Did you ever notice?

MoFree · February 2012

It seems that women on PAIF do not beotch and whine and freak out over pg symptoms the way women on the BMBs do. Another reminder how we come from different worlds.

ELF4321 · February 2012

I almost flipped out the other day when there was a post of women on my BMB complaining about how much they hate being pregnant and how they would have their babies today if they could be sure they'd be healthy. Really, we're not even in 3rd Tri yet? I can honestly say that in spite of aches, pains, etc., I am not in any hurry to be done -- I know this is almost certainly my only pregnancy and I want to experience every minute of it.

naybird · February 2012

ELF4321:
I almost flipped out the other day when there was a post of women on my BMB complaining about how much they hate being pregnant and how they would have their babies today if they could be sure they'd be healthy. Really, we're not even in 3rd Tri yet? I can honestly say that in spite of aches, pains, etc., I am not in any hurry to be done -- I know this is almost certainly my only pregnancy and I want to experience every minute of it.

THIS!! Exactly!!

We had to work so much harder to acheive our pregnancies we are completley grateful for every ache and pain. We also see so many of our friends still suffering and dealing with IF, so we know how lucky we are and we don't take any of it for granted.

When people ask how I'm feeling I tell them I've never been so happy to feel completley miserable in my life!

MoFree · February 2012

A few women on my BMB even wrote they hate being pregnant. Try NOtT being pregnant and see how you would cope.

kelnyc · February 2012

I cherish (almost) every twinge and ounce of bloat because it means there's a baby in there. Sure, I feel crappy some days, but it's so worth it.

mandalinn25 · February 2012

Oh I so agree. I really have to bite my tongue. Although I have spoken out a time or two and of course I am the b!tchy one. Oh well.

DeputiesWife · February 2012

yes. all the time.

i have nothing to complain about. I am tired and have bouts of nausea. But after wishing, hoping, praying, and dreaming for this for over 3.5 years. I will take it all! And be thankful!

beth0874 · February 2012

Oh know and I just posted a "is this pain normal" type post below. But I know what you mean. As long at the pains are normal, I am happy to have everyone. I just still worry that it is all too good to be true and it will just be taken away from me. But this is why I tend to just lurk on my BMB. I don't feel like I belong and I get aggravated with a big percentage of the posts. I just wish our board wasn't so quiet

lovebug33 · February 2012

Totally agree. There was a pg. woman across the hall (not on the bump) and all she did was complain. One day she looked at me and said, "You're lucky you can't get pg. This is hell." I lost it all over her (didn't help I was pumped full of IVF drugs!). I don't care that the pink pills make me dizzy or that I feel like puking or that I am so tired I can hardly stand up. I will take that any day over not being pg. Although, I can't wait to not be pg and have my baby!

drubie · February 2012

I do think though, that most PAIF women feel like they can't complain about feeling crappy during pregnancy because of everything it took to get here. I don't feel guilty at all about reminding my husband that I'm nauseous alllllll the time, and I need him to do the food prep, and help me out quite a bit more. But I also am fully aware that this too, shall pass, and at least I know that I can get through it, and that our precious baby will be there. With IF, I never knew what the end date would be. That was so much harder than feeling sick, needing 10+ hours of sleep each night, and having to be on bedrest. I will take that and be grateful, but I don't feel guilty about feeling sick and telling people what I need to feel better.

labbylover03 · February 2012

beth0874:
I just still worry that it is all too good to be true and it will just be taken away from me. But this is why I tend to just lurk on my BMB. I don't feel like I belong and I get aggravated with a big percentage of the posts. I just wish our board wasn't so quiet

This exactly! I keep thinking I'll intro to my BMB and yet I just continue to lurk.

leolyns · February 2012

mandalinn25:
Oh I so agree. I really have to bite my tongue. Although I have spoken out a time or two and of course I am the b!tchy one. Oh well.

We're on the same BMB and I know what you mean. I have noticed different maturity levels but not sure if it's an age thing or not, I think a majority are under 30.

FraggleChic · February 2012

lovebug33:
Totally agree. There was a pg. woman across the hall (not on the bump) and all she did was complain. One day she looked at me and said, "You're lucky you can't get pg. This is hell." I lost it all over her (didn't help I was pumped full of IVF drugs!). I don't care that the pink pills make me dizzy or that I feel like puking or that I am so tired I can hardly stand up. I will take that any day over not being pg. Although, I can't wait to not be pg and have my baby!

I hope you throat punched her.

FraggleChic · February 2012

Someone on my BMB was bitching about no longer fitting into her size 3s. Seriously? You're pregnant. Get over it.

ELF4321 · February 2012

FraggleChic:
lovebug33:
Totally agree. There was a pg. woman across the hall (not on the bump) and all she did was complain. One day she looked at me and said, "You're lucky you can't get pg. This is hell." I lost it all over her (didn't help I was pumped full of IVF drugs!). I don't care that the pink pills make me dizzy or that I feel like puking or that I am so tired I can hardly stand up. I will take that any day over not being pg. Although, I can't wait to not be pg and have my baby!

I hope you throat punched her.

Yes

lovebug33 · February 2012

I didn't throat punch her, but I gave her a tongue lashing like she's never had before. She cried. I didn't feel bad.

naybird · February 2012

sorry Bump Burp!

naybird · February 2012

FraggleChic:
lovebug33:
Totally agree. There was a pg. woman across the hall (not on the bump) and all she did was complain. One day she looked at me and said, "You're lucky you can't get pg. This is hell." I lost it all over her (didn't help I was pumped full of IVF drugs!). I don't care that the pink pills make me dizzy or that I feel like puking or that I am so tired I can hardly stand up. I will take that any day over not being pg. Although, I can't wait to not be pg and have my baby!

I hope you throat punched her.

Agreed!!!!

wordslikeswords · February 2012

While I agree for the most part, there are some things that can happen that really are complaint-worthy. I did 2 IVF cycles to conceive this baby, but when I hit 30 weeks and got sciatica so bad I cried every time I took a step.. cried myself to sleep trying to get in a comfortable position, and still woke up vomiting...it sucked. It didn't make me any less thankful for this baby and I'd do it over again tomorrow but you can bet I complained about how much it hurt.

DrRx · February 2012

Totally. I saw that post on my BMB about hating being pregnant and that they just wish that it would be over. And so much complaining about such petty and trivial things on both BMB and the Tri boards. I mean, it's ok to vent, but come on.

Umm..it took me 3 years to get pregnant...and then I find at the fetal echocardiogram at 22w6d that I have severely low amniotic fluid, which is a serious pregnancy complication...and then move in to the High Risk Unit at the hospital (today is Day 22!) and have been told by MFM and my OB that I will most likely stay here until I deliver (which hopefully won't be until March and I'm due in May), which will probably mean she will be early and need the NICU.

So, do I complain or b!tch and moan about it? NO!!! I do everything that I can to stay positive and make sure that this little girl has the best chance at everything! DH and I were talking last night and he said that what we're doing now is parenting, doing everything possible for the well-being of our child. We have basically put our lives on hold for our child. He has spent every night for the last 21 nights here at the hospital with me and for that I am grateful.

Can you imagine how some of those people would be if they were faced with all that we were faced with going through IF, and then faced a pregnancy complication?

krismott25 · February 2012

i'll be honest, and i'll probably get lashed for this, but i can't wait to be unpregnant....keep reading please.... i just want them here so i know they are ok. i'm, on a daily bases, scared to death something will happen to them. so yes, i can't wait till this pregnancy is over so i can see my kids faces, hear them cry, know they are breathing. i know i should enjoy it but i'm anxiety ridded over every ache and pain i have. i of course don't want it to be over prematurely but 38 weeks can't come soon enough.

PrettyAccountant · February 2012

honestly, I can't even go on the BMB - I think the majority of these woman are self absorbed, whining beeotches who need to walk in our shoes for a day. They have never shed a single tear while we have shed a million. They honestly make me sick. I made the mistake of lurking on the baby shower board as well - Holy Crap - now those women should be spade.

missjul61 · February 2012

Totally. I can't even fathom hating the blessing that is pregnancy.

lovebug33 · February 2012

krismott25:
i'll be honest, and i'll probably get lashed for this, but i can't wait to be unpregnant....keep reading please.... i just want them here so i know they are ok. i'm, on a daily bases, scared to death something will happen to them. so yes, i can't wait till this pregnancy is over so i can see my kids faces, hear them cry, know they are breathing. i know i should enjoy it but i'm anxiety ridded over every ache and pain i have. i of course don't want it to be over prematurely but 38 weeks can't come soon enough.

I agree with you. I am excited to be pg. and can't wait to feel the baby and everything else but I really just want the baby to be okay and I will only know that when she's on the outside! However, i am going to enjoy every single moment of being pg. because this might be my only chance!

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