To invite or not to invite to 1st birthday?

LaurenL977 · January 2012

We live in FL where we have some family, but most of our family lives up north in other states. Do we send invitations to everyone (our aunts, uncles, my cousins--I am close to them, or was growing up, etc.?) knowing they probably won't come or do we only send invitations to local people? I hate to spend the extra money that we don't really have on a million invitations, but I also don't want to make anyone feel excluded, kwim? Another thing is that I don't want people out of town to think that I only sent them an invite for a gift.

Hyfagal · January 2012

I'm in IN and send an invite to my aunt in TX for big things. My wedding, Ellie's bday, etc. I know she's not coming and I don't expect her to send a gift but I think she likes it. It still makes her feel included in big events.

OctGirl80 · January 2012

Hyfagal:
I'm in IN and send an invite to my aunt in TX for big things. My wedding, Ellie's bday, etc. I know she's not coming and I don't expect her to send a gift but I think she likes it. It still makes her feel included in big events.

Ditto this. I have an Aunt in VA & H has one in AZ. They never come but they love getting the invites.

RomeRomance06 · January 2012

I always find myself torn on this. I'm in the same boat, with all of my family spread all over the place. For my baby shower I struggled with sending invites to certain out of town friends/family, because I didn't want them to feel pressured to come or send a gift, but when people don't invite me to things because I live far away I feel kind of left out. Plus, what if I want a weekend away?? Anyway, I don't know, is the short answer. I guess send them and maybe follow up with an email or something about how you understand if they can't make it but you didn't want anyone to feel left out?

SecondTimeinMSU · January 2012

If money is tight for invitations maybe you could send an email letting them know you are having a party but know that is a long trip to make so if they are thinking of coming to the area to let them know since you'd love to invite them? I don't know if that is ok etiquette wise or not but an idea.

LoCarb · January 2012

All my family is in another state and I do not invite them to b-day parties. I agree w/ PP, if finances are an issue and the out of staters use email I think it's appropriate to send a message and your LO's pic of the announcement. I would also send an email w/ b-day pics after the event to make everyone feel included.

LaurenL977 · January 2012

RomeRomance06:
I always find myself torn on this. I'm in the same boat, with all of my family spread all over the place. For my baby shower I struggled with sending invites to certain out of town friends/family, because I didn't want them to feel pressured to come or send a gift, but when people don't invite me to things because I live far away I feel kind of left out. Plus, what if I want a weekend away?? Anyway, I don't know, is the short answer. I guess send them and maybe follow up with an email or something about how you understand if they can't make it but you didn't want anyone to feel left out?

Same here--I kind of feel left out if I am not invited to things far away--I see it as the thought that counts. So, maybe I should send invites.

For a first birthday, do people get like cheap invites that you write in Date, time, etc.? like the packs from CVS? or do people go like all out and order real invites?

alisonemma · January 2012

One branch of my family lives in Texas (we're in MI), and we never received any invitations for birthday parties. I think we just got an invitation to my cousin's baby shower, but I'm sure she didn't expect me to fly out there.

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