I scheduled a RCS based on the recommendation of my OB... and the fact that neither my parents nor husband really supported me doing a TOL. But, I am just devastated at the thought of having a RCS. I know this should be a warning sign for me to ditch the plan and try for a VBAC, but it's very difficult when I have no real support to try one. In addition, I have no family that lives nearby and my parents have arranged to come be with DD while I am in the hospital. The convenience is a huge factor (although I know, shouldn't be such an important one).
If you attempted a VBAC after FTD/large baby, please share your words of wisdom. Even if you failed a VBAC attempt, I would love to hear your thoughts. TIA!!!
Re: FTD/Large babies VBACers
My DS was over 10 lbs. I VBACed DD who was 8.5 lbs (and I was induced). I also know people who VBACed babies over 10 lbs (there may even be one or two on this board).
Frankly, it doesn't matter what your parents think. My mother hated that I was seeing a midwife, but it is none of her concern. It IS important that you get your DH on the same page if you want a VBAC. Find a VBAC friendly provider and have them talk to your DH. I don't know why he'd be comfortable putting you through the risks of a c/s but a VBAC would bother him? It is usually because they are misinformed. Hearing a medical person talk about the safety and success is usually helpful. (It sounds like you'll need to change providers for this- a rcs just because your first baby was big is insane.)
And really, it is your body- don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. If surgery doesn't seem right for you, go the VBAC route. The c/s will always be there if you need it. Bottom line- do what is right for you and really talk to your DH about it so he understands.
I was planning on a VBAC with DD#2 and the RCS was scheduled b/c I hadn't shown much progression just before 41 weeks. I went back in for my weekly appt feeling very sheepish that I wanted to change my mind. He told me I needed to do what was right for me and it shouldn't matter at all what was previously in the paperwork. He promptly scheduled an Ultrasound and NST to make sure everything was ok to wait it out a little longer. I was not offered any choices for induction, I had to wait out labor.
I rescheduled the RCS for the final day of 42 weeks and guess what? Baby girl came sucessful VBAC (8#) about 3 hours before her scheduled surgery. I remember rolling in the wheelchair asking if someone cancelled my appointment... HA!
Do what's best for you!
Can you parents come and stay for awhile, so they'll be around if you attempt a VBAC and go into labor on your own? Will your provider support you with a VBAC if you want to try it after all? I'm sorry you're in this position, it sounds stressful! I would definitely talk to your OB and your DH - you're the one who is going to be giving birth, so you should be able to do it the way you'd like, you know?
My first son was FTD/FTP - I pushed for 4+ hours before having a c/s with him. He was 8 lb 4 oz. My VBAC baby was 10 lb 10 oz (he was overdue, but we had no idea he was *that* large), and was an uncomplicated vaginal birth.
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
Thank you everyone for your support. The reason my husband is not "supportive" is for a couple of reasons: 1) He witnessed how difficult and "laborous" labor and pushing was, only to end up with the c-section. It was difficult for both of us. 2) I had a very easy recovery with the first CS, so he doesn't understand why I would risk VBAC complications (mostly to baby) seeing as I had an "easy" recovery and
3) As I mentioned, our family lives far away and the stress reduction of having a known plan for our daughter is huge.
Thank you everyone for your input. I plan to discuss again with my doc next week.
My friend had a c-section after failing to progress past 7 cms with her 10 pound baby. Less than two years later she gave birth to an 11 pound baby, drug-free vbac, with only four hours of labour and 15 minutes of pushing.
You don't need your parents support. My dad hates that I'm seeing a midwife instead of doctor. The solution? I simply don't talk about it with him. I am fully capable of making my own medical decisions.