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Can we vent today?
It's 9am and the ex already has me so p!ssed. Please let me vent because i don't have anyone else to *** to ex about. Warning this is going to be long with lots of run on sentences.
Last night he's mad because I asked his mom to take DD to gymnastics because I had an appointment to go to. Said I'm not allowed to ask his parents and I am taking advantage of them by asking his mom to drop DD off. Mind you he can't see the kids during the week because he chose to take his work truck home to save gas since he lives in Kyle with his GF. So after work in PF he has to go straight to Kyle. If I want to date I have to ask him to watch the kids or his parents. Nice right? He only sees the kids now on weekends when he doesn't work so everything is around his work schedule. Or he picks them up on Saturday at noon and brings them back Sunday at 2 and hasn't fed them lunch. We were supposed to buy DD bunkbeds together. But not the mattresses because I'm furnishing my house so I should pay for those. Fine. Then last night he says he doesn't know why he's helping with the bunk beds since it's furnishing my house. So I just told him I would buy them. He always likes to point out that he bought everything in the house and paid the bills. I'm lke hello d!ckwad who bought groceries, paid all the things related to the kids, paid when we went out, insurance and the car? I think he thinks he kept me at home and he was a sugar daddy. He forgets we paid all our furniture using tax return money that WE received. Doesn't surprise me since this is also the man that didn't ever put gas in my car even when we travelled in it because it was my car. AND THEN this morning he tells me he wants his engagement ring back because it's his. I put up with his ass for 8+ years and he wants to use my ring to trade it in to get the GF an engagement ring. OMG what was I ever thinking staying with this man.
Ladies please tell me all men aren't like this because right about now I never want to meet another man again. Not that I can date, you know since it has to be around the ex's schedule.
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Re: Can we vent today?
Oh honey. I'm sorry. First of all, NO not all men are like that. He sounds like such an a$$. You can do so much better.
Second, I can't remember if you were married or engaged when you broke up? If you were married I'm 99% sure you legally don't have to give the ring back no matter what. And if I were you I'd sell it and use the money to buy the best bunk beds ever made.
No, all men are not like this. Not even most men (though some people may disagree with me.) There is definitely a good man who is responsible, caring, and not an azzhole, who will fall in love with your and your kids. You can totally have your own happy-ever-after.
I'm sorry your ex is being such a douchenozzle.
WOW. I hate saying this, but it doesn't sound like he was ever in it for the long haul. What a d-bag. I'm sorry he's stressing you out so much. And NO, not all men are like that.
Mine? Day two of constant (but mild) nausea. Feels like I'm pregnant, but I get to be on my period, too! I wish it would stop, this is miserable.
If he wants the ring back, it's going up his a$s. At least, that's what I'd say.
And NO. Not all men are like that.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
This.
I'd tell him that he can't have the ring back because you spent it on a deluxe vibrator and then say, "I figured I was owed at least some pleasure from having dealt with you for so many years."
Awesome!
FTW.
And then, for real, use the ring money to buy some top notch PBK bunks. Go for the plush mattresses, even.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I'm no help in the "all ment aren't like that" department.
Let's see ... "D"H decided that I was lousy at paying the bills, because we never had any money. I'm sure it had nothing to do with him spending nearly $2000 a month on alcohol
When we seperated all our money, he took over the bills that were in his name (I'm still paying the bills in my name. No way I'm trusting him with my perfect credit score). Well, he hasn't paid anything except the car payment for his precious car. He hasn't paid the electric bill, he hasn't paid the cell phone bill, and he paid the gas bill using MY account
.
And now? He's out of money. He did give me part of what he owed me to pay the bills in my name, and then spent the rest at bars and what not. And now he's broke. So I guess his plan is that I'll be living at my mother's paying the mortgage on a house that has no power? And he'll be couch surfing like he's been doing the last few months? Well, except he started travelling for work again, so he has a hotel room to stay in.
Oh and did I mention that in 2011 he made HALF the money he did in 2010? Because he's mad at me for "taking 3 months off work" (you know, maternity leave?! Hello, he took a month off, too!) and then only working "part time" i.e. 35 hours a week.
I cannot WAIT for him to come home and see that I've redecorated my new bedroom. He's going to flip his *** that I spent money on home decorations. I really didn't though. I've sold the old decor to pay for the new decor. But I just know that's going to be an awesome conversation. And yes, I realize I'm redecorating a house that I'm not going to get to live in, apparently. But it gives me a "project" and makes me feel better.
And ... Zoloft does not work for shiit. I still spent 30 minutes on the floor crying because the power cable to my monitor quit working the other day. I'm a mess.
Oh, SLB.
My vent is that I am having my first PP period, and I swear my ute may be falling out. Or, it's just eating me from the inside. OUCH. Also, I am bloated to about 4 months pregnant. Awesome.
I know I should be glad that I've had a good run for 2 years without a period, but I seem to be making up for lost time in one day.
I pity the fool that crosses my path today, like my poor boss. Oopsie.
Your first? I'd say lucky, but that sounds sucky (haha, I'm a poet today).
Right.
I previously (ha ha ha haaaaa) thought that the intermittent "spotting" I've had was a period. I was mistaken. This is epic.
My vent is that while it looks like the antibiotics are working on Molly's double EI, the rash she has on her face and hands is looking MUCH worse. I have no idea what is causing it and it's freaking me out. I have another appointment with her doctor today at 2:30 and I'm afraid they're going to see me as *that* mom. But seriously it looks awful (see below)!!
I guess the good thing is she doesn't seem to be bothered by it at all, but still.
I think it's probably some kind of contact allergic reaction but I have no idea to what. Ugh!!!
Warning - icky rash picture of my beautiful little one:
Awww, your poor baby, MrsAJL.
I hope you get that worked out soon.
I'm so burned out on school I'm not even trying anymore and that makes me sad. No matter what, I WILL finish in 2012, though.
(((hugs)))
Are y'all divorced?
Ladies, I just want to give you all hugs. I am wishing you strength to tell all the people/stuff in your life " that" when needed.
Feel free to use the Homer Simpson as appropriate:
Like, you want the ring back? Homer Simpson.
Nausea + period? Homer Simpson.
Scheduling around some ass clown and/or paying for a house you're not living in? Hell no + Homer Simpson.
Doctors think you're coming in to the office too much with your sweet baby? Homer Simpson.
Try it, you'll like it.
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Nope, still married, just not very happilly
LOL!
SLB - Zoloft didn't work for me either, I've heard great things about the wellbutrin patch.
Oh and some days you just need to cry, meds or no meds. Do you need a spare cord, we have a crap load of them at home?
Can you take her to the dermatologist? We had to do that with the rash DS has.
My vent is that I am so sad. Sad for myself (although, really, I should be thankful for what I have and forget what I don't or that work is totally kicking my ass), sad for MrsAJL's baby, sad for Caglebaby's Sarah, sad for Nessia and "I want the ring back" jackass (well obviously not sad FOR him), sad for SLB, sad for all of the shiit that people on this board are going through. From what I can tell, this group is made up of some pretty wonderful, selfless women who don't deserve the crap they are being dealt right now.
And, WTF is wrong with people? The break-ins, separating mom from kids, the whole LA school mess, and another, similar situation at my home church. Really, just WTF is wrong with people? Yes, that bears repeating.
I love Homer, that is awesome. Thanks, GuavaGal!
Oh, and sad for LL's first PP visit. I am really not looking forward to that.
all i got is i'm about to sit on the phone for 4 hours while my team in chi-town is together in the same room for a "working session". oh, and i need to find time to pump. they may not even notice if i sneak away from the phone and come back 20 minutes later.
Geez. Thank you! I was starting to worry that you were not sad about the state of my ute. Now I am satisfied.
Sorry, that sucks! He sounds like an a$$.
Do y'all not have a custody agreement? If not I would go get one now, like right now. My brother played the no custody agreement game with his Ex (not ex-wife, just ex) for years. Basically she dropped off their daughter whenever is suited her and he had no say in the matter. He did not want to rock the boat but not having anything in writing made everyone miserable. (well, not the mom :P) You should not have to change everything on a weekly/daily basis to accommodate his schedule! As far as his mom helping you, tell him to suck it up that is between you and her and none of his business.
Good luck!
Nessia, you are SO SO SO better off without that jackazz. Don't give him the ring, it's yours, eff him. SLB, I'm sorry!
LL, you deserve a happy ute and AJL, you deserve your healthy baby back.
FCB, sorry you're burnt out. I don't blame you. You're schedule makes me tired just thinking about it... Less than a year, less than a year, less than a year!
I hope I didn't forget anyone.
Mine isn't a vent, but I'm sad too. Today is the anniversary of my Dad's passing.
AJL - Poor Molly!! That is scary stuff, especially as a Mom. Don't worry about being "that" mom. Lots of dust for her, and you!
1. Y'all are so sweet.
2. I need to retract my previous *** fest. He has the money for all the bills in another account (side note ... now I know he has a secret account
). And he just called and apologized for being an *** this morning. Granted, that doesn't make up for him being an *** most of the time, but my specific vents about him not having any money is null. Never fear, I have plenty more to go on. Ha!
And I'm happy today. Most days I'm doing very well. Yesterday sucked. Like, cry in HEB sucked, but like you said - some days you just need to cry. And I do know how good I have it with my sweet baby girl. She (and chocolate) make everything better! Oh, and I have a power cord. I also have a crapton of them. One of the benefits of being the computer biz.
Of course I am sad for your ute. Hello, I do not want to cross you today, I must be sad!
I always knew you were smart.
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I'm so sorry. ((Hugs))
I'm sorry, dear. Hugs.
I'm also sorry for what everyone is going through. Hugs to all.
I'm late to the party, but mine is much more minor than most. I just finished my 10 days of Provera and it kicked my assss! Much worse symptoms than I've had in the past with it. I'm feeling insanely b!tchy and I've cried like 3 times already today. Please God make this be PMS and let me start soon!
We'll see what her pedi says again today. Would I take her to a pediatric dermatologist?
You could, but my regular derm says that he also sees babies, so you could ask your regular derm (if you have one) if he will see a 1-yr-old.
Ditto RSSN! Dr Cepeda just sent us to a regular dermatologist not a pediatric one.