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Anyone else have a husband who is weirded out by sex now?

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After a few occasions of my husband forgoing penetration in favor of helping me out orally I finally asked him if sex (with penetration) was just too weird for him right now and he admitted it was.

I got a giggle out of it because I thought it might get weird for him and he assured me early on that it wouldn't, He says he's not sure why it's weird (as in if he's afraid of hurting the baby or if it's just the simple fact that our baby is in there). It just sucks because I want sex but I don't want him to be all awkward and uncomfortable about it (and while I don't mind BJs I don't really feel like that being our only interaction).

I jokingly told him he had 11 weeks to get over it because when I get right up to 40 weeks I planned to try to hump this baby out (plus I reminded him of the fact that it would be at least 6 weeks before we'd have sex after she was here).

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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    I can tell he's not that into it lately.  Kind of sad and frustrating, but I'm not pushing it either. 
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  • onetxjewelonetxjewel member
    DH and I are both weirded out by it.  And we will both honestly tell anyone...we haven't done it since I found out I was pregnant.  At the beginning i was sooo sick and now i'm huge.  DH had some friends ask him about it a month ago and he flat out said we hadn't done it and was honest about it just seeming to be weird.  But at least we're on the same page about it!  LOL...
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  • harveylaw09harveylaw09
    HAHAHAH! i totally told my husband the same thing last night. I said better get to it now before your medically cut off for 6 weeks. Mine wont admit that he is weirded out by it but we went from having sex 4-5 times a week to about once a week if im lucky... He is always "tired" or he'll say "I know your tired" and i keep saying does it weird you out? i give him the opening and he just says NO WAY! but i think he doesnt want to just admit that its different and kind of weird having this big belly between us...... men......
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  • aggieamber05aggieamber05
    I hate to say this..but I honeslty kinda wish mine was a little weirded out.  He wants it all the time.  Sadly I've only given it up about once in the past 2 months. Its just too uncomfortable and I feel like a cow...I cant get into it.
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  • kistjenn@yahoo.comkistjenn@yahoo.com member

    Yep!  This sounds REALLY bad, but we still have not had sex since we concieved this baby.  At first, it was me........a little morning sickness, not in the mood and a little scared something might happen.  But now I tell my DH......."we REALLY need to have sex" cause I keep having dreams that he is "stepping" outside our marriage (which I know he's not)....but I do want to be close with him.......I think now that I'm full on showing.....he's affraid he'll hurt the baby.  Which he knows he can't......but it must be some sort of mental thing. 

    Plus on a side note.......our schedules are crazy right now....I see him maybe 1/2 hour a day during the work week.......and on the weekend he's been working Saturdays....so Sunday is really the only day we see each other.  Come March our schedules will go back to normal.....but that doesn't really help the sex department.

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  • JSweetieXOJSweetieXO member
    We have tried a few times since conception to have sex and it just doesn't work for him. I think he is freaked out by the thought of the baby that he won't "finish". It makes me feel like crap though. It makes it worse since I don't feel cute at all.
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  • jrueckertjrueckert member
    My hubs is definitely not feeling it lately.  I don't know if it's because I'm huge and now every position is just uncomfortable and awkward, or if it's because he thinks he's injuring me and the baby somehow when we do it.  It's a little sad because I want to still be able to make him happy, but on the other hand, I've really not been in the mood lately so it's nice... ;)
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  • daniela64daniela64
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    Yep!  This sounds REALLY bad, but we still have not had sex since we concieved this baby.  At first, it was me........a little morning sickness, not in the mood and a little scared something might happen.  But now I tell my DH......."we REALLY need to have sex" cause I keep having dreams that he is "stepping" outside our marriage (which I know he's not)....but I do want to be close with him.......I think now that I'm full on showing.....he's affraid he'll hurt the baby.  Which he knows he can't......but it must be some sort of mental thing. 

    Plus on a side note.......our schedules are crazy right now....I see him maybe 1/2 hour a day during the work week.......and on the weekend he's been working Saturdays....so Sunday is really the only day we see each other.  Come March our schedules will go back to normal.....but that doesn't really help the sex department.

    This! I know he is weirded out by it, but I keep having these crazy dreams too. I really think its due to lack of intimacy. I don't want to push him and make him uncomfortable, but something needs to happen soon!

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  • maccalovahmaccalovah
    YES! It's been a month or more and I'm starting to get really annoyed! He says it's weird to have his daughter *right there*, and he gets some sort of incest vibe from it. I find that reasoning rather ridiculous but nothing I've told him reassures him in the least.... Hmm
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  • lauracklaurack

    Mine has not been asking for any either. I'm ok with it since I am so tired now and uncomfortable, sex feels weird and painful at times.

    But I do feel it is bad "for our marriage" so I think I'll insist on it soon. It's been about 3 weeks now.

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  • lovelykinslovelykins member
    I wish my husband would just leave me alone sometimes! I predicted that he would be weirded out but he's not, instead he doesn't seem to understand why i feel fat and limited. He's gone 12hrs a day and wants it as soon as we wake up and then before we go to bed. The other day he made a comment about how i'm never on top anymore HELLO i'm a cow! Don't bet me wrong, i enjoy making love to my husband, however i do not like trying to explain why i'm not as spunky and have a hard time looking at my giant thighs. 
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  • hass2001hass2001
    I'm pretty sure my hubby is weirded out by it, but doesn't admit it. At first I was sort of bummed out that I wasn't turning him on anymore because he never initiates and when I try to initiate he's not in the mood. Oh well I have no problem helping myself out lol!
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  • JSweetieXOJSweetieXO member

    THIS FOR ME TOO!

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