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Parenting after 35
jigglyjelloo
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WWYD?
jigglyjelloo
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So now that DH has found a really good job he has the opportunity to work some OT shifts. 2 OT shifts a week will bring in more money for us then what I make working 5 days at the job I am at. In order for him to work OT I would have to quit my job because he would no longer be able to drop DD at daycare in the AM.
I was very fortunate that I was able to spend almost the first whole year at home with DD, but now that she is in daycare I see that she has been missing out in the socialization and I think that I have not been giving her the 'education' that she gets from her teachers there.
I would feel bad to quit my job and stay at home while still sending DD to daycare, but I enjoy working (not necessarily at this job) but I do know that in the past 2 years that I have not been working I really missed it and missed socializing with other adults.
I know that me quitting and DH doing the OT and pulling DD out of daycare would be financially the best option right now for our family. I would look for another job with a schedule that would work for me doing both drop off and pick up for daycare for DD, but would it be worth pulling her out while I find something then have to have her readjust all over again?
I want to make the choice that is best for our family, but I also need to consider what is best for myself. I spent 2 years not being able to work due to immigration/pregnancy/maternity leave and I really miss the adult interaction and I know I have lost a little bit of myself over the past few years. I am so torn as to what to do 
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Re: WWYD?
If you enjoy working and your DD enjoys daycare- I'd find another option. You're essentially talking about quitting because of TWO mornings a week that are a scheduling problem.
Could you talk to your boss about adjusting yoru hours for the days your DH works OT? Could you go PT?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I am now working part-time and find it's a pretty good balance. Paloma gets to go to school and see her friends, and I get to go to work and be a grown-up too.
Financially, it's not ideal, but we make it work. Plus, I plan to be working FT in the future so I want to keep my foot in the door and my skills up-do-date.
Good luck, whatever you choose.
Start thinking outside the box. Is there a friend or neighbor who can take your kiddo to daycare twice a week? Maybe a parent of another child?
As for you needing adult time.. I hear ya there. But there are other outlets for that, besides just a job. Mom's groups are awesome for that. Do you belong to a church that has a women's group? Book club? Maybe just a few neighbors you can organize with for a few fun outings? Then you could go part time with work and still get your "adult" fix.
Thanks for all the suggestions. I have thought about many of them. I have already asked at work about adjusting my schedule, and since it is in manufacturing, they can't really adjust it.
We really don't have any friends or family that live anywhere near us (most of our neighbours that live around us in the apartment complex do not even speak english).
I have joined a few mom's groups while I was on Mat leave, but being an older Mom I just didn't really fit in. Most of the ladies in the groups were in their very early 20's so between the generation gap and me being from a different country I have really struggled to 'fit in'. I am from Canada, but it is amazing how different the culture is here in the south compared to where I come from.
I am going to look for another job that has hours that will work with Daycare, but if I don't find one soon, I am still unsure of what I will do. I am leaning toward quitting my job and pulling DD from daycare (they don't have a part time program). Just when we thought we had things all on track....sigh!