Wedding related question NBR

ChristineRich06 · January 2012

My older brother is getting married in September, this will be his second marrage. For his first wedding my father bought a suit to wear as he did not own one that fit. Since then he has had gastric bypass surgery and has lost 75 to 100 lbs. My father got laid off in October and is now getting unemployment, which as you may know is a fraction of what he was making while working. So here's my question. Does the father of the groom need to rent a tux? My brother seems to think so and doesn't see why my dad wouldn't jump at the chance to spend $125 on an outfit to wear for a couple of hours. I think he should use that money towards a new suit that he could use again. Let me know your thoughts on this please.

MrsDe2008 · January 2012

I think he should put if towards a suit...whether it was a 1st wedding or not. I don't think the father of the groom needs to rent a tux. I know my FIL didn't at our wedding and I could care less...and I think so could DH.

ChicagoBroad26 · January 2012

Normally I would say "yes", but given the situation, I think your brother should either offer to pick up the cost for the tux rental, or let your Dad wear whatever formal attire he can.

Kellina · January 2012

I don't think the Dads need tuxes. Groomsmen only, IMHO!

sroszc · January 2012

ChicagoBroad26:
Normally I would say "yes", but given the situation, I think your brother should either offer to pick up the cost for the tux rental, or let your Dad wear whatever formal attire he can.

This.

bosha711 · January 2012

Father of the Groom? Definitely does NOT need a tux. He's not a part of the bridal party.

alicb · January 2012

bosha711:
Father of the Groom? Definitely does NOT need a tux. He's not a part of the bridal party.

This. And I agree with pp, if it means so much to your brother he should pick up the tab for the rental.

stephy1221 · January 2012

sroszc:
ChicagoBroad26:
Normally I would say "yes", but given the situation, I think your brother should either offer to pick up the cost for the tux rental, or let your Dad wear whatever formal attire he can.
This.

Agreed

Strunella · January 2012

ChicagoBroad26:
Normally I would say "yes", but given the situation, I think your brother should either offer to pick up the cost for the tux rental, or let your Dad wear whatever formal attire he can.

I agree with this.

TBLilyRose · January 2012

alicb:
bosha711:
Father of the Groom? Definitely does NOT need a tux. He's not a part of the bridal party.
This. And I agree with pp, if it means so much to your brother he should pick up the tab for the rental.

Yep, all this! I'm trying to think and I don't really recall the Father of the Groom wearing a tux at any weddings I went to.

lulu8109 · January 2012

stephy1221:
sroszc:
ChicagoBroad26:
Normally I would say "yes", but given the situation, I think your brother should either offer to pick up the cost for the tux rental, or let your Dad wear whatever formal attire he can.
This.
Agreed

Yes

MamaPajama2010 · January 2012

I honestly think that it depends on the formality of the wedding (i.e. an afternoon wedding versus an evening wedding). That being said, with the circumstances you described, I agree with pp-- either the groom should pay for the tux rental or he should allow him to wear his own clothing.

klinky · January 2012

It usually depends on the formality of the wedding. Is it an evening wedding at a fancy hotel? Makes me think not if it's his 2nd wedding. Regardless, your dad is expected to look nice and dressed accordingly. I think as long as he looks nice and isn't wearing jeans he can almost wear whatever he wants.

If your brother really wants him to wear a tux, he should pay.

Also, sorry but as the sibling, I think it's your place to talk to your brother on your father's behalf. I hope things get better for your dad and he finds a new job soon.

lrn327 · January 2012

klinky:
It usually depends on the formality of the wedding. Is it an evening wedding at a fancy hotel? Makes me think not if it's his 2nd wedding. Regardless, your dad is expected to look nice and dressed accordingly. I think as long as he looks nice and isn't wearing jeans he can almost wear whatever he wants.

If your brother really wants him to wear a tux, he should pay.

Also, sorry but as the sibling, I think it's your place to talk to your brother on your father's behalf. I hope things get better for your dad and he finds a new job soon.

This exactly. It might be awkward for your dad to bring it up so think you might be better poised to do so. Also, congrats to your dad on losing all of the weight! Hope his job prospects pick up soon.

Mommysaurus123 · January 2012

If your dad is a groomsman, then yes. (DH's dad was best man in our wedding). But for just being a dad? No. Let him go to JCP and buy something on sale. He could buy a nice suit there for under $100 if he searches the sale racks.

[Deleted User] · January 2012

MamaPajama2010:
I honestly think that it depends on the formality of the wedding (i.e. an afternoon wedding versus an evening wedding). That being said, with the circumstances you described, I agree with pp-- either the groom should pay for the tux rental or he should allow him to wear his own clothing.

Ditto this. Unless it's a super swanky ordeal, just a nice suit should be fine. If it IS swanky & important to your brother, then he should offer to pay.

Just to throw this out there, it might not be your brother's opinion. I would suggest talking to his fiance, aka the one in charge of everything, and see where she's at on this topic. She might not care too much, but she might. And your brother might be passing on her sentiment in a less than stellar way. GL!

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