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laina2012 · February 2012

My confession:

DH and I are using February as a "No Spend Month." Where we don't spend any money except to pay the bills. ...Yesterday I bought 2 new cocktail dresses because I have a cocktail party to attend tonight and DH and I are going to the symphony tomorrow. DH has no idea those dresses are new. Embarrassed

lob · February 2012

Cobra11:
lob:
Cobra11:
lob:
I am getting more and more annoyed with people on TB (and in general) who refuse to consider medical opinions or scientific studies. I am not saying that people should just accept "expert" advice, but it should at least be acknowledged.
Example. I hate when people give anecdotal evidence to refute scientific findings. It doesn't matter that your FF baby didn't get sick often. The studies are talking about trends!! I'm glad that your baby was the exception.

I'm going to assume this is directed towards me. The "it's not best for all babies" comment is more from the mom aspect. I was MISERABLE BFing, I'll even venture towards depressed. I am not lying when I said I hated every minute of it.
People pick and choose which studies they will listen to. I can guarantee there are some BFing mothers who will not RF until 2 even though it is proven safest for baby.
It actually was not directed at you. I have been thinking this for months.
I honestly have nothing against people who try to BF and find that it doesn't work for them. No problems at all!! I would agree that in your case, BF wasn't right for you. BF-ing shouldn't make someone depressed. I am sure you are a better mother for stopping BF-ing, which I guess, is better for your baby in the long run.
I just think that people like to say BF-ing is not good for all babies as a way to justify their actions.
My apologies for assuming. Why is "I just don't want to" not a good enough reason? It's not like someone is saying, "I don't want to feed my kid"

If it's good enough a reason for you, that is all that matters. We all have to make choices and live with any resulting consequences. Not saying there will be consequences. LOL. Sometimes I hate having conversations online!

lob · February 2012

red1976:
Cobra11:

My apologies for assuming. Why is "I just don't want to" not a good enough reason? It's not like someone is saying, "I don't want to feed my kid"

My thing is - "I just don't want to" is absolutely good enough! My peeve is when people hide behind other reasons b/c they just won't say "I just don't want to". They say "it's too hard" when they tried for a day in the hospital or they try to say there's no diff btwn FF and BF, which studies have shown over and over that there most definitely is.

This too! I think Red said it better than me!

Matt Dvorak · February 2012

Bgood8507:
snoopy3319:
Cobra11:
Crash Into Me:

It's more fun to have differing opinions. Kinda like the UO yesterday. Action on the board!

But then the flamefull confessions turn lame like, I let my baby cry for 5 whole minutes yesterday.

Eh, 2 of mine were lame. I usually don't participate in UO or FFFC because I don't have anything other than my kid rolled pretty far underneath the bed in 3.5 seconds when I wasn't paying attention.

Meh. Send the dog under there to fish him out.

I leave my baby unattended with my animals. Yup...indeed. I trust them with my life, so why wouldn't I trust them with his? We knew when we got our animals that there would be a baby in the picture some day. I've been pulling on their tails and ears since day 1. LO doing it is no different.

I love when the discussions are heated. Difference of opinion makes the world go round. Keep it coming ladies!

Yup, I leave him on the floor in the same room with my dogs all the time! It seriously freaks the hell out of my parents and IL's...but I know my dogs, they seriously wouldn't hurt a fly....and my one dog won't roll over for many people, but always, always, always rolls over for kids under the age of 5...he knows he needs to just deal with it...(although we do not let kids be mean to them, and my child will be taught the right way to treat animals!)

haha - I can't do that with my cat. DS and the cat are WAY too interested in each other now and DS has a very strong grip. I'm afraid of what the cat would do to DS if he grabbed her hair or tail. Also, the cat loves his little feet when they're moving and I'm not sure if she realizes to be more gentle with a baby than with us.

laina2012 · February 2012

lincolngirl:

I'm super proud of DH and I for the size of a house down payment we have saved, our credit scores, the size of a home loan we qualify for, and the lender telling us that we are in way better shape than most of the people he sees apply lately. I can't go telling people this IRL or it might come across as gloating - but we have worked hard and sacrificed a lot to get where we are today and it makes me very happy. Now we get to enjoy the fact that we can be super picky about houses and only look at those in the best school districts, with no repairs/updates required, and with walking trails right near by.

We just got pre-approved for a loan yesterday and are looking at a house that we are pretty excited about tomorrow, so that is why this is on my mind:-)

You should not feel like this is gloating. You should be proud of yourself! Congrats! I hope the hosue you see today is fantastic!

Matt Dvorak · February 2012

laina2012:
lincolngirl:

I'm super proud of DH and I for the size of a house down payment we have saved, our credit scores, the size of a home loan we qualify for, and the lender telling us that we are in way better shape than most of the people he sees apply lately. I can't go telling people this IRL or it might come across as gloating - but we have worked hard and sacrificed a lot to get where we are today and it makes me very happy. Now we get to enjoy the fact that we can be super picky about houses and only look at those in the best school districts, with no repairs/updates required, and with walking trails right near by.

We just got pre-approved for a loan yesterday and are looking at a house that we are pretty excited about tomorrow, so that is why this is on my mind:-)

You should not feel like this is gloating. You should be proud of yourself! Congrats! I hope the hosue you see today is fantastic!

Thanks (and also thanks to the pp who commented!). I come from a working class family where living paycheck to paycheck is the norm and also a lot of my closest friends are going through things like divorces right now so I feel like I have to keep all of my happiness about this to myself :-)

Cobra11 · February 2012

lob:
red1976:
Cobra11:

My apologies for assuming. Why is "I just don't want to" not a good enough reason? It's not like someone is saying, "I don't want to feed my kid"

My thing is - "I just don't want to" is absolutely good enough! My peeve is when people hide behind other reasons b/c they just won't say "I just don't want to". They say "it's too hard" when they tried for a day in the hospital or they try to say there's no diff btwn FF and BF, which studies have shown over and over that there most definitely is.
This too! I think Red said it better than me!

Ah, ok. Well then I think we all agree, right? BFing is better, "I just don't want to' is a good enough reason. Lying is bad. Yayyy! Another boring FFFC because we all agree lol

dinonugget1517 · February 2012

lob:
Cobra11:
lob:
Cobra11:
lob:

I am getting more and more annoyed with people on TB (and in general) who refuse to consider medical opinions or scientific studies. I am not saying that people should just accept "expert" advice, but it should at least be acknowledged.

Example. I hate when people give anecdotal evidence to refute scientific findings. It doesn't matter that your FF baby didn't get sick often. The studies are talking about trends!! I'm glad that your baby was the exception.

I'm going to assume this is directed towards me. The "it's not best for all babies" comment is more from the mom aspect. I was MISERABLE BFing, I'll even venture towards depressed. I am not lying when I said I hated every minute of it.

People pick and choose which studies they will listen to. I can guarantee there are some BFing mothers who will not RF until 2 even though it is proven safest for baby.

It actually was not directed at you. I have been thinking this for months.

I honestly have nothing against people who try to BF and find that it doesn't work for them. No problems at all!! I would agree that in your case, BF wasn't right for you. BF-ing shouldn't make someone depressed. I am sure you are a better mother for stopping BF-ing, which I guess, is better for your baby in the long run.

I just think that people like to say BF-ing is not good for all babies as a way to justify their actions.

My apologies for assuming. Why is "I just don't want to" not a good enough reason? It's not like someone is saying, "I don't want to feed my kid"

If it's good enough a reason for you, that is all that matters. We all have to make choices and live with any resulting consequences. Not saying there will be consequences. LOL. Sometimes I hate having conversations online!

I totally think you are awesome LOB, however, I think you could have used a better word other than "consequences". I totally know what you are trying to say here...but being a FF mom, this totally made me wince (sp?)...

NotSharknado · February 2012

red1976:
Crash Into Me:

It's more fun to have differing opinions. Kinda like the UO yesterday. Action on the board!

But then the flamefull confessions turn lame like, I let my baby cry for 5 whole minutes yesterday.

But then the puppies and rainbows will go away. And I will be sad

Hmmmm. That sounds familiar.

Cobra11 · February 2012

LindsRockies:
I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.

Same here. I'm super bitchy though. We can be friendz.

lob · February 2012

Bgood8507:
lob:
Cobra11:
lob:
Cobra11:
lob:

I am getting more and more annoyed with people on TB (and in general) who refuse to consider medical opinions or scientific studies. I am not saying that people should just accept "expert" advice, but it should at least be acknowledged.

Example. I hate when people give anecdotal evidence to refute scientific findings. It doesn't matter that your FF baby didn't get sick often. The studies are talking about trends!! I'm glad that your baby was the exception.

I'm going to assume this is directed towards me. The "it's not best for all babies" comment is more from the mom aspect. I was MISERABLE BFing, I'll even venture towards depressed. I am not lying when I said I hated every minute of it.

People pick and choose which studies they will listen to. I can guarantee there are some BFing mothers who will not RF until 2 even though it is proven safest for baby.

It actually was not directed at you. I have been thinking this for months.

I honestly have nothing against people who try to BF and find that it doesn't work for them. No problems at all!! I would agree that in your case, BF wasn't right for you. BF-ing shouldn't make someone depressed. I am sure you are a better mother for stopping BF-ing, which I guess, is better for your baby in the long run.

I just think that people like to say BF-ing is not good for all babies as a way to justify their actions.

My apologies for assuming. Why is "I just don't want to" not a good enough reason? It's not like someone is saying, "I don't want to feed my kid"

If it's good enough a reason for you, that is all that matters. We all have to make choices and live with any resulting consequences. Not saying there will be consequences. LOL. Sometimes I hate having conversations online!

I totally think you are awesome LOB, however, I think you could have used a better word other than "consequences". I totally know what you are trying to say here...but being a FF mom, this totally made me wince (sp?)...

I tried coming up with another word for a good minute!

Cobra11 · February 2012

lob:
Bgood8507:
lob:
Cobra11:
lob:
Cobra11:
lob:

I am getting more and more annoyed with people on TB (and in general) who refuse to consider medical opinions or scientific studies. I am not saying that people should just accept "expert" advice, but it should at least be acknowledged.

Example. I hate when people give anecdotal evidence to refute scientific findings. It doesn't matter that your FF baby didn't get sick often. The studies are talking about trends!! I'm glad that your baby was the exception.

I'm going to assume this is directed towards me. The "it's not best for all babies" comment is more from the mom aspect. I was MISERABLE BFing, I'll even venture towards depressed. I am not lying when I said I hated every minute of it.

People pick and choose which studies they will listen to. I can guarantee there are some BFing mothers who will not RF until 2 even though it is proven safest for baby.

It actually was not directed at you. I have been thinking this for months.

I honestly have nothing against people who try to BF and find that it doesn't work for them. No problems at all!! I would agree that in your case, BF wasn't right for you. BF-ing shouldn't make someone depressed. I am sure you are a better mother for stopping BF-ing, which I guess, is better for your baby in the long run.

I just think that people like to say BF-ing is not good for all babies as a way to justify their actions.

My apologies for assuming. Why is "I just don't want to" not a good enough reason? It's not like someone is saying, "I don't want to feed my kid"

If it's good enough a reason for you, that is all that matters. We all have to make choices and live with any resulting consequences. Not saying there will be consequences. LOL. Sometimes I hate having conversations online!

I totally think you are awesome LOB, however, I think you could have used a better word other than "consequences". I totally know what you are trying to say here...but being a FF mom, this totally made me wince (sp?)...
I tried coming up with another word for a good minute!

It's just one of those times where the internet cannot properly explain your POV. FTR, it did not offend me.

Cobra11 · February 2012

LindsRockies:
Cobra11:
LindsRockies:

I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.

Same here. I'm super bitchy though. We can be friendz.

Hee hee, you need to add your judgemental "made the cut" bage back to your siggy. I those ecards.

Can I fit all three in there? LOL, I should add it back though it describes me perfectly.

Cobra11 · February 2012

LindsRockies:
Cobra11:
LindsRockies:
Cobra11:
LindsRockies:

I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.

Same here. I'm super bitchy though. We can be friendz.

Hee hee, you need to add your judgemental "made the cut" bage back to your siggy. I those ecards.

Can I fit all three in there? LOL, I should add it back though it describes me perfectly.

Try it! I think if you make it a thumbnail it'll work!

Ha! It does fit, but it's totally bothering me that it's not the exact same size as the other 2.

red1976 · February 2012

LindsRockies:

I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.

I could have written this. I was a diff person on TTGP.

Cobra11 · February 2012

Crash Into Me:
Cobra11:
LindsRockies:
I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.
Same here. I'm super bitchy though. We can be friendz.
Well, we all know where I stand on this topic.

LOL, yea and people like you anyway! I'm a way bigger b!tch in real life than on TB for sure.

Cobra11 · February 2012

LindsRockies:
red1976:
LindsRockies:

I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.

I could have written this. I was a diff person on TTGP.

I AM a different person on TTGP. Also, I'd like to personally invite you all to come over and post. Even if you're not TTC. It's a fun place.

I dunno...all the board police with their..."YOU ALREADY HAVE A BABY, YOU STOLE MY BABY, HORS!!!" (totally needed all caps)

Cobra11 · February 2012

LindsRockies:
Cobra11:
LindsRockies:
red1976:
LindsRockies:

I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.

I could have written this. I was a diff person on TTGP.

I AM a different person on TTGP. Also, I'd like to personally invite you all to come over and post. Even if you're not TTC. It's a fun place.

I dunno...all the board police with their..."YOU ALREADY HAVE A BABY, YOU STOLE MY BABY, HORS!!!" (totally needed all caps)

True true, there is some of that. But most people are really cool with people having kids or trying for a sibling.

As long as you aren't starting threads AWing your kid or your pregnancy, no one cares. And I'd kick some arse if they tried to start anything.

LOL, I think I've posted once? Only when something really funny happens. I'll try again

red1976 · February 2012

Cobra11:
LindsRockies:
red1976:
LindsRockies:

I loved the UO thread yesterday. There is entirely way too much P&R on this board.

I confess that I have purposefully held back my true opinons/responses to threads because I was afraid I'd get crap for being a jerk & unsupportive.

I could have written this. I was a diff person on TTGP.

I AM a different person on TTGP. Also, I'd like to personally invite you all to come over and post. Even if you're not TTC. It's a fun place.

I dunno...all the board police with their..."YOU ALREADY HAVE A BABY, YOU STOLE MY BABY, HORS!!!" (totally needed all caps)

I dunno either .. I only post in threads where I know peeps. I know the board etiquette is diff but I go by how it was when I was there.

eatmorecupcakes · February 2012

My confession? I don't agree with half of what Cobra says, but it doesn't make me love her any less. If anything it makes me love her more.

Also, I teach and I don't like most of my kids this year. This has never happened and I felt bad at first, but hey.....it's just the truth. I would never tell anyone IRL this. Sometimes I want to look at them and say,"Are you effing kidding me??!!", but instead I grit my teeth and say things like, "Isn't there a better choice you can make? Let's think about smart choices."

Oh, and eesome's badge making skills make me want a badge that says "My birth was better than yours" for the sole purpose of annoying people.

I'm on a roll today...I love breastfeeding. I think that it helped me bond with LO better. I say this because he was SUPER colicky and the boob is the only thing that would calm him down. I worry what our bond would be like if I hadn't.

snoopy3319 · February 2012

eatmorecupcakes:
My confession? I don't agree with half of what Cobra says, but it doesn't make me love her any less. If anything it makes me love her more.
Also, I teach and I don't like most of my kids this year. This has never happened and I felt bad at first, but hey.....it's just the truth. I would never tell anyone IRL this. Sometimes I want to look at them and say,"Are you effing kidding me??!!", but instead I grit my teeth and say things like, "Isn't there a better choice you can make? Let's think about smart choices."
Oh, and eesome's badge making skills make me want a badge that says "My birth was better than yours" for the sole purpose of annoying people.
I'm on a roll today...I love breastfeeding. I think that it helped me bond with LO better. I say this because he was SUPER colicky and the boob is the only thing that would calm him down. I worry what our bond would be like if I hadn't.

I think you should do this. I'd love to have a badge like that, but it would be more like, "my kid almost killed me..take your birth story and shove it"

kmpage28 · February 2012

I am part of a "Biggest Loser" group at work and fell off of the diet wagon last night: stopped at McDonalds last night on the way home for a quarter pounder and just finished an entire calzone for lunch. I am sick of depriving myself, and am experiencing a "diet rebound"...time for a better balance.

I am getting a bit bored with the 3-6 month board with the new moms (3 month old babies) asking the same questions over and over again but totally acknowledge that I was one of those Mom's. Looking forward to some new topics in the 6-9 boards in 2 1/2 weeks...

BabyQuizzle · February 2012

I have a FFFC for the first time I think!

I fed my DD deep fried sweet potatoe tater tots Tuesday night . . . from a food truck . . . and after she ate the whole order minue the few I snagged, I thought "There were probably fried in peanut oil!" Oops! She survived and they were DELICIOUS!

JaysonandKristin · February 2012

Birth remorse is lamesauce. Some people really need some perspective.

mandyhall2882 · February 2012

I'm sick of hearing about cloth diapering, breastfeeding, and natural births.

/dead horse/

snoopy3319 · February 2012

LindsRockies:
JaysonandKristin:

Birth remorse is lamesauce. Some people really need some perspective.

What is this? Like being sad you had a C-section or something?

Yeah. Pretty much. Granted, until you've been there, I'm not sure you understand. I get stabby when people tell me to get over my birth. I will shank you!

dinonugget1517 · February 2012

snoopy3319:
LindsRockies:
JaysonandKristin:

Birth remorse is lamesauce. Some people really need some perspective.

What is this? Like being sad you had a C-section or something?

Yeah. Pretty much. Granted, until you've been there, I'm not sure you understand. I get stabby when people tell me to get over my birth. I will shank you!

Yes Yes ...totally agree

eatmorecupcakes · February 2012

snoopy3319:
Yeah. Pretty much. Granted, until you've been there, I'm not sure you understand. I get stabby when people tell me to get over my birth. I will shank you!

Hehe. I love you a little more each day Snoopy.

lob · February 2012

eatmorecupcakes:
snoopy3319:
Yeah. Pretty much. Granted, until you've been there, I'm not sure you understand. I get stabby when people tell me to get over my birth. I will shank you!

Hehe. I love you a little more each day Snoopy.

Me too!! Snoopy rocks. And I'm joining in with the shanking...

Cobra11 · February 2012

eatmorecupcakes:
My confession? I don't agree with half of what Cobra says, but it doesn't make me love her any less. If anything it makes me love her more.
Also, I teach and I don't like most of my kids this year. This has never happened and I felt bad at first, but hey.....it's just the truth. I would never tell anyone IRL this. Sometimes I want to look at them and say,"Are you effing kidding me??!!", but instead I grit my teeth and say things like, "Isn't there a better choice you can make? Let's think about smart choices."
Oh, and eesome's badge making skills make me want a badge that says "My birth was better than yours" for the sole purpose of annoying people.
I'm on a roll today...I love breastfeeding. I think that it helped me bond with LO better. I say this because he was SUPER colicky and the boob is the only thing that would calm him down. I worry what our bond would be like if I hadn't.

LOL, it's okay I love you too. We don't all have to agree on everything as long as it's in a respectful manner. Unless it's like..my kid will ride in the front seat when he's 2, because I will juuuuuudge you.

lob · February 2012

eatmorecupcakes:
My confession? I don't agree with half of what Cobra says, but it doesn't make me love her any less. If anything it makes me love her more.

BnchaNums · February 2012

Oh, I actually have a good one.

I left one of those amazon pg tests laying around in the bathroom and H came in all serious and asked me about it.

I laughed and said, "Oh don't worry, I'm not pregnant."

He says, "Uh, I know. The fact that you tested makes me want to know if you're having an affair."

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

I just can't figure out why my period still isn't here....

dinonugget1517 · February 2012

BnchaNums:

Oh, I actually have a good one.

I left one of those amazon pg tests laying around in the bathroom and H came in all serious and asked me about it.

I laughed and said, "Oh don't worry, I'm not pregnant."

He says, "Uh, I know. The fact that you tested makes me want to know if you're having an affair."

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

I just can't figure out why my period still isn't here....

This made me giggle....

eesome · February 2012

BnchaNums:
He says, "Uh, I know. The fact that you tested makes me want to know if you're having an affair."

HAHAHA! This is great.

Tell your DH when I had my son, it took 2.5 months post weaning to get my period. Sometimes it takes longer. ENJOY it!

x0stephanie · February 2012

mandyhall2882:
I'm sick of hearing about cloth diapering, breastfeeding, and natural births.
/dead horse/

I'm sick of hearing about "how many oz is LO eating now?" and diaper blowout posts. :P

mandyhall2882 · February 2012

x0stephanie:
mandyhall2882:
I'm sick of hearing about cloth diapering, breastfeeding, and natural births.
/dead horse/

I'm sick of hearing about "how many oz is LO eating now?" and diaper blowout posts. :P

Everything gets over talked about! LOL

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