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Multiple Showers Guest List Ettiquette?

eljack04eljack04 member
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So I was getting worried about no one throwing me a shower and now it looks like I will have three. I know it seems excessive but DH has a very large family and so they automatically tend to split up shower (wedding and baby) by each side of the family to keep the guest list down under 30. Also, my SIL asker me about throwing me a shower as well and I figured I would have that be the one for both sides of my family and our friends (around 20 people).

 So my question is about etiquette for invites. For wedding showers I know that both mothers and all the wedding party were supposed to be invited to all (or most) of the showers. I am figuring on inviting my mom and MIL to all three and telling them not to worrying about bringing gifts to each...but what about my SIL and the grandmas? I know my cousin invited her grandma to both of her showers. Is this customary? I really don't want all of them to feel the need to bring a gift to all the showers so I guess I would tell them that ahead of time. Thoughts?

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  • BallSoxBallSox member

    The only persons I invited to both of my showers was my mom and my grandma.  It must be noted that my MIL and my GMIL are significantly OOT.  My  MIL didn't make to any of the showers and GMIL came to one. 

    I'd keep the lists separate and if there is to be any overlap, I'd do just the grandmas and great grandmas 2 be. 

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  • MarSamWhitneyMarSamWhitney member

    I wouldnt worry about SIL, but I'd invite MIL and your Mom to all showers.

     



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  • HappyToBe2012HappyToBe2012 member

    I had two showers - one for my family and one for DH's family.  The only people invited to both were my mom, sister, MIL, and SIL.  I wouldn't worry too much over mentioning not needing to bring a gift to each - they will know that or will do what they want/are comfortable with regardless.

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  • mommyaudramommyaudra member
    What do You want? If you would like them to be at all three then send them an invite and maybe call after you sent the invites and let them know they don't have to come to all and dont need to bring gifts.
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  • klausklaus
    My mom and my MIL were invited to all three of my showers (each one hosted one and the friend one).  I wouldn't invite anyone else to more than one shower.
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  • ryry1977ryry1977 member
    I invited my MIL to all my showers (in same area of the state) and her mother (DHs grandma) just so MIL would have someone to talk to and feel more comfortable.  My mom is out of town so only invited to the one by her.
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  • LaurenCase89LaurenCase89
    I'm having two showers and my mom, MIL, and SIL are going to both. I wouldn't mind if they only went to one, but they are all about this! I should mention that this will be both grandparents first grandchild and therefore the first niece or nephew.
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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    Only overlap should be mother and MIL. All other family should be invited to one or the other. 

    Each of my sisters had more than one shower, but I was only invited to the one that included my family.

    The only exception would be a sister if you are both part of the same friends group and you have a family shower and a friends shower. 

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