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May 2012 Moms
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Facebook sucks
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I really dont like that everyone has left here to go to the Facebook Group...its not the same and I just cant get used to it or keep up with it!!! Im considering asking another month group if they wouldnt mind me joining them since it so boring around here lately!
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Re: Facebook sucks
Wait, so everyone in the group can see your page and all your info? If that's the case I'm staying here...I feel ya on the privacy thing.
Oh, I don't know about that... I just meant having everyone know my real name and where I live. I'd guess that whether or not everyone can see your profile or who else you're friends with depends on your privacy settings.
I didn't even know there was a FB group until yesterday
So clearly I won't be on it either
I don't use Facebook much, and am not about to start.
Boy/girl twins born at 37w1d and 37w2d
Honestly, it depends on your settings. If you have it set to "friends of friends," then probably - because everyone is friends with the May Moms address. I have my page set to only my friends being able to see it, so only those people I accept as a friend can see, but I have befriended a ton of the May moms anyway. The Facebook page is actually way more personal than the Bump, but everything you post on it is private and only seen by the group so no one can see what you post on your newsfeed or anything like that. Plus, as long as your settings are correct, like I said, no one can see your page unless you want them to.
I love The Bump and the Facebook page. It has been slow here, but it is hopping on the page. I can access both from work, but can only access Facebook from my phone so I enjoy that I have 24/7 access to my May moms on Facebook haha. It is a great group - I think it's become much more closer now that everyone is a "real" person (not that we aren't real on the Bump, but to actually see a name with a face, rather than a screen name, makes it even more real for me). We are even throwing a virtual shower for a May mom, which I think is freaking awesome! May moms rock (both here and there)!! :-)
It's a private/"secret" (Facebook's term) group so nothing posts on your personal page at all or on your newsfeed.
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I'm on both but I can't facebook throughout the day and by the time I get home, there is SO much to catch up with! It's overwhelming!
I will say that FB is easier to navigate on my phone when I'm just lounging around or in bed.
Oh! How do I join?
Follow the instructions in this thread from this morning!!
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/63139416.aspx
Follow the instructions in this thread from this morning!!
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/63139416.aspx
The group is 'secret' meaning you see nothing from it on the wall. None of your friends see what you post on the group page either, and I'm pretty sure that if you set your security just right, I could see your post on the may FB board and click you and only see that you only give out info to your friends. It does however show your real name and a profile pic. I can see both sides to this.
Corbin | born 4.19.12
Baby boy #2 | due 4.13.15
Yup, I posted this same thing last week. The bump is slow and I definately can't keep up with FB and don't like going through pages and pages of things. Plus, I don't know who is who like I know peoples screen names on here.
I don't know what to do to have people come back on here either.
I'm due right in the middle of the month, so I can't jump boards like PP suggested.
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No. It is a private group that you friend. So everyone is just a mutual friend of May 2012. If you have your page set to private, then the ladies on there won't see anything on your page. Also with that being said, since it is a private group, nobody that is your friend on Facebook will see what you post on the May 2012 Moms FB (unless of course they are on the May moms FB too). I hang out on both. I can't get to FB from work so during the day I hangout on TB, and I occasionally check in on my phone. During the evenings when I'm laying in bed, I check out the facebook page. There's good info and good people on both. As a first time mom, I like having both resources.
It really is a matter of preference, to be honest...
I personally like the FB page better, because it's not so anonymous. I like being connected to "real" people, and by real I mean I can see what they look like, and I know their name. On here, it's great, but not as personal... and I'm all about people.
But some people worry a lot about privacy, which I understand. What they may not realize is that none of their friends can see what's posted on the FB page, and no one on the FB page can see their personal info unless they're friends on FB (in addition to the group).
It can be hard to keep up with, but it's also easier to post things and get replies because of FB's notification settings. On here, I always felt like I had to dig to find out what people were replying to my questions, which was a pain. Not to mention The Bump always locks up on me at work.
This. It's a private group so none of your friends/family can see your posts in the forum and none of the FB group can see your posts on your personal FB page. A few of us have "friended" each other, but that is completely a personal choice.
exactly. I'm happy here even if it is slow. I have work to do between bumping.
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There is little to no drama on the FB board and is more private (IMO) than TB. Not that there was a lot of drama in the group on TB but pretty much any other page you are kinda asking for it. I have made some real friends on FB that I don't think I would have ever made that connection with on TB.
My computer must hate TB cause it takes forever to load and when I try to post it locks up. And I feel bad because I would have liked to been there for DrRx with all of her issues. But most people come and check back in.
And yeah there are a ton of post on FB because of us SAHMs but pretty much the hot topics are on the front page. And you can edit your settings to where you don't get the notifications.
So in short. To each their own.
I don't think that was the purpose of the Facebook group (to "replace"). I still post here all the time.
Uh oh... does that mean I should be spending less time on the FB posting things? I am far from a SAHM and sometimes I feel like I am a post-hog hahaha.
I do think that a con is how fast the FB group moves. It's pretty much impossible to keep up on it all. And if a post stops getting replied to, you essentially lose it under all of the more current posts.
Whereas on TB, you can do a search or filter by multiple results, or even click a screen name to find a thread. I prefer that capability.
I still post here. I just feel often that I don't have something additional to contribute to most posts (which is true of FB for me as well). I like having both. I don't have e-mail alerts so the frequency of updates don't both me (since FB limits it to one notice -- despite how many posts have been added).
I don't feel insecure having my information out there. My profile is locked down to friends only, including most of my photos. I'm okay with people knowing my name, state, and seeing a profile picture of me (small as it is).
Just so you know, if you are interested in keeping up with a post, you can just click "follow post" or "follow thread" something like that, while on Facebook! Also, the thing I love about the threads in Facebook is that you can mention a person's name directly if/when you are responding to them and they will definitely get a notification for that and that way they will not miss your response to them.
If you can't Facebook at work, I agree that it sucks that the FB group sucked some of the activity out of this board.
However, as someone whose wedding was taken from a local Houston Knot board and paraded around multiple Knot national boards as "tacky" (I had a peacock-inspired wedding 4 years ago, thank you very much), I feel more comfortable in a private FB group. Not only have my feelings not been hurt by anonymous insensitivity, I love it for the following reasons:
1) Immediate gratification. I ask a question - it's answered. Pronto. Numerous responses. Even if it's something stupid like "I'm eating a giant bowl of pico."
2) Variety of post topics. I find that there is a redundancy here, which is to be expected, but I don't miss.
3) No a-holes wasting my time creating false identities and asking for help with something that isn't really an issue. The FB group has helped to console and pray for women experiencing all kinds of tragic and challenging life events...none of which, I believe, are faux drama.
4) Privacy. It's a different kind of privacy, and you have to be smart enough not to have your settings looser than what you want, but I feel zero risk of something I say there turning into a nationwide flame fest. Why would I care if you know my full name? Granted, I have a common name and you can already Google plenty about me, but I think that's a silly worry.
5) Activity level. It's as entertaining as I want it to be, and as long as I have the willpower to walk away and don't have OCD about reading every post (who has the TIME!? to even do that here!?), it's lovely.
I love both. I do miss a couple faces from here, for sure.
If you would like the opportunity to make true real life friends that you can interact with as a person and not a screenname, then the FB page is for you. There are several girls who have already met up with each other. There are meetups scheduled for groups that live close together. It's a more personal experience that could give you the potential to make life long friends.
If all you want to know is why your vag is extra soggy this month, then TB can provide you with those answers.
But then again, all the nice ladies on the FB page would be glad to talk about your soggy vag without being judgemental, so it's just a matter of personal preference.
I personally like to lurk on TB and avoid the drama that it comes with and participate on the FB page