My own father is so RUDE

Re: My own father is so RUDE

• bbpb112 member

  January 2012

  My dad always tells me I look much bigger than the last time he saw me..I see him almost every Sunday. Men really just don't understand. My dad has always been one of those men who never tells you anything nice, only the negative. I learned froma young age not to give a crap about anything he says. If he doesn't have anything nice to say, he shouldn't say anything at all. If it makes you feel better - tell him he's balding! Hope you feel better

  

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• nonoemily member

  January 2012

  Starbuck128:

  My dad has made a few of the generic rude comments one can make to a pregnant woman, but he didn't mean them as rude.  He felt bad afterwards.

   My Mom and my brother have no filter, and think that because they are family it's okay to say whatever is on their mind.  Also, if they laugh while saying it, it's a sign that while they are very serious about what they are saying, the laughter means it's not okay for you to get angry with them about it. 

  For example, my younger brother stopped a unrelated conversation to tell me I was going to be a terrible mother *chuckle and shake head*, screw up my kid for life *laugh* and list off all my bad characteristics and explain how that will lead to me screwing up.  He was completely serious. 

  I'm having a home birth, and obviously my greatest fear about the whole thing is that something so serious will go wrong that we will have to transfer to a hospital.  My mom knows this.  One day she started laughing at random (warning! warning!) and told me she just knows I will end up at the hospital.  *laugh* Something terrible will happen and I will end up there, so she's been planning to meet us at the hospital. *shake head and laugh*  Yeah, I'm glad you think me or my baby being in mortal danger is so F'ing funny.
  

  OMG! My dad's WHOLE FAMILY does this. I can only handle my dad in small doses because the only way he knows how to show his family attention is by mocking them or making weird comments. He's like a small child who bullies others and acts out to gain attention. I have no idea how my parents ended up together. He teases my mom so mercilessly that it actually makes me really sad for her.
  

  When my father's family told me pretty much the same thing about how I was going to end up in the hospital and cause my baby permanent damage by having an out-of-hospital birth... I told them, "you know what, if something tragic happens to me and my baby, I promise you can say I told you so and laugh in my F'ing face, okay?"

  

  So rude.

  I try to cut my dad some slack because I see what the rest of his family is like and where he came from, but seriously, each of us has an individual responsibility to rise above the damage we inherit and become decent human beings. I know it's really hard to learn to be a good person when your parents and siblings only communicate by insulting each other, but give me a break. You are a 62 year old man and you should know better.
  

  Elkanah Brave, born 02/06/2012 7:26am

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