A ? about your registry and DH/SO...

SheenaNash1 · January 2012

A comment on another thread made me think of this: Did you and your SO do your registry together? How much did he (or she) help with picking out products?

I ask because if you asked MY husband where we are registered or whats on it, he would have no clue. I just made the registry without him and he didn't have input on anything on there. If I were to ask him for help, he would just say he trusts my judgement. I'm just wondering if thats abnormal or not. I'm pretty Type A, so maybe I'm weird about controlling things like that!

waltzingmatilda13 · January 2012

We both worked on it together. We got the Baby Bargains book and researched everything together. I think we both just liked being completely informed about what we were putting on there, there's no way I would have done it on my own.

pink100 · January 2012

DH came with me to BRU to register for the whole "experience" and to pick out his "manly diaper bag"...but for the most part, I added 90% of the items on line when we got home. He helped pick the big items like strollers, PnP and swing but I did the rest.

jayleigh68 · January 2012

My husband thinks registries are stupid so I did them myself.

Ivana_Stolichnaya · January 2012

With my first, he wasn't involved, didn't really care that much. We went to the store a couple times to look at items in person but in the end I did everything online.

take5 · January 2012

Dragged my husband to the store but once he got there he went scanner gun crazy. So we did 2 together and one by myself since they were online only.

Wifey1012 · January 2012

My DH did not come. Actually he was not invited

lol. I went w/ my two experienced cousins. I did not want to walk around there aimlessly putting crap on my registry that I did not need. I ran the bedding by him, that was it. I think he was relieved I didn't ask him to go.

SheenaNash1 · January 2012

It sounds like most of you did yours in store, I did mine all online. So maybe that had something to do with it too!

murph317 · January 2012

I did our registries myself. BUT, one day we were out and about and happened to by near a BRU, so we stopped in and looked at some of the items on our registry (since I did it all online). So he knows most of the stuff that's on there.

CplusJ=S · January 2012

I researched everything thoroughly myself online and through the Baby Bargains book. I made a list of what I wanted and we went to BRU together so he could have the experience of registering. After all, he is more of a shopaholic than I am. I also wanted him to have some input on color and style of things. Registering together is one of the few ways I was able to involve him in my pregnancy.

countrygrl5533 · January 2012

I just did mine myself online. Same with our wedding registry (minus a few items). DH knows nothing about baby stuff. I will be staying home with baby and will have to deal with most things way more then he will. He really didn't care. If we had done an in-store one, he would have just walked around bored.

I have shown it to him a couple times but he really doesn't care.

paintme · January 2012

We did ours online too, at amazon. My husband was VERY involved but that is just the type of guy he is and relationship we have. If you husband didn't want to do the registry I see nothing wrong with doing it yourself. Each couple has their own thing.

psychgirl33 · January 2012

I'm just like you Sheena, MH would tell me to just do it if I asked him. I did an online one (Amazon) myself and showed him a few things on it, but he was just like "uh, huh..." I might ask him to come along when I go make my Target one in the store, but I'm guessing he'll just tell me to go do it. We'll see.

sfinchWed68665 · January 2012

DH and I went to BBB and did our registry together. Granted half way through the store he complained that his feet was hurting (and Im the pregnant one) lol we made it though to at least get the big stuff. He actually wondered off and was scanning stuff that he wanted to get which I thought was cute. I later went back with a girlfriend to finish it up but he has been very involved this whole pregnacy.

Dewey12 · January 2012

BF actually went with me. I was shocked. He enjoyed helping me choose the BIG items, but once we rounded that corner into The Wall of Binks and Nipples and saw the door, I lost him and his interest.

Still, I was happy with the interest he showed.

aeh72 · January 2012

DH was not involved in the registry at all. The only "registry" item he had any opinion on was the baby monitor and even for that, he said he would be fine with whatever I picked. However, he was the one who basically picked out the nursery furniture we ended up with (thankfully, he has good taste!), and he had strong opinions on the glider/recliner and decor (go figure!) for the nursery.

Zilly13 · January 2012

My DH helped. Before we registered, I purchased the Baby Bargains book and flagged the items I was most interested in. I also took DH to BRU to "look" and pointed out things we would need and got his input about what he didn't like or didn't want. I'm glad I did, because he was fiercely adament about getting a travel system for some reason. It was also helpful b/c he didn't understand why we would need more than 1 car seat or stroller.

After I worked through the kinks, I started my registries online (BRU and Amazon). I added the big ticket items we had agreed on, or items that were online only (like my Beco Gemini carrier). I shared the online registry a few times with him just in the event he didn't like something and explained why I selected certain items.

I printed off the "suggested items" list from BRU and BBB and marked off the items I had already registered for online, or wouldn't be including on our registry at all. We went to BRU on a Friday night to pick out the rest of the items together. He selected colors/styles for stuff like washclothes and blankets in most cases, and in others I just pointed and said "scan this." We were done the in-store part in 1.5 hours - it was great. Since then I've changed a few things, but doubt he'd care.

I wanted him to be involved since this is his child, too, and will be using the items for LO. Also, I didn't want to get into a discussion in the store about whether to add something to the registry and have it ruin the fun. It worked out great!

tash_rn · January 2012

Mine came with me to Babies R Us because he likes to use the scanny gun they give you, and I wanted his imput on big things we will both use like the stroller, but most of the stuff I did myself. I don't think he's even looked at our amazon registry.

Sara1373 · January 2012

Mar11th:
I did our registries myself. BUT, one day we were out and about and happened to by near a BRU, so we stopped in and looked at some of the items on our registry (since I did it all online). So he knows most of the stuff that's on there.

I did the same thing. My DH knows I research EVERYTHING thoroughly, so he trusts my judgement 100%. There were a few instances where I was stuck and we talked about certain items together, but all in all, it was me and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

kiarstin · January 2012

no we didn't he has no clue about babies or what they need, I had made the registry and like a month later he got all excited and was all " I just thought of something to put on the registry, we need one of those walkie talkie sets for babies so we know he is ok !!!!" I didn't have the heart to tell him I had baby monitors on registry. He has been very good at every time he goes to the store he puts money on a gift card, he is very proud of this and I let that be his thing.

raspberry_bride · January 2012

The day that I was able to go get it done was a day that DH had plans to meet up with one of his friends. I asked him if he wanted to come with me to do it another day and he said he trusted me. I went with my mom instead which was probably for the best, because I see DH getting bored really quickly if he had gone. When we did our wedding registry together he was super bored and I ended up coming back later to add stuff.

samcraig · January 2012

I'm a husband and we first started off by discussing the big items. Crib and Stroller. I did most of the research and then I started a spread sheet with a bunch of items that were either recommended or ones we knew we needed/wanted/preferred with links to where they could be bought, etc.

When it came time to actually register - I started one (on Amazon) and then we both went with another couple (friends who have a 1 year old daughter) and had fun at Buy Buy Baby.

Then my wife and I went home and added things to all of our registries so they'd be in sync/offer people the best prices for what we wanted. No sense is people over paying!

KatieMarie27 · January 2012

jayleigh68:
My husband thinks registries are stupid so I did them myself.

Same here. DH does not care about that stuff - he would just complain about me comparing product safety, cost, features, etc... And asking why the baby needs so many things. If I would ask his opinion on something, he just says, "I don't care" I did mine mainly on-line, but went to the store also to scan for smaller things like pacifiers and bibs since they tend to vary from what is listed on-line.

I actually asked my friend's husband for advice cuz he loves to research stuff and they had a baby last spring, so he knew which products were the best.

Loribelle73 · January 2012

With DS1 my DH came with me to do the registries, but all he did was complain. He didn't want to have to walk around the store for so long, and he griped about the prices on some of the things I registered for. I kept trying to tell him that just because it is on the registry doesn't mean we are 100% committed to buying it if someone else does it, but he just wanted to register for the cheapest type of everything. This time around I have been on bed rest a lot, so I just did the registering online by myself. I did ask for his opinion on the bedding set, but he didn't seem to care much.

MrsStephanieDunn · January 2012

We did research together about the major items(crib,stroller, playpen) and we went to two stores and registered together. We saw it as an opportunity to bond together jointly over the baby. If you asked him what we registered for he would tell you "ask Stephanie".

jrcr07 · January 2012

I took my mom along with me! :-) My DH doesn't really care one way or the other, he is letting me make all the decisions about the "stuff". The few times I"ve made comments about things he says "Whatever you think". I'm a type A personality too, so I just like to do it all myself

Mattel · January 2012

DH didn't help. He loved registering for our wedding, but I was totally ok with him not coming for baby registering. Actually, I had to go back to the store with my mom because I had no clue what I was doing and DH would have probably made it worse.

LilyPotter218 · January 2012

My mom, sister and I registered. I wanted them both there to tell me what I do and do not need. I ended up getting a lot of things used from my sister and needed her there to know what she was willing to part with.

DH has no clue. If it were up to him the kid would be dressed in a burlap sack with paper towels taped on for diapers.

ETA: He b*tched and complained SO much about all the "sh*t" on the registry, I finally dragged him to BBB so he could see how much crap there really is and all the gadgets I am NOT registered for. The big argument was the Bob. I wanted him to see it, how light it is, and be able to compare it to the cheaper alternatives. In the end, we kept the Bob

SheenaNash1 · January 2012

LilyPotter218:

My mom, sister and I registered. I wanted them both there to tell me what I do and do not need. I ended up getting a lot of things used from my sister and needed her there to know what she was willing to part with.

DH has no clue. If it were up to him the kid would be dressed in a burlap sack with paper towels taped on for diapers.

LOL, yeah same here. I feel like my husband, your husband and Psychgirls husband would all get along really well!

bigv44 · January 2012

pink100:
DH came with me to BRU to register for the whole "experience" and to pick out his "manly diaper bag"...but for the most part, I added 90% of the items on line when we got home. He helped pick the big items like strollers, PnP and swing but I did the rest.

Sounds like my DH... We got the Baby Bargains Book & my DH loves to research things & did research & help choose the big items like : crib, stroller, & PnP. But that is all I am getting from him!!

LOL

gothgrrl · January 2012

I'm pretty Type A, too. That being said, my DH has been very involved and initiated our first trip to BRU when we found out we were expecting. He was active in researching items, and no changes have been made to the registry without our mutual agreement. I am very proud of him for being so involved! Smile

caitlyn0216 · January 2012

I gave SO the scanner and Let him pick a few things in each section... He mostly followed me around and agreed with whatever I liked! He had more fun scanning than making decisions about what to put on it.

Abby7 · January 2012

DH might have come with me, but he was mega-tied up in a crazy 3-week grad school class when I wanted to do it, so I just did it myself. Honestly, I'm glad it happened that way, because he would probaby make it so much more complicated since I'd have to explain everything.

However, I did want his input on the nursery furniture since it's so expensive, so I had him come with me to BRU a couple of weeks ago and look at the cribs, gliders, and dressers.

LilyPotter218 · January 2012

SheenaNash1:
LilyPotter218:

My mom, sister and I registered. I wanted them both there to tell me what I do and do not need. I ended up getting a lot of things used from my sister and needed her there to know what she was willing to part with.

DH has no clue. If it were up to him the kid would be dressed in a burlap sack with paper towels taped on for diapers.

LOL, yeah same here. I feel like my husband, your husband and Psychgirls husband would all get along really well!

We are not taking a birthing class, but I am tempted to send him to a first time dad class. It is boys only so I figure they might be more open to ask the stupid questions that must be piling up.

It amazes me how intelligent he is, but does not understand why on earth I would want a diaper pail.

HalloweenWife · January 2012

We went to BRU to look at furniture and ended up registering the same day. DH didn't care about the small stuff I registered for but stood in the bottle aisle FOREVER reading over every detail on the packages. Then he had to "test drive" all of the strollers and if he didn't like the way the model on the floor was working, it was thrown out of the running. He was the one that decided on the stroller and car seat travel system. He also looked at every high chair and PNP to see what they offered, too.

A lot of the other stuff I added online when we got home. I think I'm a little obsessed with the registries because I can't stop adding stuff to the two we have!

SheenaNash1 · January 2012

LilyPotter218:
SheenaNash1:
LilyPotter218:

My mom, sister and I registered. I wanted them both there to tell me what I do and do not need. I ended up getting a lot of things used from my sister and needed her there to know what she was willing to part with.

DH has no clue. If it were up to him the kid would be dressed in a burlap sack with paper towels taped on for diapers.

LOL, yeah same here. I feel like my husband, your husband and Psychgirls husband would all get along really well!

We are not taking a birthing class, but I am tempted to send him to a first time dad class. It is boys only so I figure they might be more open to ask the stupid questions that must be piling up.

It amazes me how intelligent he is, but does not understand why on earth I would want a diaper pail.

Well if you figure out how to get your husband to one, let me know! I approached the idea of a dad class to mine and he said "why do I need to take a class on something I know I will be awesome at?" Umm..yeah, ok hon! And when I tell him the newborn care/breastfeeding class I want us to take is 85$ he is going to flip out...

lulling · January 2012

We did our together. Since I am expecting that he use these items at least 50 percent of the time I figured he should have some say in what we pick out. We had fun, actually. We both just kept laughing at how clueless we were.

bingham101 · January 2012

MH doesnt do any of the research or any of that stuff but he sure loves to have the gun and go around the store clicking on cool stuff. Lol. But in all seriousness we did about half of it together, and we decided on the crib nursery theme together. He likes to feel included and it was a fun thing to do together.

McGibbon51311 · January 2012

My DH fought me for the little scanner thing. Sure, he needed to ask about one brand/model over another for certain items or why I was so sure that I wanted a specific item but he had fun. It taught him a lot about the things that we're going to be using to take care of the boys.

McGibbon51311 · January 2012

LilyPotter218:
It amazes me how intelligent he is, but does not understand why on earth I would want a diaper pail.

Hahaha I can completely relate to this.

Alliebooberz · January 2012

I did our whole registry. He knows where but no idea about what specifically... especially our cloth diaper registry, he knows ZERO about it. I guess he doesn't really need to, since I did all the research and stuff. He's got his own stuff to worry about.

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