I love the fact that I can have kids trust me I do, but I dont like what comes along with being pregnant, this is my 1st child w/ my husband. He already has a child and so do I from a previous relationship, so I decided that after we have this baby I'm done, so my next appointment 1/20/12 I wanted to s/w my doctor about getting my tubes tied. Now he did mention that he didnt want anymore any time soon but I dont want anymore AT ALL!!! Babies are a blessing but they also come with a big price.
Re: Is this selfish and please be honest
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I dont think wanting to stop at 3 is selfish at all.
I plan on stopping after 1!
That being said, this is definitely something you need to talk to your husband about and make sure you are both on the same page before you go do something like tying your tubes...
We don't plan on having more, but for a while we are just going to use traditional BC. I'd like the option to change my mind.
I would say you definitely need to discuss this with your partner. I've heard of a lot of doctors who say not to make big decisions like that when pregnant b/c of your mood changes and everything.
Maybe you could look into a long term birth control method like Mirena or something and then go from there?
Definitely talk to DH about it. If you don't want to have another child that's fine but it shouldn't be just your decision. Three kids are a handful but there are other ways to prevent pregnancy. Not to mention tubes can become untied, too.
I'm glad you mention they can be untied, I hadnt even thought about that, but yes I'm definitely going to discuss it with him first, and just get some info on what to expect when I/if i do decide to get them tied, burnt, etc.
not selfish babies take alot money and mentally...my husband has a D fr b4 and we have 1 together so this will make him 3 and me 2 i'd love to have more but he says no... so I told him he could get fixed since he didn't want anymore... I think csection was enough trama for me his turn haha
My thought is, it's so permanent & what if you change your mind in say 4-5 years or so.
If I were you, would definitely want to discuss it more with my husband. Perhaps discuss him getting a vasectomy since it's only semi-permanent. I look at this decision like getting a tattoo, nothing you want to do right away & give yourself sometime to really think it over. That way down the road if this is a decision you really want to make, you'll know 100%. Though I understand 3 kids being a huge responsibility though & don't think you're being selfish at all. I just really think it's something you'll want to discuss & think over thoroughly with your husband.
Just write down your reasons of how you feel, explain to him in a diplomatic/business like manner... when it comes to my DH he can be a bit stubborn but better understands facts vs. emotions, giving him sometime to think over the situation, found a better resolution comes of it when I control my emotions & solely communicate pros/cons ~ though he's getting better w/ my emotional side since being pregnant ;p
Just a lurker butting in here. A tubal ligation can be reversed but just keep in mind it's usually not covered by ins. and it isn't always successful. The same goes for a vasectomy reversal. GL in your decision!
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