For backstory, my sister is finishing up high school at a private boarding school 2100 miles from where I live. She has a SO and they are long distance. I've known all along that it was highly unlikely that she would be here for my LO's birth because of her school schedule. This has been heartbreaking for me as we are very close, she is my only sibling and this is my first baby. But I was doing my best to focus on the positives and not let my pregnant hormones overrun me.
I am due next Wednesday. Yesterday was my sister's 18th birthday, and I find out that, because she told her friends that all she wanted for her birthday was to fly out to see her SO, her friends pitched in and bought her a ticket. For next week. When I'm supposed to be giving birth if I haven't already.
I feel so hurt that she would rather spend time with her SO than meet her niece. I have nothing against her SO. I just feel like the birth of my daughter is only going to happen once and she could see her SO in a few weeks or months. It feels like she doesn't care about meeting my daughter when I would give just about anything for her to be here.
I apologize if this hasn't really made sense. My emotions are all over the place and I've been crying for a while. Part of me feels like this is a selfish rant. =( Kudos if you read this far. Thanks for letting me vent.
Re: *VENT* My sister (kind've long)
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I was a sophomore in HS when my sister had her first kid. Granted it wasn't a planned pregnancy, so I wasn't too thrilled about the thought of her having a kid at 19... well she moved from California to Utah to be with the father, and even when she came home to visit and her son was 3 weeks old, I still wasn't really into the whole "baby" thing... yeah, he was cute and all but at that age I really didn't care too much.
I guess what i'm trying to say is don't take it too personally. Highschool mentality, whether it be freshman thru senior, is really a trip.
Also, while you two may have a great relationship, she might be more concerned about the baby taking over and her getting butted out. Maybe try calling her once baby arrives and seeing how she reacts? She might be shielding her real emotions from you.
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Ditto what previous posters have said.
Also, her friends bought her the plane ticket and I'm sure they had no idea next week is your due date. She may feel guilty if she were to turn down what I'm sure wasn't an inexpensive gift.
I'm sure your sister loves you and your daughter immensely. Talk to her about what you're feeling, don't let it eat you up.