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TTC After a Loss
My Sister
I've posted about my half sister who's battling cancer in the past, some of you may remember. Last week, she came down with pneumonia and was hospitalized. Over the weekend, she mysteriously checked herself out of the hospital and went home for hospice care. I say mysteriously because she's been strongly of the mind to continue to fight, no matter how hopeless it might be. Even if it was only going to buy her another week longer on this earth, she wanted to do treatment. She was going through chemo, only had one round left before her next PET scan. However, her husband has been adamantly against her continuing treatment and had all but given up. From what I hear, he even already has a girlfriend and heads to the bar when Vicki falls asleep for the night. Now, all of a sudden, she's checking herself out of the hospital to basically go home and let the pneumonia kill her instead of the cancer. One of my other sisters, my dad and I went to see her tonight. It's heart breaking to see how frail she is. Last time I saw her, she was sitting up, moving around. Now, it hurts her to move out of a laying position. But, through it all, she's still smiling and giggling and writing on her dry-erase board cracking jokes. Her boys got her name tattooed, one on his left chest, the other on his forearm. I didn't know that until tonight and it brought tears to my eyes.
Her husband tells us that Hospice is saying she probably won't make it through the weekend. She's 47! It's just fecking ridiculous how unfair life can be. Not just this, but Figgs, SMS, and all the others in such horrible situations that they don't deserve to be in. I'm just feeling so sad right now. I hate that so many amazing people are in such pain.
BFP #1 9-15-11; EDD 5-28-12. US 6w2d, growth
BFP #2 12-6-11 and 12-7-11; EDD 8-17-12. US 6w6d measuring 5w6d. Misoprostol Assisted m/c 1-16-12 at 9w3d.
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Re: My Sister
I'm so sorry to hear this about your sister. It is so unfair that good people have to go through such difficult situations. I'll be sending thoughts and prayers to you, your sister and family.
Big (((hugs)))
I am so very sorry that this is happening in your life.
You are very right, so much recently seems like terrible things are happening to the people who deserve them the least. And I hate not having the reasons why yet.
I will be thinking of you during such a hard and trying time.
Oh dear maxsom, this world is so unfair. If it can be, your sister sounds not like she's giving up, but facing her fate in a way that she can control - spending her time with those who love and care about her in a place where she feels comfortable. I truly hope your predicitions are wrong - but if not I hope she and you find some deep peace In that she (with you by her side) is facing her fate with great strength and courage and no fear.
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Sweet friend--I am so, so sorry to see this. Many prayers for her and for you and your family. I hope that you will enjoy whatever time you have with her and that she will be at peace in her final days. Will be praying for you lots. I wish I knew why so many hard things are happening to so many good people right now.
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oh Maxsom, I am so sorry you are having to deal with more sadness. I think you have had your fair share already. I am so sorry that Cancer is soon going to claim another victim, your precious sister. That disease has stolen far too many, far too soon.
I pray that the reason your sister has seemedly changed her attitude is not that she is giving up, but that she is now ready for an afterlife free of pain, illness, treatment and suffering. I'm sure that she would much rather stay to share many more happy memories with you, her siblings, parents and children, but she realizes that is not in the cards and despite her best efforts her time with those she loves is coming to an end. I hope you will enjoy the time you have left with your sister and make the most of these hard days. I will pray for you, your sister and your entire family that the time you have left together is special and cherished and that you all find peace, however you can. ((HUGE, HUGE, HUGS))
I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. Sending lots of T&Ps to her, you and your family. I know how heartbreaking it is to watch someone you love in pain and struggling when you can't do anything to help. ((Big HUGS))
It breaks my heart that all of these wonderful people are having such struggles right now. It's just really not fair.
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I am so sorry Maxsom. Many prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.
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BFP #1 ~ 4.29.11 | Blighted Ovum 6.2.11 | D&C 6.9.11
DX Unicornuate Uterus 4.12
BFP #2 ~ 10.12.12 | m/c 11.25.12 | D&C 2.8.13
BFP #3 ~ 12.11.13 | heartbeat ~12.20
| no heartbeat ~12.27 | D&C 1.6.14
BFP #4 ~ 7.20.14 | EDD 3.29.15 | heartbeat x2 eeek! ~ 8.4 | heard heartbeat-120 ~ 8.8 |
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Oh Maxsom, my heart breaks for you. I am so sorry for your family. I will be keeping your family in my prayers. ((big hugs))
I sometimes just shake my head because I dont get it. I dont get it at all. Life should just be more fair.
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