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June 2011 Moms
Being on TB makes me feel so far behind at times.
So I see a lot of ladies talking about signing, babies crawling, babies standing, babies putting items into things, etc.... We are so relaxed I suppose and we just sort of do what LO seems interested in. Sometimes I think that maybe I am not teaching DS enough, and not as much as I am just playing and having fun! I just feel like maybe I should be teaching him more things.
He is not crawling, is not standing, rolls everywhere, is not signing (I started and that sort of ceased although we hope to start again), he is not talking yet (I actually had someone ask me that the other day), and is for sure not putting anything into or onto his toys, except he does have the amazing ability to fit 3/4 of his foot in his mouth! Now that is an acheivement!!!!
In the average world you would never know that other babies may be a lot further ahead of your own. Does anyone else feel that being on the bump makes you feel that there are a lot of expectations you and your LO should be meeting and a lot sooner than you thought?
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Re: Being on TB makes me feel so far behind at times.
Sometimes i feel that way too.. My LO was really late the rolling over game, and seeing everyones posts about their LO's rolling over made me feel i wasnt doing something right.
I ALWAYS question if i am teaching enough or doing enough with C. I see ppl writing about doing art projects with their babies, and i think to myself well am i supposed to be doing that too?
But i think you just have to be confident and content with what YOU choose to do. We are teaching our LO"s sooo much without even realizing it. Its the little things done everyday that make a difference. Dont worry, what you are doing is great, and what you DONT do is fine too. As mothers, we strive to do our most, best and be the most amazing mothers ever. And really---that means something to different to each mom on here.
Reed isn't crawling either. Doesn't even act interested. I think what you have to keep in mind that crawling is normally a 7-10 month skill. Babies develop these skills at their own rate. I think you can encourage your LO by trying tummy time, etc, but I don't think you can teach them to crawl.
I struggle with this sometimes too, but Reed JUST turned 7 months and, honestly, I'm thinking I'll miss this "immobile" stage once it's gone, so I just need to enjoy it for now.
Sometimes, I actually feel like I am so busy that it's difficult finding a lot of play time for DS and myself. He tends to be fine with alone time so I spend that time doing housework. I always have him nearby so I can talk to him (which DH laughs I tell DS everything that I am doing, step by step). But I feel like maybe I should find a ton more time to do these things with him.
We have been completely relaxed with letting Brynn move at her own pace and she seems to be advancing quickly. (Quicker than I expected anyway, lol.) Of course you know that all babies mature at different rates so you shouldn't feel behind. If I remember correctly you had a bit of a rough start with your little guy too so that makes it even harder for you!
I think it's important for you to keep in mind that you will see LOTS of milestone posts because we (as moms) are so excited to share when LO does something new. The people that aren't quite there yet don't post every day that their LO isn't doing something so you don't know there are lots of babies that just aren't there yet.
Chin up Mama, your baby will be all grown up before you know it and it will seem so minor that he was a tad behind some of the other babies once upon a time.
these two things go hand in hand...babies and children learn through play. You aren't doing anything wrong!
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Very good memory, we did have a rough start. I know when I mentioned this very same thing to our Dr. he said the same thing you did. He expressed that unfortunately we may be slightly behind because LO gained weight so slowly and had so much going on that he physically may not be caught up to other babies his age and that can affect a lot.
I should try and remember that!
This! No one comes on here posting "my baby's just being normal, not doing anything new or different today!"
So it seems like more are doing advanced things than actually are.
I didn't feel that way until I read your list, lol! DS isn't doing any of those things either. I think what's important is if you feel like he's developing for him.
I feel like DS is doing new things each week, even if it's something silly like slapping me on the back when I hold him. I have no idea what it means when he does it (trying to burp me? telling me he needs to burp?) but I feel like he's discovering things and learning all the time. He gets the biggest smile on his face while he's smacking me, lol.
That being said, I recently got worried when I saw a video-on TB or the FB group, I forget-where a baby pointed out "daddy's nose." I don't know if the baby actually knows what a nose is or if he always grabs at daddy's nose, but it occurred to me that I don't talk to DS about his body parts, and I should work on building his vocabulary more.
Totally this. I am extremely competitive by nature so I, unfortunately, always compare Martins progress to other babies when I shouldn't. I mean, he's technically six weeks behind other babies but I still worry. It's normal and, frankly, the fact that they have mothers like us already gives them a leg up, IMO.
we also have to remember that the babies on this board aren't all exactly the same age. the older ones will always be doing stuff that the younger ones haven't figured out quite yet.
i know i'm guilty of bragging about my baby's milestones just this week. it's hard not to when you've been waiting and reading all of the other posts. my kid still won't roll though. i'm beginning to think she just never will.
MrsPBN I feel the same way sometimes. I get nervous too because his hand movements still seem very erratic, he never mimics me at all, and he gets in the crawling position then collapses. I feel like it has been months since he did something "new."
I also feel like we have limited time to "work on" things. From the time we get home until bedtime is 2 hours and much of that time is eating, nursing, bathing... Luckily his babysitter does a lot of exercise and teaching time with him.
I remind myself that V is younger than all the babies on here. AND I remind myself that I don't want my baby to grow up fast. If he wants to take it slow, I should enjoy it while it lasts, right?
I was about to say the same thing. People post when they're excited that their LO's accomplished something, especially if it's before the suggested milestone timeline. My DD isn't crawling yet either and people have been asking for months. We have a friend whose mom said he crawled at 3 months. Ummm...well, good for him. He's not any more advanced at walking than any other adult we know. Plus, there is so much more to do once they crawl. DH still has not gated off the stairs. We gated off a play area to keep the dog out, but after she starts to be mobile she won't be happy in such a small space.