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November 2011 Moms
::unpopular opinions::
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Re: ::unpopular opinions::
This is absolutely not true. There are alot of women who have very small pelvis areas and they cannot birth a 7 pound baby let alone a 13 pound baby. My aunt had 3 boys and during her first birth they realized very quickly she wouldn't be able to naturally deliver a 7 pound baby because of how her pelvis was shaped. She had a c-section. Sure the doctors could have let her try to push a baby through her small pelvis, but then you're risking her baby's life because what if he got trapped and stopped breathing while trying to push through? Having a healthy baby should always be the #1 priority.
I don't pull hair. You might want to put a nut-cup on though.
This is my post, c and p'd from the csection/v-bac post earlier today.
I'm really torn on this. Like most PPs, I wanted a vaginal birth and had a c-sectiond due to unforeseen circumstances. I am still having difficulties processing my c-section and do feel like I missed out on...something...by not having a vb.
But then I look at my son, and realize it doesn't matter HOW he got here. He's here, he's healthy and he's perfect. I guess I'll have to consult with my doc when I TTC again.
At the same time, I've also seen posts of women who had VBs and they also complain. I don't think it's fair to single out one section of birthing methods and say "you can't complain about it". By your logic, NO ONE who has had a child can complain about it.
I really dislike facebook. It seems very silly and a little self-indulgent. Is it really necessary to have 800 friends? And how about remembering my birthday by sending a card or calling me? With the amount of time and energy people spend on all having all these acquaintances, they could be focusing on real life friendships. But then I'm the person who prefers to only have a few very close friends.
I love cats. I hate dogs. That seems to be unpopular. They are everywhere, people carrying them around in their purse. That is just weird.
Are you allergic to everything? I saw a true life episode once on teens who were allergic to, like, everything. It was really depressing.
Yes, *** happens, I agree (my mom had my brother via emergency c-section and it saved both their lives). I do know a number of people who were told they might have big babies, had a c-section and had a 7ish lb baby. My neighbour a couple doors down just had her LO with c-section because it 'fit with her schedule' and the dr. agreed. That gets me annoyed. Having a baby is not a convenience thing.
I have a small dog (toy poodle) and I can't stand when people dress up their dogs or put them in purses! Marshy wore a sweater one time after he had to be shaved in the middle of a particularly nasty winter, but then he learned to just do his business quickly. My dog walks on a leash when he leaves the yard, and I only carry him in parking lots.
Not an unpopular opinion. I think everyone pretty much agrees with you, except maybe the broads who had elective c/s at 36 weeks because they were sick of being preggo. I was really thinking someone was going to throw out a "there is no reason for a c/s, ever! It's god's will!"
I'm slightly disappointed.
My question for these people is "Why did you bother to have kids in the first place?" They need to stop treating their kids like ornaments to be taken out on occasion to be admired, and be a real parent.
My unpopular opinion is that I think it's unprofessional when people spend a lot of time playing on the internet when they are being paid to do a job. I'm all for checking email every once in a while, or using your break time to play online, but if you are on the clock and entertaining yourself for excessive amounts of time - it's the same thing as stealing IMUO.
In this economy, jobs are hard to come by. If you can't do an honest days work for an honest days pay, time to give the job to someone who can.
I totally agree with this one. I find most social media is a colossal waste of time. Most of the people with 8000 friends can't carry on a conversation with a real live person.
I hate people who think they know everything about animals even though they haven't had a day of training as a veterinary medical professional. Yeah I get people are smart and learn things along the way, but when you argue about sh!t because you read something on the internet and automatically believe you are right, you're an idiot.
Also, (most) breeders are NOT right about medical stuff! Don't believe your breeder versus your veterinarian. Does the breeders name have DVM after it? Nope. (However, I do believe that a good breeder will know extra things about their specific breed that maybe not all veterinarians know off the top of their heads).
Also, if you buy a puppy from a store, you ARE buying a puppy mill dog. The paper work is probably bullsh!t. You are not 'saving' that dog - you are supporting the puppy mills buy giving them your money.
I think that's all. kthx.
Certified Veterinary Technician / SAHM
Well, sorry to disappoint
. I believe it is God's will that there are scientists and doctors to help us when we need it.
I have gotten after kids/parents for such behavior. Last year at our town's 4th of July fireworks display, this kid kept screaming at the top of his lungs wheh the fireworks would go off making it hard for many of us unfortunate enough to sit near the family to enjoy the show with our families. This was just the icing on the cake; prior to the show the kid was running around causing trouble. I had had enough with the 3rd time the kid screamed. I stood up and said to the kid if he was so scared (clearly he was doing it for attention since he was about 7 or 8), then maybe he needed to go find his mommy. He dad yelled at me and I didn't back down, telling him his problem with his kid needed his attention right now. Finally the mom went to go sit with the kid and he stopped screaming. I had several people around us applauding my actions. I'm not telling you how to raise your kid, but if you want to be out in society, you gotta play by society rules. You don't want to....fine go back home!
Are you talking about formula feeding? If you are, here is my unpopular opinion:
There is way to much pressure to breastfeed these days. I agree it is very healthy for baby. I did it for 7 weeks and then went to formula for many reasons and it has been better for our family. Breastfeeding doesn't work out for everyone for many different reasons and whatever those reasons are, people need to be respectful. Formula is good nutrition too and as long as baby is healthy, what does it matter?
I am sick of people talking about breastfeeding and making me feel bad that I am no longer doing it. Don't judge me or tell me how to feed/raise my child when everyone's situation is different. Flame away.
She's talking about Front Facing (FF) and Rear Facing (RF). I had to read it a few times too.
To thsyrsgirl and people on the internet at work. Yep, today I am one of those people. Tomorrow I might not be. That's ok, you're not my boss or my employer.
Thanks for clueing me in! That is still my opinion about breastfeeding tho.
I also feel people who bash breeders typically don't know very much about it, why people do it, etc. I agree buying from pet shops support puppy mills.
I will wake my baby to change her diaper. I worry too much about her getting a rash. I understand when people make points about STTN. But I cant consciously allow her to sit in a dirty diaper.
I'm EXTREMELY allergic to my pets (esp my dogs). I have allergy induced asthma. Yet still LOVE going and showing them at dog shows.
I love Kelly Osbourne's lavander hair.
I love all the MTV shows: battle of the ex's, teen mom, etc
I hate when EBF moms think their baby is constipated. OMG I see this all over the boards and for crying out loud...a BF baby CAN NOT be constipated!! Breast milk is a laxative. Babies go through many stages of pooping lots and then less often as their digestive systems become more efficient and they use more nutrients during growth spurts.
Ok got that off my chest.
I used to spend my work days on tb and online shopping. There wasnt much work for me to do........... Don't hate lol
Some days I just don't have enough work to do to fill up 8 hours. If there are no bills to pay, I don't have anything to do. And with 2 assistants that are still learning, I pass work onto them so they can get experience. So yeah, I will go online and piss away some of my time, but I make sure at the end of the day that my work gets done.
That's what I had stated. Not ALL breeders are bad. As you stated, there are TONS of 'breeders' out there that do it for money, or for the experience, or because it's 'cool' or whatever (I know a girl who bought a Dane (who hasn't ever had dogs of her own) from a store and wanted to breed it because she thought that'd be really cool... ugh).
I had stated in my post that good breeders DO know more about their breed than a lot of veterinarians, and I did not say anything about assistants. As a vet tech though, I don't know much about a lot of 'specifics' of a lot of breeds, but for some I do. Same would go for veterinarians. Good breeders should know a lot about the animal they are breeding. If they don't, that's a good clue that you're going to be buying a puppy from a moron.
Also, just for the record, I didn't once 'bash' any breeder.
Certified Veterinary Technician / SAHM
Yeah, I was totally talking about Front/Rear Facing, lol
I wouldn't be one to talk about moms not breastfeeding anyway, I tried for almost 7 weeks & 6 of those were pumping! It's crazy hard & I was sad that I couldn't continue but I just wanted the best for me & my LO..
Baby Boy #2 is on the way!
I guess I just don't understand why you want to even start letting your LO CIO when they are so young. Sure, after 15 minutes he gets to sleep, but I don't see why you can't hold or rock LO. I just think CIO and sleep training is a little much on a baby under 4 months old. Let them figure it out. You might lose a little sleep, but you will survive. I'm not trying to say you are a bad parent, your baby is unhappy, etc. I just don't understand why people do this. I feel like it is for the convenience factor, and having a baby =/= convenience.
Posting from an Android sorry for any errors
This! I have blocked people from my feed for this offense..drives me nuts!
Baby Boy #2 is on the way!
Sounds good, no offense taken
Oh, and I agree, not all breeders are bad people but unfortunately, as you know, there are a lot that are, which really sucks. It makes continuing to bred high quality breeds a tough thing because of all the back yard breeders and those that breed poor quality dogs.
Also (not aimed at anyone): Your "huntin' dog" ain't gunna hunt any better with them testicles there. Nor does he look any more "badass" with those big tumors waiting to happen hanging down.
Certified Veterinary Technician / SAHM
I can't wait for Obama to be out of office. I just don't see that he's doing any good.
However, I'm not sure that the GOP can actually get their act together enough to get him out...
I think learning to sleep and fall back to sleep is a skill that parents need to teach their children, just like learning to walk or talk or ride a bike. Sometimes there is crying involved with learning, sometimes we're going to have to push our children out of their comfort zone. How you teach your child those skills is up to the parents. And how much crying is involved usually has a lot to do with the temperament of the child.
Just because it's 70 degrees does not mean you should break out the daisy dukes. It is still February.
With that being said I can't stand UGG boots with shorts or cowboy boots with dresses. It makes me cringe.
well said.
I have a love/hate relationship with the big c/s debate. I really hate how people have such a distrust for their docs. Sure there are those docs that will convince a woman to have a c/s because he has a golf game to get to...but if you educate yourself you will know what warrants a c/s and what doesn't. stand up for yourself...and if you think you'll be too caught up in the moment then educate your loved ones that will be there with you and have them do it. educate yourself on the risks of a vbac and decide if you want to face those risks. educate yourself on the risks of going post-term and delaying a medical induction. Most doctors don't just send you to the OR for fun...its for the health and safety of your kid. if you want to go against your docs advice then its on you.
I could have very easily ended up with a c/s. I was induced at 41 weeks. my water was broken for almost 30 hours and i was very slow to progress. but LO was fine, I was fine, and we trucked along and had a successful vaginal delivery. I'm a NICU nurse and all that bad sh!t that can happen...I've seen it. I've seen babies get stuck and die. I've seen babies die from meconium aspiration. I was absolutely terrified. But I told my doc that I trusted her to get LO here safely and that was all that mattered to DH and I.
The one grammar error that makes me want to get up and smack somebody:
"would of"
As in, "I would of taken out the trash, but I forgot."
Along the lines of the c/s discussion.. my doc explained her reasoning for recommending a c/s, but said that she would be willing to induce me if that's what I really wanted. I went with the c/s, because the possibility of the particular scenario that she outlined her concern about scared the crap out of me. I'm sure that 50% of you ladies, maybe more, would have opted to try to induce. I didn't, and I'm glad I didn't, because LO is safe and sound. Maybe she would have been just fine with the induction, maybe not. But when it comes down to it, I'm not about to judge ANY woman over her decision one way or another. As a mom, you have to weigh the outcomes for your baby and live with the consequences, good or bad. How can any mom tell another mom what option is best for her LO?
ETA: The c/s reasoning was not "big baby", but if she had presented me with the possibility of shoulder dystoxia (sp?) because of a big baby, I'm sure that would have scared me into a c/s, too. To me that's scary stuff. Just because some women have birthed 13 pound babies doesn't mean we're all cut out for that. The news story could just as easily have turned out very differently.
Like.
I hate mommy martyrs. The I'm a better mommy than you because I FF, BF, RF, CIO, AP, bedshare, give rice cereal, don't give rice cereal, have my kid STTN, am up every 30 minutes during the night with my kid, vax, dont vax, SAH, work, etc....wears me the F out.
Make the best choice for your kid. Dont impose your judginess on others. You know YOUR kid...not EVERY kid....so you don't get to decide that your way is best for everyone.
Ok this one might be unpopular...
I think it's selfish not to get your children vaccinated. There is a reason we don't see polio/small pox etc anymore. There is a reason babies aren't dying from the measles anymore. But if more and more people choose not to get their children vaccinated those diseases will spread through the population again. We are so lucky to live in a time where vaccines and antibiotics are available and we can prevent unnecessary deaths.
Agreed.
My UO--I think all things Disney are the devil. It's a bastardization of literature, mostly sexist cash cow that we will not be contributing to in any way.
Completely agree!