"So, you should be thankful you don't have children."

SouthernBellaKS · January 2012

Yup. It's amazing how one comment can take a really good day and make it crap. So, I've been exhausted all week trying to recover from moving and still unpacking, and today was a wet, rainy day. As we're all packing up to go home, I made the comment that I was gonna go home, eat, shower, and get in my pj's and take it easy. The response: "See, you can do things like that when you don't have kids. So, you should be thankful you don't have children."

Really? And this was said by somebody who knows about our loss.

Me: "Um...I'd rather have the child. Thanks."

Her: "Oh, but when they're teenagers. Whew..come talk to me in 15 years when you're doing cheerleading and games."

Me: "Yeah..well, let's see if I can even get through a pregnancy first."

So the comment slipped. I didn't actually mean for it to come out, but then.. THEN..she laughed. Like I was making a joke. Nope. Wasn't making a joke. That was one of my more rare bitter moments that escaped.

I just exited stage left after that. I felt like crap. Been trying not to just break down since DH picked me up from work.

I just needed to vent this out.

FreyaWin2382 · January 2012

I hate the stupid things people say.

Hugs to you.

babyd617 · January 2012

Sad

That's all I got. and lots of ((hugs))). Some people!!

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LEP424 · January 2012

Clearly this women has never experienced loss. I'm so sorry you had this experience. Have a relaxing evening, enjoy your new home!

Petunia844 · January 2012

WOW, about a month or so after Peyton was born and I finally had the courage to have my friend AND her new baby over (only was willing to do this b/c her dad passed away the same day Peyton was born and I felt like she needed me too) she had the nerve to tell me she was "jealous I had time to go workout"

I almost lost my sh*t, still boils my blood when I think about it.

CnAnA · January 2012

dear god. what a twatwaffle. i am so sorry you had to deal with that. ((hugs))

TA110980 · January 2012

You have much more self control than me. I would have throat punched her. Sorry you had to go through that.

bluebonnetmeg · January 2012

Wow. Some people really need to just not talk. Ever. I am so sorry. ((hugs))

[Deleted User] · January 2012

Wow--that was so insensitive, and rude!

I would have taken it farther when she laughed. I would have turned into a biitch. "Oh, so you think pregnancy loss is funny? You think having a m/c is a joke?" That would have shut her up.

I'm SO sorry you had to go through that situation. Some people are so idiotic!

((hugs))

mikeANDjen448 · January 2012

stlucia_wife:
Hugs. I think I might of said some not so nice things after the laugh.

OMG!! THIS. I can't BELIEVE people are sooooo insensitive! Grrrrr!

mork · January 2012

I'm angry for you. I would've said a lot more after that laugh, and it wouldn't have been a slip.

shanrob · January 2012

Who in God's name laughs when someone says that? People scare me.

ChloBub · January 2012

Some people. UGH. Super Angry So sorry you had to deal with that.

rex94 · January 2012

Some people are so ignorant and insensitive. This makes me so mad for you, I'm so sorry. ((Hugs))

tdmd09 · January 2012

((hugs)) That sucks.

That reminds me of when I put on FB that DH and I were skipping Halloween and we went out to dinner instead with friends who had a newborn loss. The first comment was from a girl with a two year old who said "That sounds like fun! If I didn't have to go trick or treating with my daughter I would totally do the same thing!" Of course, I would much rather have gone trick or treating with MY daughter...

Good for you for saying something, even if it slipped.

SouthernBellaKS · January 2012

Thanks ladies. She's normally not the insensitive kind, so I don't know if her head was elsewhere or what. Poor DH. He could tell something was wrong when he picked me up. I'd picked him up for lunch and instead of my driving him all the way back home since we were over by the office, he just dropped me off and took the car. He kept asking me what was wrong and I just wouldn't talk. I'm feeling better now though.

CdnFarmGirl08 · January 2012

that's awful!

A lady on my flight home from Mexico last week told me too that I should be thankful I don't have kids....I was silent and turned away from her.

Hope you are doing better!

JellyTwoPointO · January 2012

Did you slap her?

You should have slapped her.

tashpede · January 2012

My BFF had a birthday party for her four year old and invited a girl we went to HS with. She was a few years younger than us, got pregnant and 17, baby daddy is no where in the picture... blah blah blah.

Well she asked me how I liked the married life, and I answered. This she asked me if we wanted kids and I just said "Yeah, we've been talking about it." (I didn't feel it was her business that we were TTC). And she spouts off with... "Well double think that, pregnancy is a b!tch and once the little brat pops out, you lose everything you thought was wonderful about life."

And it just spewed out... "Well, I would love to have a successful pregnancy first. I, unlike you, didn't get so lucky to pop a brat out and lose all that is wonderful about life. My baby died."

After I said it, she just started at me and said. "Oh.. my... um..." And I walked out of the room.

Some people just need to think before the speak. No matter if they know about a loss or not.

P.S.

I want to slap your friend for acting like that then laughing. GRRR!

LaTi07 · January 2012

(Hugs) was this on FB? I think a friend delete is in order.

SouthernBellaKS · January 2012

LaTi07:
(Hugs) was this on FB? I think a friend delete is in order.

No, this was a coworker.

foxxy1 · January 2012

If someone said that to me, I probably would've ripped them two or three new as$holes. My son's death has made me a LOT more open and honest.

bananers · January 2012

I can't even fathom why someone would think those were appropriate comments. I am so sorry you had to deal with this.

karencz · January 2012

Wow. The stupid. Good comebacks though, at least you were ready for whatever dumba$$ thing she said.

chop2428 · January 2012

I'm so sorry Hun, sometimes people really stink!

GHBEA · January 2012

Some people have no common sense. Sorry she was a idiot.

babyquestnortheast · January 2012

WHAT?!! I am so sorry. Seriously, what is wrong with people. So over people lately.

((HUGS))

lex382 · January 2012

Some people are just a$$holes

KGS2003 · January 2012

(((Hugs)))

Manderlin923 · January 2012

I seriously wonder why people do NOT think before they open their mouths. I'm sorry you had to listen to that.

sarahnz · January 2012

Jellybean902:
Did you slap her?
You should have slapped her.

All of this. I am so sorry you had to deal with that today.

butterfly843 · January 2012

I hate when I get comments like that. After our busy season at work I mentioned to a friend I was going to sleep in on my first day off and she told me I wouldn't be able to do that if I had kids.

StephRN23 · January 2012

Isn't it times like these you could give people flags like they do in football. After they say something so outrageous, hand them a flag and say penalty! And give them a fine. Sorry, trying to make you laugh. Hugs to you!

besoul · January 2012

Wow. I'm so sorry you had to hear that. (((HUGS)))

SouthernBellaKS · January 2012

StephRN23:
Isn't it times like these you could give people flags like they do in football. After they say something so outrageous, hand them a flag and say penalty! And give them a fine. Sorry, trying to make you laugh. Hugs to you!

That would be wonderful.

Carolee · January 2012

Some people just have no clue. (((HUGS))).

jenada2011 · January 2012

((hugs)) People are just so stupid sometimes!

PittPurple · January 2012

Wow. That's pretty unbelievable. (((hugs)))

mellies44 · January 2012

You responses were perfect! I know how difficult it can be when others do not think before they speak. It is hurtful and well things then sometimes end up slipping out of our mouths.. lol ..

I am sending you some hugs!!!!

jerryliljess · January 2012

((BIG HUGS)) to you, I'm so sorry that she said that.

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