Ideally, how many kids do you want?

mamainseptember · February 2012

DH and I originally decided if the next baby were a girl we would be done since we'd have one of each gender but now I'm not sure. I'd ideally love to have 3, regardless of gender. What about all of you?

hopkins5 · February 2012

2

DreadLoc · February 2012

Two, maybe three.

MarSamWhitney · February 2012

In a perfect world, 2 or 3, but I am one and done.

KoalaBear103 · February 2012

I'd like to have one more after this baby. But DH is pretty sure he wants to be done after baby girl arrives.

2mommiesinoh · February 2012

Ideally we would like a big family 4-5.

Realistically 3, but would be done at 2 if the next one is a boy.

WiscoMom67 · February 2012

I had always thought 2-3. We're currently TTC #2, and we've both pretty much agreed that #2 will be it for us. Practicality and money win out for us.

With two you can:

Divide and conquer - one parent per one child.

Fit in a standard car without siblings "touching."

Fit in a standard hotel room without "extras."

Pair up for rides/games/chores/whatever without things being uneven or someobody feeling left out.

(I know some of these don't really apply until the children are older, but that is still a consideration for us.)

I see all the advantages to two, but that may be because we've pretty much made our decision and I'm trying to see it in the best light possible. Good luck!

mamainseptember · February 2012

KoalaBear103:
I'd like to have one more after this baby. But DH is pretty sure he wants to be done after baby girl arrives.

This is my DH, we are starting to TTC this month and he keeps saying if this one is a girl he wants to be done, I'm hoping I feel the same way after the next baby!

CD+AL · February 2012

4 maybe 5 but DH's limit is 4. I know, I know...overpopulation and all, but you did say ideally.

MrsMSG · February 2012

We always wanted 4. We will still be very open to adoption after this final biological pregnancy, but...I think our family is complete.

MamatoA2010 · February 2012

I'm one and done Big Smile

KoalaBear103 · February 2012

mamainseptember:
KoalaBear103:
I'd like to have one more after this baby. But DH is pretty sure he wants to be done after baby girl arrives.
This is my DH, we are starting to TTC this month and he keeps saying if this one is a girl he wants to be done, I'm hoping I feel the same way after the next baby!

My DH said this as well. Once we found out it was a girl he just said "well we're done". I'm a young mom and I told him at my age I could not say I was done having children. I don't even know if I'll want another after she's born, but I was happy that he agreed to discuss it again in a few years. I was so not ok with completely saying I'm done at my age.

BelleIsa · February 2012

I'm pretty sure DH would be happy with just the two, but I'll see how I feel in a couple years.

KJmashup · February 2012

I would like one more, sooner rather than later. I didn't realize how difficult that was going to be for me to achieve, so I wish we would've started trying sooner.

rnfromtn · February 2012

Definitely 2 at least. Possibly 3 depending on finances and where we are in 4 years. Either way, I am done at 35....okay, maybe at 36.

mamainseptember · February 2012

KoalaBear103:
mamainseptember:
KoalaBear103:
I'd like to have one more after this baby. But DH is pretty sure he wants to be done after baby girl arrives.
This is my DH, we are starting to TTC this month and he keeps saying if this one is a girl he wants to be done, I'm hoping I feel the same way after the next baby!
My DH said this as well. Once we found out it was a girl he just said "well we're done". I'm a young mom and I told him at my age I could not say I was done having children. I don't even know if I'll want another after she's born, but I was happy that he agreed to discuss it again in a few years. I was so not ok with completely saying I'm done at my age.

We're in the same situation, I am about to be 22 and DH is 23 so I feel like closing the door to more kids is really pre-mature. He keeps saying we can re -discuss once the next baby is born.

Celtic Ember · February 2012

We're talking 4. DH wants three, I told him two or four, because I don't want to deal with two-against-one fights for the next twenty years.

RobinSparkles214 · February 2012

I know I at least want one more, but have always said 4. We'll cross that bridge when we get there.

KoalaBear103 · February 2012

mamainseptember:
We're in the same situation, I am about to be 22 and DH is 23 so I feel like closing the door to more kids is really pre-mature. He keeps saying we can re -discuss once the next baby is born.

That's a good idea. I will be 24 shortly after baby is born and DH is only 27. I told him we have time. We know IF we want another, we want to wait at least 2 years, so we'll discuss it later. But I'm happy that my ute is not completely shut down after the baby comes.

hoping4sticky · February 2012

2, but I am not confident enough in that decision to have either DH or I make it permanent.

Ardmhs83 · February 2012

gwinnygirl:
2 - maybe.

This

mamainseptember · February 2012

KoalaBear103:
mamainseptember:
We're in the same situation, I am about to be 22 and DH is 23 so I feel like closing the door to more kids is really pre-mature. He keeps saying we can re -discuss once the next baby is born.
That's a good idea. I will be 24 shortly after baby is born and DH is only 27. I told him we have time. We know IF we want another, we want to wait at least 2 years, so we'll discuss it later. But I'm happy that my ute is not completely shut down after the baby comes.

Yeah, we ideally want DS and the next baby about 2.5 years apart and if we go for three then the next two 3-4 years apart, we will see Good luck with your baby girl! What are you naming her?

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PrincessFiona9 · February 2012

I originally thought ONE AND DONE, but now I realize I just didn't want another baby with my ex (DD's father.) SO and I are going to try for another once I finish school and DD is in Kindergarden in about 3 years. SO also wants to consider adopting a baby too, but it depends on finances and other things. That won't be for another 5+ years.

pesci12 · February 2012

Two. We'll probably start TTC when DD turns 2.

Stephanie2167 · February 2012

2 - hoping for a boy next time. We have ALL girls in our family. Although I would love another girl too.

Jodi2008 · February 2012

2, regarless of gender. We're done after this one. We don't want to be outnumbered.

D&HMom · February 2012

we had always said two but had spontaneous twins. I kinda feel like I would like to experience another pregnancy (and another year off !). I would also love to experience a singleton baby.However I am scared of #3 becoming 3&4.

Having said that...all the other stuff pp say about being a family of four is more convenient. Also I have a boy and a girl....so 2 and through is probably the way to go for us.

I could probably talk DH into a third...I mean our kiddos are pretty cute! so I might wait to see if I get the 'itch' when they are 4 or 5.

jlthompson19 · February 2012

Well, we wanted one, but....two will absolutely, positively be it. Once this baby is out and healthy, DH is getting snipped.

Joeypnut · February 2012

2. I was a middle child, so I would like to avoid that if possible.

kmwills · February 2012

2 or 3. We're TTC #2 right now. DH wants 3, but I told him we'd see how it goes after 2. I'm already 34.

Qmommy · February 2012

I want 3 but DH wants to stop. He's not completely opposed to 3 but I think he'd be happy with just the 2 girls. Sometimes I feel the same way (like last night when both were crying while I was cutting raw chicken!) lol

racegrrl714 · February 2012

One and done here too.

epopp85 · February 2012

I always wanted 4 and DH was open to that, but then I was dx with the blood clotting disorder and have very high risk pregnancies that make me absolutely miserable so 2 will be it for us.

Kaley28 · February 2012

DH wants 3 or 4. For me, ideally 3-4, but I am worried about having more than 2. For some reason, no matter how financial secure we are right now, the thought of more than 2 kids seems incredibly expensive to me. I'm not exactly sure why (besides 3x college and weddings, etc).

Yules · February 2012

1...!

insertclevername · February 2012

Two would be ideal for us. I thought we would be adopting the second, but things did not go as planned, so we will start TTC later this year.

Ireland05 · February 2012

2. Unless TTC #2 takes too long, then I will consider being one and done. I don't want them to be too far apart, and we are older already. I think I could feel done with just one if the time comes.