OK, this is my first time creating a poll, so bear with me.
As a mom with young kids, what would be your ideal work situation? I'm weighing job options.
Option 1 would be a full time job with benefits and would include relocation. Summers off.
Option 2 would be a part time job that would revolve around the kids school schedule. I would work approx. 9-2 Monday-Thursday with Friday off for doing housework, errands, etc. Summers off. Option 2 would have no benefits and pay about 1/2 of the full time job. No relocation. The clincher with job 2 is that I would have to work for 1 to 1 and 1/2 years without pay while I was repaying a loan.
Re: Job options?
I voted ss. Would DH's finances be the same either way? Would option 2 mean that you'd be struggling financially? Also, do you enjoy more time with your kids, or do you feel your time with them is of higher quality when you've spent more time working out of the home? Is the place to which you'd be relocating a nice place, or are there people you know or opportunities to meet people?
Good luck!
ETA: That said, all things being equal, I'd go with the part time option.
SS here - how would it affect your DH's job? Would you still be struggling financially?
To me, it would be a lot of less stress if I was in a better financial position and that would make me a better mother.
Married and it feels so good!
Same thing here. If you could get benefits through DH's job, I'd rather cut back for a few years and spend more time with my kids. In fact, that's what we do now and I don't mind our paid-for-but-older vehicles.
At the same time, I would also want to be in the same town as DH. So, if the relocation would give you a more normal home life than what you guys have been living, I would choose the "together" option.
I chose job 1. The answer might different depending if you want to be a SAHM or not. I'm WOHM and I'm accustomed to working until 5 and the kids being in daycare/school and enjoy working outside the home.
I would think about what is your biggest stress right now? Which option is going to give you better quality time with your kids. If you are home at 2 with your kids but constantly worried about finances will that affect the type of mother and wife you are? Also, how important is the insurance? Job two is half the pay but also consider the additional expenses if your DH no longer has insurance.
If my DH's job would cover enough of the othere costs, and would prevent us from constantly being stressed about money, then I'd choose Option 2.
In my case, me working ful time was important for us to feel financially secure, so here I am working full time. If you need that income, then I'd choose Option 1. No matter how much my heart aches to spend more time with my kid(s), my family would not be happy if we were broke, and that would negate the extra time I have with them.
In any event, they both sound like good options, and that's awesome!! Go with what your heart wants to do, and what is going to be the most fullfilling for you!