So... it seems as though the closer my EDD comes (Feb 21st) and the more cycles that pass with no BFP, I get more and more bitter.
Well, my DH suggested last night that I just be brutally honest to everyone aloud as to what I've been feeling. He thought it may help me if I just got it out in the open. So, I did. I wrote a blog about how I've been feeling and apologized to all of my friends and family that are experiencing healthy pregnancies or have recently had babies as I've been a mild jerk about it.
Well, as of last night, I felt great. I got a lot more support than I thought I would and it really comforted me... until about two minutes ago. I checked my blog and a mutual friend of DH and I simply comments saying... "Well, if you don't like that you're not preggo, then change it. It's just nature... not rocket science."
OMG! What an a$$!
Re: Some people are just jerks!
After 7 years of no ovulation...
BFP#1 10/24/11 ~ EDD 6/29/12 ~ Natural m/c 11/2/11
BFP#2 2/3/12 ~ Alice born 9/26/12
So sorry for your loss and that you're having a tough time with it. Your H's friend is totally an ASS! I also don't think you need to apologize for being a "mild jerk" toward pregnant people. We're entitled to hurt and everyone deals with pain differently.
((big hugs))
BFP #1 9/25/2011 | EDD 6/1/2012 | M/C 10/26/2011 at 8w6d
BFP #2 3/13/2012 | EDD 11/23/2012
9DPO hcg: 45; Prog: 41 | 14DPO hcg: 694 | 17DPO hcg: 2733 | 28DPO hcg: 53,006
First u/s 4/13 showed a beating heart! Second u/s 5/2 showed a HB of 163! Let's GROW, baby!
He's here! Kellen born 11/16/12 - 8 lbs 8 oz 22 inches long via scheduled c-section (breech baby, gestational diabetes mama)
Gross. That is one of the most insensitive, asinine comments I have ever seen regarding loss/trouble TTC. The fact that she used the term "preggo" just makes it that much worse. I would have a hard time remaining friends with a person who is A) that stupid and clearly clueless as to how to be supportive.
All of this. Ugh, so sorry OP.
My Blog: One Emerald
BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
Unfriend.
Twat. I'm so sorry you got that remark.
BFP#2 ~ 8/2/11, EDD 4/11/12, D&C 9/12/11 at 9w5d
BFP#3 ~ 4/15/12, EDD 12/21/12 ~ DD born 12/22/12
Married my love 6/11/11 | MMC 10/11/11 | Eliza Frances born 9/18/12 | Rhett Garland born 2/24/14
Yep. I am sorry, but remember you wrote the blog for you, not for them. Stupid people will, sadly, always be with us and are best ignored.
This. I'll never understand some people. At least you have other people in your life who are supportive. I would walk away from this "friendship" and would never look back. Hugs to you!
BFP #2 12-6-11 and 12-7-11; EDD 8-17-12. US 6w6d measuring 5w6d. Misoprostol Assisted m/c 1-16-12 at 9w3d.
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Wow. I'd respond with something like, "I don't like that you're an ignorant ass, can't nature change that?"
This
Couldn't have said it better myself
BFP#1 10/1/2011. Our perfect little girl, Her heart stopped @ 12w1d. D&E 11/23/11
BFP#2 3/13/12 Weird CP/Possible EP @ 6w0d
BFP#3 5/28/12 CP @ 5w0d
BFP/WTF#4 10/26/12 CP
BFP#5 12/10/12 EDD 8/23/2013
Baby Boy Born 8/22/13
How does someone like that get so far in life being so totally uninformed? Are you going to respond? ((hugs))
I'm glad you found support in a lot of other people and that you got it all out.
BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
After RPL testing my losses and subsequent infertility are considered unexplained.
Cycle #22: Femara, TI, and progesterone = BFP!!
BFP#3 Dec 21, 2012. Beta #1 @14dpo = 134, progesterone 67.8. Beta #2 @ 17dpo = 664! Team green, EDD 9/1/13, healthy baby boy born 9/12/13!
My chart.
Congratulations to the fabulous KGS2003! Her sweet boys are here! Grow boys grow!!!
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Wow. They obviously have no clue about the REALITY of getting pregnant. They are probably one of the ones that got pregnant on "accident" and had a perfect pregnancy. UGH!
BFP #1 9/1/11, EDD 5/15/12, Missed M/C at 9w4d, discovered at 11w3d, D&C 11/2/11
BFP #2 6/20/12, Baby Boy born 3/2/13
BFP #3 October 2016, EDD 6/11/17
That's my face...what a jerk! I hate stupid people. I'm sorry you had to hear that...
((HUGS))
Brava, as usual, Petra. OP, I'm really glad to hear you're not speaking to this douchebag again.
My Blog: One Emerald
BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
This and I'm so sorry!
I think you should tell that "friend" exactly how hurtful that comment was...not to mention how ignorant it was.
I'm sorry you got that feedback.
ETA: just finished reading all of the comments, and I am glad to hear that your hubby stuck up for you guys....you don't need friends like that a$$hat.
C'mon! DUH! You know just say, "Hey bod! Get pregnant!!"
That's terrible. I am sorry. Don't let one person discount all the other support you got though. Sending that person a big slap and you a big hug.
I'm with Ang. What a moronick a$$hole. But, yay you for blogging!
ETA: And yay for your DH! Way to take a stand.
TTC#1 starting Feb 2011, BFP #1:5/31/11, CP: 6/6/11; BFP #2: 7/9/11, loss confirmed 8/3 with D&C on 8/12 finding complete molar pregnancy. Forced break until Feb 2012. My blog
Good for your DH! What a huge douche!
Some people are just miserable and make themselves feel better by saying horrible things to others. I'm so sorry you had to read that comment on your blog.
BFP#2: 8/14/11 M/C 8/30/11 6w1d
BFP #3: 10/26/11
Beta #1 @11dpo: 22 Beta #2 @13dpo: 90 Beta #3 @17dpo: 480
Missed m/c 12w3d 12/28/11, d&c 12/30/11
dx Homozygous C677T MTHFR