for reporting.