My husband is going to be leaving for a remote assignment in April. I have the option to go, but we selected the unaccompanied tour instead. The list of reasons as to why I am not going is somewhat long, but here is the key points. We have a two year old to move to a base with no services at all only one working building on base and a three lane bowling alley and 10 base houses I don't think would be good for either my daughter or I mentally (the nearest grocery store is even 85 miles away), we own our home at our current base and have lived here for 4 years we are planning on putting the house on the market and if the house sells before the remote is over we will move back with family, I have a great job here at our current base with a good income we have been able to save a good amount of money.
Well today the first shirt called my husband and gave him the third degree over why I wasn't coming. He kept saying this indicates financial problems, failing marriage, and if she does move back to OR if your house sells your family will not have any medical care.
First, why would they offer unaccompanied status if they require you to go or look down on you if you don't? We don't have financial problems at all. We have zero debt besides our home and have been saving nearly my entire salary for the last 4 years. We have a been married for 10 years and not going to claim it has been perfect we are 100% committed to each other. Next I already contacted the Tricare office to ensure based on our location we still would have medical and it was explained to me this would not be a problem.
The First Sgt said he was still very concerned and would be talking to the commander and calling back my husband on Monday. I am all for people wanting to take care of their people, but I really think this is crossing the line. My husband and I are very private people and I find it beyond insulting for the third degree he is getting.
Thoughts and advice is needed. Thanks ladies.