My heart goes out to you FTMs....

adri77 · January 2012

I want to say I don't at ALL mean this in a condescending, "I know so much b/c I have 3" kinda way.....I'm just reading so many of your posts which include DH frustrations (BTDT), sleep concerns (BTDT), any kind of feeding concerns (BTDT)....and it just brings me back to my days of having DS1 and all of the emotions I used to feel are flooding back....it can just be so darn frustrating being a FTM!!! I was 100% sure that I was starving my son through bfing, giving him a flat head, and was going to be divorcing my H very soon!!!! I felt like i was constantly angry with my H and it was a really lonely feeling.

I hope you all read the article I posted last week about "only having 1 child". She expresses it all so eloquently.

Anyway, I just want to send out some hugs to you all and I know it is cliche, but it really will get better, just hang in there!!!

TimeRacer · January 2012

That article you posted was absolutely wonderful! It definitely made my day a bit better.

Seeing all the BTDT moms sympathizing with us first timers really helps. I don't feel like quite such a disaster because I've realized I'm on the learning curve. I figure if you ladies survived your older kids, I can survive this one.

dpeugh85 · January 2012

Amen. It helps me repeat my mantra of "This too shall pass" daily, and know that eventually it will get better.

yankeebear · January 2012

I agree! DD#2 is a much easier baby than DD#1 was, but I am so much more relaxed as a parent and so is DH. It is night and day from how stressed I was as a FTM. Just remember that everything will turn out OK!

jenni888 · January 2012

dpeugh85:
Amen. It helps me repeat my mantra of "This too shall pass" daily, and know that eventually it will get better.

Oh god, same here. I am making a list of positive affirmations that I will be posting on the wall in every room in our condo. At the bottom in bold caps will read "This too shall pass."

honeybee #1 · January 2012

Thank you. I don't really fit into either camp, I've been raising our 2 from my DH's previous marriage for seven years, they were 4 and 5 when we got together, but this is my first baby. I feel I have more confidence than most, but sometimes I feel like this should be easier. After all, I taught our son how to read and tie his shoes, and both of our older kids pretty much everything since then, this should be a snap! But sometimes it's not.

HarperK · January 2012

Thanks! I have to call my mom every other day for this kind of reminder, too. And I continually have to remind myself and DH that if raising a baby completely destroyed parents' lives, then the human race would have died out long before some nice people invented the infant swing and the Moby wrap.

KBBH · January 2012

Thank you so much for posting this. I truly appreciate it, and I liked your article the other day. Sometimes I swear I'm losing it and I'm the ONLY one who is going through all this hard stuff. It is really hard. I struggle daily. It's really nice to know I'm not alone.

...and kudos to you for being a mom of MORE than 1. YOU are my hero. Yes

sbelle3 · January 2012

Amen adri. I say that ds1 was my toughest baby but really i was on such a learning curve. It was so stressful learning how to care for a baby. I was a total basket case! It's been so much easier with the next two. FTMs- repeat to yourself daily "I will take this one day at a time. I am doing a GREAT job!"

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