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hlke
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what type of dessert says...
hlke
member
...would you be willing to give us some of your sperm to help us make a baby?
Our prospective known donor and his wife are coming over for dinner tonight and we're going to pop the question. I'm nervous and also not nervous. Not nervous because this is our first pursuit of any donor option, so we still have a lot of options available. Nervous, because frankly, it's a slightly tricky thing to ask of a person.
C and I talked this morning about how to approach it, and that we'll take a lot of our cues from them. This is a first conversation, not a negotiation of a final arrangement, so we're going to err on the side of fewer details. We printed out a copy of the Known Donor Health Questionnaire to give them to take with them. Basically we feel like a good approach is to say "if you wouldn't feel comfortable filling this out or divulging this stuff, it's probably not going to work." The Brill book talks about people finding out things about their known donors they never really wanted to know. I don't expect that, but we're treading carefully.
Anyway, just needed to offload all those thoughts. I am so excited at the prospect of him saying yes, and tempering my excitement with a healthy dose of reality that this is asking a lot.
The answer, by the way, is a french apple cake from Dorie Greenspan's Around my French Table.
Same sex couple TTC with donor sperm. I am 35 and carrying. Endometriosis and DOR.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
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Re: what type of dessert says...
SMORES only because of the marshmallow gooey stuff...
creme brule cuz its my fav and if i was a dude I would oblige if this was on the table.
let us now how it turns out,
i suppose my mind too this somewhere else.
-J
our Blog -http://dosbabies.wordpress.com/
Well, proabably the dessert won't make or break this discussion. "Well, if she would have made chocolate cake instead of angel food cake..." LOL.
Go with whatever your speciality is/what goes well with the meal and enjoy. Mmm...dessert.
Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
hlke I'm wishing you and C the best of luck tonight. Let us know how it goes!!!
J you crack me up...seriously!!!
Good luck and let us know how it goes!
I love that apple cake -- the one with the rum in it, right? It's one of my favorites. A good choice!
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Good luck! It sounds like you have the right attitude and are armed with good information.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
Good Luck!! I love the french apple cake idea.
Asking our KD was one of the most ummm - weird things I've done in a while. It was like a throw back to 8th grade dances/crushes. But it all ended well. I agree the type of person who works out in the end is able to converse (and even laugh) about the sticky details.
And since announcing my pregnancy to a few friends/co-workers I've had another potential D come up to me and offer to donate baby number two. LOL
now I feel like a dirty dirty pig .. and I want ice cream ! i guess I took it somewhere else. sorry!!!!!
TAPIOCA? eeew...
-J
our Blog -http://dosbabies.wordpress.com/