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DNK777
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I really need new friends (vent)
DNK777
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I have a friend who turned 21 over labor day. She left me a message on Friday asking me to go out to a bar with her for her birthday that Sunday (as in 2 days later). DH and I are separated and she knows this. I couldn't find a sitter for a holiday weekend 2 days in advance. I called her and let her know sorry, but I can't find a sitter, but I would still like to do something to celebrate her birthday and wished her a happy birthday. I asked her to give me a call and let me know when she's free so that I can get a sitter. She finally sent me a message on Facebook today about how I am a horrible friend and I am selfish for never having time for her and blah blah blah.
Please note that in April I had a child and lived a couple hours away, in June I separated from DH, July I moved even further away, and in August I moved back home closer to where she is living.
She always asks me to do stuff with no time in advance and really late at night. We have a mutual friend who also has a child about 5 months older than DD and they will stay out with him really late at night, so she doesn't understand why I won't do that.
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Re: I really need new friends (vent)
Yeah, people can be kind of dense sometimes.?
This weekend DH's friends went to a bar and decided to stay and watch the UFC fight. DH had called them earlier in the day asking if they wanted to get together and hang out, and to call him back when they decided. They called (slightly intoxicated) from the bar asking if we (DH, me and DS) wanted to come watch the fight with them. Yes, I'm going to bring my 2 month old son to a crowded, smokey bar to watch UFC. Um, no. Mind you, DH and I don't even drink, so this was doubly ridiculous.?
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I can't go back to yesterday - because I was a different person then. ~ Alice
Yeah some people don't get it. Although I have to admit that I've taken DD to Buffalo Wild Wings a few times early in on the night to say hi before it gets too loud and crazy. All bars and restaurants are non-smoking by law in Columbus, Ohio which is actually pretty nice. But I wouldn't take DD to a place where people are getting hammered. Especially not during a game or UFC fight when it gets super crowded.
Lol. I get the same calls. I turned 21 while I was pregnant too. I just moved back to my hometown and it seems like everyone I know here hangs out at the bars every single weekend. It's not that I don't want to get a sitter every once in a while and let my hair down or whatever, but I don't want to leave my child every weekend. I started college and got married really young, so I've been kind of isolated from the people I grew up with for a while. It's just really weird now.
My one friend wanted to come over a couple weeks back to hang out, she wanted to have a beer with me to celebrate this crazy year. So she comes over and I have one beer... she has 6. I didn't say anything but it really pissed me off. didn't let her hold my baby that night! Now I feel like I should try to make friends with women with children. But I feel like it would come across weird. 'hey I noticed that you have a kid, I do too... wanna hang out?' hahaha. I hope I can find a way!
I totally know what you mean. Believe it or not I'm actually pretty shy until I get to know people. I don't want to seem like a creeper, but all of the mom groups in my area seem to be geared towards people with older children.
I do have one friend/relative who had a baby in May, but she's BSC and one of those who leaves the baby with my aunt or her mom all of the time so it doesn't disrupt her life. That's a whole other story in itself...
Aww thanks!! Too bad you're not in middle of nowhere Ohio. Boo!
Well next time I go to Iowa, I'll at least wave!
We can be e-friends at least
No right now I am in the middle of nowhere. Central/Southeast area surrounded by the Amish and rednecks (explains so much huh?). I'm going to be moving to Columbus in a few months for grad school. Ohio sucks majorly.