Parenting after a Loss

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I hope I got the right group of girls. I just recieved a plant in the mail, and the card only said the bump girls.

I love it and cried when I got it. I'll bring it to the funeral on Sunday and share it with Zachary.

I got to hold him today, best hour of my life. I got to remember him without the tubes and wires and the bustle of doctors and nurses. It was just me, Jay and Z. Felt good to hold him and sing to him. Have that hour of just our time.

I'm honrored that the funeral director would allow this, as I never in 100 years thought they would suggest I have this time. And I know he pulled alot of strings with upper management to allow us to do this. But I feel some peace knowing he's resting.

We have a meeting with a lawyer tomorrow.. that should be very draining. I have to make a poster board pictures of Z, which I'm slowly trying to do without breaking down.

But thank you so much. I love you all.

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  • I am so glad to hear that you were able to have some more time with Z. I will be thinking of you on Sunday, although you tend to be on my mind a lot recently. 

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  • Hugs* Those moments in the funeral home were very special for us too.  All my love to you this weekend.
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  • We love you, too, hon. We'll be there in spirit on Sunday. 


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  • I'm sending all my strength to you this weekend I know you will need it.
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  • I'm so glad you got to spend a peaceful, sweet hour with him.  We love you and are SO here for you. 
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  • I'm so glad you were able to hold your beautiful boy again. Continued prayers to you.
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  • I'm so glad you got to spend some time with Zachary like that. How nice of the funeral director to pull those strings for you.

    GL with the lawyer tomorrow. I'll be sending many thoughts and prayers for you all weekend. We are here for you.

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  • I am praying for you and your family everyday. I am so glad you got to spend some time with sweet Zachary. (((((Hugs)))))
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  • I'm so glad you got some more time with him. Our funeral director asked if we wanted him to open the casket to see Aidan one more time and it was the best decision I made to say yes. I know I keep saying this, but I love you.
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  • I'm so glad you got that extra time today with Zachary.  Good luck with the lawyer tomorrow....

    <<big hugs>>

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  • A - I wish there was more that we could do than send you a plant. I'm so glad you were able to sing and be with your sweet baby boy for that precious hour.  You are in my thoughts and prayers constantly these days. I hope you have the supports you need right now to help you and Jay.
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  • Amye I am so glad you received the plant today.  We all love you and are here for you 100%.  It was not just this group of girls, but some from PgAL & TTCAL, along with others who may not be actively posting right now.  You have touched so many of our lives, you hold a special place in all of our hearts.
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  • Oh sweetie you know we all wish there was more we could do. The PGAL and TTCAL girls were a big part of that gift too, we are all so devastated and heartbroken for you. It must be incredibly difficult to have to look at those pictures, I'm so sorry you're in so much pain, this is more than anyone should be expected to endure. I am so glad you got to hold Zachary and get more time with him. Continued T&Ps.
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  • I'm so glad you have these peaceful memories. ((hugs)) and know that you are in the thoughts of every woman in this community.

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  • I am glad that you had time with Zachary today and I'm happy to hear that it brought you some peace.  I know that no amount of time would have been enough and that having him in your arms doesn't make it any easier.  It makes my heart smile just a little, though, to know that you had this time with him..just you, Zachary and Jay.  You are on my mind all day every day.  Know that a piece of my heart is with you and a piece of my heart will alwaus be with Zachary.  Sending you so much more love and so many more hugs then you could ever imagine.
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  • I'm glad you got to spend some time with your precious boy. My heart is breaking for you; you've constantly been on my kind. I wish there was more we could do.  

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  • I'm glad you got to spend that extra hour with Zachary in your arms. I am thinking about you always. ((hugs))
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  • I'm so glad you got to spend some more time with him.  I have been thinking of you and will continue to think of you on Sunday.  I'm sending lots of T&Ps your way.  ((Big HUGS))
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  • My thoughts and prayers are with you Amye.  I am so sorry you are going through this.  ((HUGE HUGS))
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  • Continued T&P's for you and your H ((hugs))
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  • I am at a loss for words, except to say my heart is absolutely broken for you.

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  • ((hugs)) I'm glad you got the plant and that you were able to have some extra time with Zachary. I will be thinking of you and J. I wish there was more I could do for you guys.
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  • So glad you had time with Z. I'll continue to think about you this weekend. <3
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  • I'm glad you like the plant and was able to spend time with Zachary.  ((hugs))
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  • I have not stopped thinking about you all day and trying to send you strength to get through the next few days.  I'm glad you were able to hold your baby one more time in a peaceful calm state- may you always take comfort in that.  ((HUGS))
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  • So glad you got that time with him. I'll be thinking of you all on Sunday. Hugs.


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  • I'm so glad you were able to have that time to spend together as a family.

    I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. We are all here for you. ((Huge hugs))
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  • I'm so glad you got to spend a beautiful, peaceful hour with your precious boy. I'm so sorry you're going through this. ((((GIANT HUGS))))
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  • I'm so glad that you had that time just the three of you again. Of course we all wish we could do more. As you receive this outpouring of love and support, don't forget we'll also be here to listen weeks and months from now. Sending you prayers for strength for this weekend.
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  • You will be in my thoughts this weekend......will continue to send prayers.....
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  • So many thoughts, prayers and hugs your way. 
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  • You probably don't know me, but I just wanted you to know that you have been constantly in my thoughts and prayers this week.  I am so heartbroken for you and Jay.  No one should have to endure all of the pain you have experienced.  I wish there was more I could do or say, but just know that there is an army of people praying for you and thinking about you.  Much love to you and your DH.
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  • I'm so so sorry.
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