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jenmom2girls
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Teen pregnancy not really an accident.
jenmom2girls
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I was reading the UO thread and I seen that someone was talking about unplanned pregnancy and talking about teens who were accidently getting pregnant. My thing is that most teen pregnancies are planned. When I was in school in my graduating class there where at least 10 pregnant girls and I can honestly say only one of those was truly an accident. The rest all in my group of friends was one girl getting pregnant and then telling everyone else to do it and they did. Even in the class below us this was the case. A lot of it had to do with well if I get pregnant I can drop out, get married, move out of my parents house, or keep my boyfriend. My husband and I were dating in high school we broke up a couple of times and even my own family told me to get pregnant and he would come back to me. Of course I could never do that to him. Actually while we were broke up another girl tried to do that to him he was smart enough to stop sleeping with her. I don't really have a point here I just can't stand to see people talking about teen pregnancy like it?s such a complete shock to everyone when it happens, but most of those girls know what they are doing. I do feel bad for the guys though because they don't have a say this was all the girls doing in the case of my school anyways.
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Re: Teen pregnancy not really an accident.
They don't know how to wear condoms? Yikes.
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Ummm......
how awful? Where they raped?!!?
edited: RAPED with ONE P as to get panties out of a bunch.
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I'm going to go out on a limb and say this is by far not true everywhere. Teen pregnancy in my old high school is still a huge scandal and very few would get pregnant on purpose.
Didn't pregnancy "pacts" just start a few years ago? Are you 20?
I'm waiting for someone to make an elitist comment that everyone jumps all over.
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Ok, I am not saying the boys were rapped as someone put it, but the girls I knew knew how to get what they wanted and they were relentless. If they couldn't get a baby from this guy they would move on to the next. Maybe it is Arkansas. I watched this happen in my class all the way down 6 years to my little sisters graduating class. She did get pregnant on purpose so she could marry her POS boyfriend. SHe also had about 4 or 5 friends who did the same thing. They all got married to these guys like they wanted and they are all know divorced from them.
I do believe that there are a few accidents, but not many.
Same here. Only one girl got pregnant at my school (one of my friends actually) and it was a huge deal, it was not on purpose either. It was a very small school though, so maybe less students mean less pregnancies?
ETA: We had/have a very good sex ed program though too.
Blanket statement (check), anecdotal evidence (check), poor grammar (check), no use of paragraphs (check).
*Waits for shenanigans to ensue*
I am 27 and you are crazy if you really think that shiit just started a few years ago.
Anecdotal:
Our middle school and high school offered sex-ed as part of our health class. Parents could opt kids out if they didn't want their kids to take sex-ed in school.
Almost every girl who's parents opted her out of the sex-ed classes was pregnant or had a kid by senior year.
No joke.
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You really think that is were I am getting my info from? I told you I watched this stuff happen to my own group of friends. They said they wanted babies and they went out and got themselves pregnant.
Ok, there was no need for that, but if you want to get snarky, I'll say what I really think. It's a proven fact that people get pregnant and married younger in podunk southern towns over any other place, so, I have no doubt that this happened at your HS.
I'm sure I'll get flamed for this, but I think your situation is the rare one, and that these "pacts" or whatever are largely based on environment/location. Where I grew up, teen pregnancy was very rare and not "cool" or a plan - I graduated with almost 1200 other kids, and I honestly can't think of one person I knew directly or indirectly that was or tried to get pregnant.
One reason is that in my school (just a plain old middle class/upper middle class suburb of Detroit), most of the students went on to college after high school - there was no talk of marrying your high school boyfriend to escape your parents or get out of the house or your town. Pregnancy was not a "way out", and I don't think it is in most cases.
No offense to Arkansas, but I disagree that most teen pregnancies are planned.
That is my point though. They only think it through to the point of having a cute squishy baby. This is why they think it's okay they are not thinking about all the hardship that comes with it. I didn't know one single girl who wanted to give that baby up or abort it.
It's none of your business, Sookie.
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Know *** duh sweetheart.
My SIL got pg at 20 to try to keep her POS boyfriend- I love my nephew, but she really screwed him up, and his dad is barely around. I had just met DH and I remember her saying she was going off her BC and thinking she was crazy. She was a little older, but it's the same childish mentality, so I believe that it could be true that in some schools it is a trend.
BTW my SIL also got knocked up on purpose by another guy 3 years ago and they are split too - so she may be a special case...
Quality sex education can go a long way. My school started it in 5th grade, I was 10. They did things that were humiliating and frightening, and it f'ing worked. I know not one single person who got pregnant in high school. I lost my virginity very young but I was on the pill and he wore condoms. Not all teenagers are stupid.
My half-siblings who were raised in Kansas where sex education isn't placed in such importance.....all had children by the age of 20. Every one of them.
Thank you! This is exactly what I am talking about!
This. I really think "it won't happen to me" is the most common reason.
sookie ftw
For you who went to college and were married, yes. For them who barely graduated high school and work at Dairy Queen? No.
Well, you'll want to thank your mother for a butt like that.
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